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Never fear, Silicon Valley is full of geeks who weren't much on sports and can't do "small talk" but have been building our future for decades.

For me the pattern with sports was, I could never get the hang of "ball in the air" sports, but I was decently good at "ball on the ground" sports (e.g. soccer) and also enjoyed swimming (including some team competitions where I was decent but not great). Many years later I figured out why. Mild dyslexia.

The stereotype of dyslexia is that it affects reading, however that's not always the case (and in elementary school I was reading at graduate-school level). In my case it was trouble with math, and I only figured it out after college when volunteering to make "get out the vote" phone calls. Consistent pattern was digit inversion: 555-2368 would become 555-2638. Once in about every five to ten phone numbers.

I started experimenting with this and discovered it also affected my perception of objects moving toward me through the air (i.e. without a comparative reference to the ground, where normal perspective could operate): in other words, it screwed up my ability to play baseball, football, etc. The visual effect is something like what happens when you stare at one of those optical illusions that can either be a tunnel sticking out of a page, or a tunnel going into a page, and it seems to flip back and forth between the two. But when the object is moving on the ground, normal visual perspective has something to connect with, and there isn't a problem.

The difference between not-knowing about this, and knowing about it, was the ability to deliberately compensate for it: which made the difference between a D- in undergraduate social science statistics, and an A- in graduate social science statistics.

(Interestingly enough, I could barely get algebra in highschool but did OK in geometry; also was smoking marijuana during the year I took geometry. Now the current research shows that marijuana can help minimize the effects of dyslexia, because it reduces the secondary signal-paths of dyslexia sufficiently that they do not interfere with the primary perceptual signal paths. Also seems to help the manic phase of bipolar disorder, as I've seen with a couple of close friends. However, too much pot can make you stupid, so check with your doctor before deciding whether to try this.)

And the point of this story is, don't assume your perceptual systems operate in the same way as everyone else's, and don't assume they're operating normally 100% of the time. There may be glitches in the wiring that only show up occasionally, but often enough to create errors that have secondary effects such as a sense of inability that becomes a source of anxiety. Minor disabilities are not the same thing as inability; you can study what's going on and learn how to compensate, and then start undoing the emotional & personality baggage that might have accumulated along the way.
 
Hey John, welcome to the site!!! You've already been introduced by Venus (retromom) and Veg, but as they've said this is a great community full of friendliness and warmth, and especially on the Super board there's always something to make you laugh :-). So, again, welcome aboard!!

Hey Austin,

I've found the same in the way that as I've got older I've got more confidence and not become as shy. I've also become a lot less sensitive (mainly after everything with my first boyfriend) to the point where most of the time I just couldn't care less what people think of me. But yeah, I used to be shy of even walking into a shop and asking for something, and in the playground at primary school I found the best company I had at times was myself, and if I was hanging around with someone then it would be with girls. I gained a bit more confidence when I moved up to secondary (high) school when I was 11, but was still fairly shy, especially at the concept of making new friends. But now I find myself really open with people - and hell, a couple weeks ago I had 15 people staying over for my 17th, all of which I can call my friends, and hosted and put it all together myself. 2 years ago all I did for my birthday was take a couple friends out bowling.

I have always been "in the closet" about my appliance interest until fairly recently (within the past couple of years). I always used to be very embarassed about it, simply because it was different. A main cause of this I think was because a lot of my family used to like making fun of me by bringing up stories about how I would sit in front of everyone's washer if it was on and so on... but a couple years ago I retaliated and basically told them to shut up, and that they didn't understand - and since then I didn't get any crap from my family. That gave me the confidence to be more open about it with my friends, and now they just come to accept the fact that I like laundry and appliances. In fact, they don't even bat an eyelid to me having a washer and dryer in my bedroom :-).

My interest in sports kinda shows in how much belly I have, LOL. I like cycling (mainly cos I like exploring the local beautiful countryside around where I live), and swimming too, but other than that I'm not interested. Although I'm hoping to join a gym soon, and I've heard that they are quite good fun, so I'm looking forward to that :-).

Just lately as far as fashions go I have smartened up, but this time last year I would chuck on any old thing from the wardrobe, whether they co-ordinated or not. Of course with a little help from some of my girlfriends that soon got sorted out - but the mean thing I found is that because I have "fashion sense" that now people accept me more, which I think is a very stereotypical thing. But hey, as long as I look good ;-).

Hey Designgeek,

I actually think I may be dyslexic in the form of numbers. I am great at reading, great at logical things such as how and why things work; but when it comes to doing maths equations the numbers just seem to "jump" all around the page. I seem to knwo it all in my head, but when it comes to putting it down on the page, I just can't get it out. Hmmm...

