My suggestion is to get the machine that will make you happy. People have different preferences and priorities, and thus make different choices.
I will share my experience switching from a traditional TL washer to a HE FL washer.
I had a GE Filter-Flo TL washer that I enjoyed using. My clothes were clean, and I liked the washing machine. When it needed to be replaced, I got a FL washer. Despite reading about how little water FL washers used, I was immediately worried during the machine's maiden wash because I could not believe so little water could wash and rinse the clothes effectively. But the results have been great, so I have learned that you don't need a tub full of water and an agitator to get clothes clean.
Benefits of the having a FL washer for me were that I could eliminate my ritual of pretreating stains and soaking heavily soiled items. I can just use the appropriate cycle on my FL machine and a decent detergent and everything comes out stain free and clean. I like that I can sanitize and clean very heavy soiled clothes in 156F water without having to fuss with my house water heater; the washer heats just the water in the drum! Different stains can be cleaned in the same load, since it can start the wash cycle at a cooler temp, and then heat it up so there is no worry of setting a stain that requires cooler water.
I went from an average of 7-6Ccf of water use per month to an average of 3-4Ccf. I used less detergent, bleach, and softener. The longer wash time also comes with shorter dry times since items come out less damp. There is much less lint in the dryer lint filter, no lint on clothing, and clothes look new longer since the tumbling is more gentle on fibers than the agitator in a full tub of water. You can tell when someone has washed a cheap sweatshirt in an over-packed TL washer - it is covered with little pills. I can pack my FL washer's drum full, and everything comes out clean. I didn't overfill my TL machine, but it still was rougher on clothes than a FL washer.
I like that my FL washer will adjust each cycle based on the properties of the load. Small loads finish faster than larger loads with all else being equal. Absorbent items like towels get a different final spin routine than a load of lightweight clothes. A decent sized load takes 45-50 minutes, so it is not like it takes a super long time for a normal load. I can also run it through shorter/longer cycles if I would like.
I have had my FL washer for over 13 years. I replaced the belt and drain pump myself, each taking just a couple of minutes - it took more time to remove and replace the appropriate panel of the washer than to actually replace the parts. I should mention I am NOT mechanically inclined, and have never even attempted any type of appliance repair. The original drain pump was a known bad design on my machine, but the redesigned pump has not been a problem.
In summary, when it comes time to replace my machine, I will again go with a HE FL washer. I love how well it cleans, the savings and flexibility it offers.
If you could try some FL washers at friend's or family's houses, you could then better judge if you would like them and what brand you prefered. When my friend stayed with me and had her stained kids clothes to clean, I told her to not pretreat the stains and just use the stain treat option and see what happens. She was so impressed, soon after she returned home she replaced her TL washer with a FL washer.