The west
The last time I lived in the US was in San Francisco, just as the AIDs epidemic was really beginning to make itself felt.
The last 23 years have been pretty much spent in Munich, Germany.
Here we still have to fight, despite marriage (für die genauen, Partnerschaft) and anti-discrimination laws.
But the whole violence/hatred stuff which goes on in the US just doesn't exist here.
I suspect that is one reason folks like us tend to congregate in certain cities - there the people are more of the "live and let live" mindset.
No idea why NYC is not listed. A great place to live, but I wouldn't want to visit there.
A more interesting question for me, seeing as how I will soon be moving back to one of the "reddest" areas of the US...how do those of us who are conservative (and after the posts in the forums in the last few weeks, that is quite a few) manage the dissonance between being gay/lesbian and conservative, even Christian?