Take care all, and big hugs to everyone!

Jon
 
Hey John, welcome to the site!!! You've already been introduced by Venus (retromom) and Veg, but as they've said this is a great community full of friendliness and warmth, and especially on the Super board there's always something to make you laugh :-). So, again, welcome aboard!!

Hey Austin,

I've found the same in the way that as I've got older I've got more confidence and not become as shy. I've also become a lot less sensitive (mainly after everything with my first boyfriend) to the point where most of the time I just couldn't care less what people think of me. But yeah, I used to be shy of even walking into a shop and asking for something, and in the playground at primary school I found the best company I had at times was myself, and if I was hanging around with someone then it would be with girls. I gained a bit more confidence when I moved up to secondary (high) school when I was 11, but was still fairly shy, especially at the concept of making new friends. But now I find myself really open with people - and hell, a couple weeks ago I had 15 people staying over for my 17th, all of which I can call my friends, and hosted and put it all together myself. 2 years ago all I did for my birthday was take a couple friends out bowling.

I have always been "in the closet" about my appliance interest until fairly recently (within the past couple of years). I always used to be very embarassed about it, simply because it was different. A main cause of this I think was because a lot of my family used to like making fun of me by bringing up stories about how I would sit in front of everyone's washer if it was on and so on... but a couple years ago I retaliated and basically told them to shut up, and that they didn't understand - and since then I didn't get any crap from my family. That gave me the confidence to be more open about it with my friends, and now they just come to accept the fact that I like laundry and appliances. In fact, they don't even bat an eyelid to me having a washer and dryer in my bedroom :-).

My interest in sports kinda shows in how much belly I have, LOL. I like cycling (mainly cos I like exploring the local beautiful countryside around where I live), and swimming too, but other than that I'm not interested. Although I'm hoping to join a gym soon, and I've heard that they are quite good fun, so I'm looking forward to that :-).

Just lately as far as fashions go I have smartened up, but this time last year I would chuck on any old thing from the wardrobe, whether they co-ordinated or not. Of course with a little help from some of my girlfriends that soon got sorted out - but the mean thing I found is that because I have "fashion sense" that now people accept me more, which I think is a very stereotypical thing. But hey, as long as I look good ;-).

Hey Designgeek,

I actually think I may be dyslexic in the form of numbers. I am great at reading, great at logical things such as how and why things work; but when it comes to doing maths equations the numbers just seem to "jump" all around the page. I seem to knwo it all in my head, but when it comes to putting it down on the page, I just can't get it out. Hmmm...

Take care all, and big hugs to everyone!

Jon
 
"I like cycling..."

That was something I liked to do too, I rode my "cruiser" bike 2.5 miles to the library and back every weekend (or more often). I guess I just stopped doing that when my bike broke and I got my own vehicle...LOL

Now don't get me wrong, in 3rd grade in the private school, I had many friends, both boys and girls, mainly because I had been there since Kindergarten and knew everybody. I think the move had an effect on my "shyness", although I did make friends pretty quickly (for me, that is) in 4th grade. 7th-8th grade was really fun; High school really branched everyone off into different degrees of popularity starting this year...kind of ridiculous IMHO.

And anybody who makes fun of my interest that knows about it I tell to shut up. Very few people really do, though, chances are, we usually just lightly "rib" each other on our different "weird" hobbies...I'm not the only one that's interested in something strange...
 
Hi all -

Jon,

There's that old saying "What doesn't kill you just makes you stronger", and I've always found this to be true when things get tough. When the situation can't get any worse, that means the only way is up. You just have to ride it out for a while, but things always get better in the end.

The past couple of years have been dreadful for me too. After being out of work for almost a year, which meant I had to give up my lovely flat and move back into my parents' spare bedroom, I got myself a dream job only to find out that the boss had taken an instant dislike to me for reasons I'll never know. After ten months of harassment and bullying, I gave them what they wanted... I went on my lunch break one day and didn't bother returning that afternoon. Walking out of that place I was fully aware that I was putting myself in a very bad financial situation, and taking myself back to square one yet again, but even so I knew it was the right thing to do. That job was making me ill, and had I not quit, I know for a fact that I would be in the loony bin by now.

Several months on, I now have a job that I enjoy, working with the most fantastic bunch of people you could ever wish to meet. The money is OK and the hours leave a lot to be desired, but I'm getting myself back on my feet again and restoring my feelings of confidence and self worth. In a few years I'll either emigrate to Australia or stay here and set up my own business, and it's these long term goals that give you a light at the end of the tunnel to aim for.

