nickuk
Well-known member
Dear friends,
So what's the psychology behind all this?
I am having one of those `soul searching' moments in my life, and I find myself wondering what it was that lead me to liking washers. Yeah, I like other appliances too - but automatic washing machines are my `thing'.
Background.. I was born in West Sussex, UK, in 1975 where I lived with my parents until 1995. I then moved into a flat, and from there quickly onto London with my first long term girlfriend.
Enough of the background and cut to the point.....
I wonder....could my fascination with washers be a result of something that happened in my childhood? If so, I don't remember what and my parents have never really spoken to me about it. They just say it's what I loved since I was two and they never knew why. I have liked washers since I could walk.
My parents were never all that supportive of my `hobby' and would mock me, during adolescence my mother often enquired as to whether I was `gay'...... and when I was at friends houses with my parents they told them of my hobby in a humorous way and they all ended up laughing at me. At home, whenever the washer was on, I wanted to stay with it and watch the cycle from start to finish but my parents either prevented me, or were so critical of it that I would just skulk back up to my room, sad. Our washing machine was in an outhouse attached to the rear of the hallway in our house. I used to leave the connecting door open as I studied / used the washer, and my father would always shout `shut that bloody door it's cold and I can't stand the noise...' I didn't really care about sitting in the cold but moreover I didn't much care for his attitude.
As a child of maybe 8 or 9, some friends of ours were chucking out an AEG Lavamat from the early seventies (bearing failure) and offered it to us (to me) to have in the garden to play with. I got what I wanted in the end, but it is fondly remembered as the first time I had a tantrum because my father didn't initially want it at the back of our large garden.
Just this weekend my parents visited and I had left the old machine I had just restored in the kitchen. My mother displayed a total lack of undestanding as to why I would want an `old' washer when the one I have works perfectly well...she even tried to make derisory `he's barking mad' eye contact with my wife who was having none of it.....
During a car journey this weekend my wife was asking me why I have this unusual interest and it just got me thinking. In short, she was suggesting that it maybe due to a lack of parental understanding and perhaps too much parental criticism which led me to bond with a form of machinery as opposed to human beings, perhaps because it was something in the house I could master, understand and be the `king' of - ie no matter what they said to me, I always knew that I would know more than them about washers.
Even now at age 31 I feel like a little bit of a freak for wanting to order old washers off ebay, and like I have something to aplogise for / be ashamed of. I almost feel like a child all over again, and I have to tell myself `I am an adult with my own wife, kid, home, job, mortgage, car (roughly in that order)...and I can do what the hell I like so long as I'm not hurting or being cruel to anyone'!
Excuse the long monologue, I just wondered if anyone else has been where I am right now, soul searching. I would also like to ask what other interests people on this site have, maybe there are other common links between us. I noticed an automotive thread recently put up in this `super' section, well, that's another of my `interests'. I also like putting compilation CDs together whereby I `mix' the songs together using a DJ package on the computer. I'm interested in TV and radio broadcast systems / antennas, regional networks etc. I am a very house proud and garden proud person and I like nothing more than waking early in the morning, looking after my son, house and garden...putting some washes on and getting them hanging out in the breeze early on. I am a shopoholic and I love buying stuff - I'm not great with money....
I love most music - mainly 70s - 90s power ballad type stuff. I'm not a very keen TV watcher, I don't much care for sitting around, but I like old movies, same period as the music. Fave music? Chicago / Peter Cetera. Fave movie? There are so many...Jack and Sarah....Dirty Dancing....Pretty in Pink...The Breakfast Club.....St Elmo's Fire.....Tootsie....Ghost.....Pretty Woman.....Top Gun....you get the idea.
My career is Secondary (High) School Teacher. At work I am deputy head of a year group,and well liked by students who come to me with their issues and want to be in my class. My lessons are extremely organised and I always support those students having difficulties. I am never sarcastic to pupils and always treat them with respect no matter how `difficult' they are. On the other hand, I am not massively popular with colleagues. What I mean is, I am not very social with them. I don't often just go and sit with them, I'd rather be busy somehow, or possibly helping a student...I guess it can make me look a little `aloof' to them. I get on with people fine but I don't have masses of close friends, I think perhaps I have issues with getting really close to people. I was the same as a child - I never had tons of friends and I wasn't ever friends with the `popular' kids, I usually just had one or two special friends, several of who I keep up with.
I'm just trying to paint a big picture of `me'.
Anyway, enough already.
As Paul Simon said on his fantastic `Hearts and Bones' album, `Maybe I think too much'.
