The way I'd deal with that is, get a washer with a 200-degree sanitize cycle, or one that will handle incoming hot water at 200 degrees; and then if it's not equipped with an internal heater, put an inline heater in the hot water line to raise it to 200 degrees. Profile wash if possible, up to sanitize temps, and adding bleach at the last 5 minutes of the wash cycle. First rinse at hot, second at warm, done. Chances are I'd use a Staber for this since it's a TL horizontal axis, stainless steel interior.
Then, when my SO walked through the door, he'd strip down in a hall (preferably an "airlock" between an outside door and an inside door!), put the hospital clothes into a tightly-woven cloth bag, put on a towel, go to the WC, put the towel into another similar laundry bag; then shower, use different towel to dry off, put on house clothes, and done.
Then one of us would put on rubber gloves, dump the contents of both sacks into the hatch on the washer, and toss the sacks themselves in after. Set the controls for hotter than hell, press the button, toss the rubber gloves into a pail of bleach water, and sit down to dinner. "How was your day dear?"
Note, the reasons for using a Staber are: Low water consumption like a FL (particularly important when using hot-as-hell water), but can be loaded from the top by gravity (dumping the load in) rather than having to stuff everything through a porthole up close. And the stainless steel tubs should be able to handle the water at 200 degrees without trouble.
BTW, the same protocol as per above can be used in the event of an avian flu pandemic. In that case, everyone gets to do it every time they come in from being out in places where other humans are hanging out.
Someone should compile a list of washers that can handle incoming water at 200 degrees, that would be a useful resource. If your machine isn't rated for that kind of temperatures, you'd use plenty of chlorine bleach instead.