And yes, it's amazing how therapeutic a good laundry session can be! The rhythmic sounds of the washer and dryer, the smell of freshly washed clothes and the anticipation of trying a new detergent for the first time. Even some of my non appliance-enthusiast friends remark on how satisfying the entire process is, so perhaps it's not surprising that so many of us find laundry to be the ideal pick-me-up after a bad day.

Regarding friendships, I've always been the sort of person who has a few close chums, rather than an army of friends who constantly come and go. Maybe this is because I can be somewhat abrasive at times, not to mention brutally honest. Few people can take to this side of me, but those who can are also aware of my laid-back side, and are the people I refer to as my true friends. Quality rather than quantity is my motto, as with so many things in life.

As for fashion, well I enjoy the feeling of being nicely turned out, but am no slave to current trends. To be honest I don't really give a toot cahoot what's "in" this season, I like what I like and that's that. The clothes I buy are ones I feel comfortable wearing, but if others like them I suppose that's an added bonus. Nobody has anything good to say about my haircut (I shave it all off) but that's their problem, not mine.

When it comes to hobbies I don't even bother telling people about my interest in appliances, they wouldn't understand and I don't think I could be bothered with having to justify it. My other main interest lies with my favourite band, and collecting anything related. Truly an obsession, but I think it's healthy to have at least one thing in life that you're absolutely crazy about LOL.

Well I've probably gone on far too long here, so I'll stop now. Great topic, and I've thoroughly enjoyed reading everyone's viewpoints :o).

Cheers,

Kirk
 
Jon, re. dyslexia: A good test is to copy a bunch of telephone numbers out of the "white pages" and then have someone check to see if you're getting digits reversed. At least that's what caught it for me, dialing those wrong numbers and seeing the pattern.

Re. "weird." Hey highschool kids, here's something you can try: "Okay, I know I'm weird. I guess I should try doing something that's more popular. Like maybe drinking or using drugs. I wonder if I can get some older guy to get me a six-pack at the liquor store. Or a bag of dope. What'll it be, pot or pills? Maybe some speed, that'll help get me over the shyness factor too! What's a few lost brain cells anyway, compared to not being weird any more!"

If the above doesn't make your critics sit up and think, you can always try "unplanned pregnancy"! Caution: do not try joking about firearms or acts of criminal violence or terrorism; that kind of stuff can get you a lengthy visit from the police, and they won't be laughing.

Re. relaxing: And also, reinforcement by association. You do something, find it relaxing, and then it becomes associated with relaxation. So the next time, anticipating the sense of relaxation tends to bring it about, so now you have two things going on: the relaxation of the activity itself, and the relaxation by association with previous times. This is a factor in common with most hobbies. And also with most mood-states and their associated stimuli: for example things/people/activities that you find to be friendly, sexy, exciting, inspiring, invigorating, scary, depressing, sleep-inducing, etc. etc. Very often you can induce the mood by just thinking vividly about the activity.

One of the ones that I've noticed in my own life: smoking a pipe. It brings about a sense of relaxed thoughtfulness that has little to do with nicotine consumption (pipe smokers don't inhale, and I never smoked cigarettes) and much to do with the overall ritual and the engagement of the senses of taste, smell, and touch (i.e. senses that are associated with relaxation and not with the kind of analytical and "convergent" thinking that is required in work). (Hypothesis: someone whose work involves analytic use of the senses of taste and smell, for instance in the food or beverage industries, would find relaxation in activities that are primarily visual or auditory. Hmm...)
 
Kenmore: Surgeon General 1964, only report to break out pipe- and cigar- smokers as separate populations from cigarette smokers. Result: Pipe smokers live slightly *longer* than nonsmokers. The added lifespan is statistically insignificant, something like a month or a little more; but at least it proves we're not dropping dead early.

As with alcohol consumption, certain things that are unhealthy in excess may turn out to be good for you in moderation. Stress is a causal factor in most forms of chronic and life-threatening illness today, so anything that reduces stress, if not done in excess, is probably going to reduce overall health risks.

Unfortunately the dominant form of tobacco usage in recent history has also been the most damaging, and the most obnoxious to bystanders. But that shouldn't be cause for a blanket anti-tobacco attitude, any more than the antics of Ronald McDonald should be cause for a blanket anti-meat attitude.
 
anti-tobacco

I'm not really "anti-tobacco" in the usual sense, just pointing out that there's a downside to any use, no free lunch. Actually, I think it's a choice, and that the tobacco companies shouldn't be made to pay for sonething that was a free choice by the user. And thrusting the anti-smoking thing down people's throats just breeds resentment. The practice has gone WAY down since I was a kid, if only on the basis that it's just become "socially unacceptable" It's never going to be totally stamped out, and probably shouldn't be.

and, I actually like the smell of a pipe. The ONLY tobacco smell I can deal with.
 