Kind regards,
NickUK
So what's the psychology behind all this?
I am having one of those `soul searching' moments in my life, and I find myself wondering what it was that lead me to liking washers. Yeah, I like other appliances too - but automatic washing machines are my `thing'.
Background.. I was born in West Sussex, UK, in 1975 where I lived with my parents until 1995. I then moved into a flat, and from there quickly onto London with my first long term girlfriend.
Enough of the background and cut to the point.....
I wonder....could my fascination with washers be a result of something that happened in my childhood? If so, I don't remember what and my parents have never really spoken to me about it. They just say it's what I loved since I was two and they never knew why. I have liked washers since I could walk.
My parents were never all that supportive of my `hobby' and would mock me, during adolescence my mother often enquired as to whether I was `gay'...... and when I was at friends houses with my parents they told them of my hobby in a humorous way and they all ended up laughing at me. At home, whenever the washer was on, I wanted to stay with it and watch the cycle from start to finish but my parents either prevented me, or were so critical of it that I would just skulk back up to my room, sad. Our washing machine was in an outhouse attached to the rear of the hallway in our house. I used to leave the connecting door open as I studied / used the washer, and my father would always shout `shut that bloody door it's cold and I can't stand the noise...' I didn't really care about sitting in the cold but moreover I didn't much care for his attitude.
As a child of maybe 8 or 9, some friends of ours were chucking out an AEG Lavamat from the early seventies (bearing failure) and offered it to us (to me) to have in the garden to play with. I got what I wanted in the end, but it is fondly remembered as the first time I had a tantrum because my father didn't initially want it at the back of our large garden.
Just this weekend my parents visited and I had left the old machine I had just restored in the kitchen. My mother displayed a total lack of undestanding as to why I would want an `old' washer when the one I have works perfectly well...she even tried to make derisory `he's barking mad' eye contact with my wife who was having none of it.....
During a car journey this weekend my wife was asking me why I have this unusual interest and it just got me thinking. In short, she was suggesting that it maybe due to a lack of parental understanding and perhaps too much parental criticism which led me to bond with a form of machinery as opposed to human beings, perhaps because it was something in the house I could master, understand and be the `king' of - ie no matter what they said to me, I always knew that I would know more than them about washers.
Even now at age 31 I feel like a little bit of a freak for wanting to order old washers off ebay, and like I have something to aplogise for / be ashamed of. I almost feel like a child all over again, and I have to tell myself `I am an adult with my own wife, kid, home, job, mortgage, car (roughly in that order)...and I can do what the hell I like so long as I'm not hurting or being cruel to anyone'!
Excuse the long monologue, I just wondered if anyone else has been where I am right now, soul searching. I would also like to ask what other interests people on this site have, maybe there are other common links between us. I noticed an automotive thread recently put up in this `super' section, well, that's another of my `interests'. I also like putting compilation CDs together whereby I `mix' the songs together using a DJ package on the computer. I'm interested in TV and radio broadcast systems / antennas, regional networks etc. I am a very house proud and garden proud person and I like nothing more than waking early in the morning, looking after my son, house and garden...putting some washes on and getting them hanging out in the breeze early on. I am a shopoholic and I love buying stuff - I'm not great with money....
I love most music - mainly 70s - 90s power ballad type stuff. I'm not a very keen TV watcher, I don't much care for sitting around, but I like old movies, same period as the music. Fave music? Chicago / Peter Cetera. Fave movie? There are so many...Jack and Sarah....Dirty Dancing....Pretty in Pink...The Breakfast Club.....St Elmo's Fire.....Tootsie....Ghost.....Pretty Woman.....Top Gun....you get the idea.
My career is Secondary (High) School Teacher. At work I am deputy head of a year group,and well liked by students who come to me with their issues and want to be in my class. My lessons are extremely organised and I always support those students having difficulties. I am never sarcastic to pupils and always treat them with respect no matter how `difficult' they are. On the other hand, I am not massively popular with colleagues. What I mean is, I am not very social with them. I don't often just go and sit with them, I'd rather be busy somehow, or possibly helping a student...I guess it can make me look a little `aloof' to them. I get on with people fine but I don't have masses of close friends, I think perhaps I have issues with getting really close to people. I was the same as a child - I never had tons of friends and I wasn't ever friends with the `popular' kids, I usually just had one or two special friends, several of who I keep up with.
I'm just trying to paint a big picture of `me'.
Anyway, enough already.
As Paul Simon said on his fantastic `Hearts and Bones' album, `Maybe I think too much'.
Kind regards,
NickUK