Exactly. Nothing is risk-free, one just chooses one's risks.

Many nonsmokers say that pipe smoke is the only tobacco smoke that either doesn't bother them or that they find pleasant. Including myself before I started smoking a pipe. And very often it's "that reminds me of (someone they like, a family member or friend)."

IMHO it's another one of those oldschool things that ought to make a comeback. Tends to go along with a slower pace of life too. The usual "entry barriers" are that good pipes aren't cheap, there is a huge range of tobacco for every taste, and there are a few minor things to learn (packing the bowl, getting it lit, keeping it lit, etc.), but one can always buy a corn-cob ($5) and a pouch of Captain Black (most popular blend) just to check it out.

Cigarette smokers have to retrain themselves to not inhale, but after a while they get the hang of it and often switch entirely, and quit the cigarettes in favor of the pipe. (And then you can go spend $50 on a good briar, or two or three...!:-)
 
The JasonL story

OK, I've been reading this thread for a while and I'm gonna speak up now.

I was born with a rare disease called Moebius Syndrome. It affects the nerves and muscles in my face are paralyzed. That means I cannot smile or make any facial expressions. Why did God pick me for this? I don't know. Anyway, I was teased, laughed at, and made fun of at school. I had a very low self-esteem about myself. I was afraid of almost everybody except my family. I didn't have a girlfriend in high school. Didn't go to the proms. In fact, I didn't do anything social. I had very few friends, consisting of a few of the other outcasts. I was a computer nerd but even the OTHER NERDS wouldn't accept me. This has affected my life tremendously and it's still affecting me. I have very little confidence in what I do. I don't handle confrontations well. I don't do well working with the public. I have gotten better at being social, not much.

Anyway, the few things that kept my sanity was my faith in Christ, music and appliances. I was one of the chosen to grow up with a vintage Kenmore. Wash day was very special to me. I'd stay there and watch every load go into that washer. The sight, sounds and smells were very calming to me.

In my 20s, things were no better. I was depressed, couldn't get a date to save my life, and the few women I met on the internet would immediately drop me when I told them about my imperfection. There was ONE girl who broke through all that and I thought SHE was the one. Yeah baby and she was hot too. Unfortunately she had her own issues and left town without even telling me. Well that took me even further down the downward spiral. This was REAL depression now. Anxiety, panic attacks, horrible dreams at night and everything. Again, only by the grace of God that I'm still here because if not for Him I'd have blown my brains out.

In recent years, things have gotten alot better. I finally moved out of the house. I got in a church that I can actually say that I'm being accepted. I dunno, I just 'got better'. I was still lonely and had NOBODY but at least I was enjoying life. I was getting out more. I was flying to Pennsylvania and other states to ride roller coasters and in 2002 I got to meet alot of you all at the convention. I can honestly say that I'm enjoying life for the very first time.

Last year my mom got breast cancer. She had a masectomy and fortunately, it didn't spread so she just takes hormone therapy to prevent it from coming back. Also, on the very day before her surgery I met a very nice young lady on the internet. She gave me her phone # and we talked for hours that night. Turns out she has Cerebral Palsy and is in a wheelchair. We have so much in common it's freaky. She was teased in school. Had only 1 or 2 boyfriends but got rejected alot because of her handicap. We hit it off the very first day. After 16 years of trying to find a mate I finally find her at age 34.

Well, in a few weeks, Brianne is coming to New Orleans to visit and she's gonna go back to Massachusetts with a diamond engagement ring on her finger. And in the months to come I'm gonna leave the Land Of Rust for MA to get a house and make Brianne my wife.

So I guess my life is gonna end up good afterall.
 
Congrats and many blessings :-)

Jason:

God bless you and Brianne for a wonderful future together! I can't wait to meet you in Omaha!

Venus
 
Jason

Congrads to you and Brianne! Sometimes things just take time to happen. I didn't get married until I was thirty. Thank God, If I would have married anyone from my past I would have been divorced! Unfortunately several friends have gone through that and it wasn't pleasant. Just be thankful that you have found a wonderful mate. There are so many that still haven't found their's yet!
 
Wow, Jason...! Congratulations and best wishes to you & Brianne.

The dominant culture puts too much emphasis on superficial details. What matters is to find someone you can connect with heart-to-heart. Looks like patience is rewarded, and now you're on your way.
 
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