Wow - thanks for all the great comments!
I'll try to address them all:
xraytech: That is an excellent suggestion, I actually am considering it. The one we inherited from my MIL's estate is black, but the main panel of the unit is reversable - black on one side, white on the other. I had a member of another collector group I belong to suggest that I could either paint the white side of the plastic panel, or replace it with a sheet of thin birch plywood stained to match my cabinets (or some other veneer that would fit in the channel). While this idea would work in theory, I would like to exhaust my options before I make a final decision to alter cabinetry. Also, in using this machine I am stuck with the very 1990's all black control panel. It may sound fussy, but I am really hoping to marry aesthetics and functionality. I need to find out what brand/model of dishwasher that is so I can make an even more informed decision (its in storage right now).
yogitunes: That's genius! I thought about a microwave/hood combo in the past, but I never thought about mounting a cabinet or shelves above it! Sometimes it's the simple answers that allude me. That's actually a very nice microwave, but I hate where its located! So hard to get in that corner and use it. Unfortunately, there is no other logical place for it to be.
I've thought about a counter-top unit, but I don't know if that would be enough when I really get to entertaining. I'd like something that can handle at least some of the pots and pans too, if possible.
turquoisedude: oooh! A Turquoise Kitchenaid sounds like just the ticket! I saw a beautiful chrome Kitchenaid at an estate sale once - it was a built in and not for sale. I wish I'd been a member of this group then - I would have taken a picture! It was in this great older house that hadn't been updated since the owners bought it sometime after WWII. I've been dreaming about that dishwasher ever since I saw it. Sorry I can't give you more info than that about it. I think it had a window in the front, but I could be wrong about that - its been a while since I saw it, but I would know it if I saw it again! I remember it was a Kitchenaid because the name was written across the front panel of the unit in beautiful script - it really struck me what a beautiful machine it was!
I guess that's what I'm wishing for, and will probably never find.
Reversajet: well - okay - you got me. Can you tell I've never owned a dishwasher before? My "formal" dishes I use when I entertain are stoneware dishes from the 50's. They say "dishwasher safe" on the back. When they were new, they were not a fancy set at all. The '40's crystal does come out - and you're right, it would be handwashed.
When I was a kid my brother and I were the dishwashers

I would like my first dishwasher owning experience to be a good one - which is why I have come to you all - the experts. Hubby has always had a dishwasher growing up, and it is driving him buggy that we don't have one.
Is it possible to get funky, fun, vintage, and good performance? Or am I being unreasonable?
Maytagbear: Thanks for the compliment! It's small, but that makes it very effiecient - I can move quickly from one surface to another when I'm cooking and economize my movement. You can see why I want a dishwasher that will look "right" in its new environment. I take it this is a new unit you are referring to?
everythingold: Thanks for the offer of the radarange - I don't know if I could give up my modern microwave, though. I love the "sensor reheat" button - works like a charm and never overcooks - doesn't matter if you're warming up soup, baking potatoes, or steaming frozen veggies. We bought it 8 years ago, and I've gotten a lot of milage out of it. The LCD screen has dimmed over time, but it still runs strong! Oh, it thaws meat perfectly too!
Of course I've just jinxed myself - in that case I may come whimpering to you begging for a Radarange
Do you have any vintage dishwashers that might meet my wants/needs? It would give me an excuse to go west and visit some friends I have in Grand Rapids.
Goatfarmer: Thanks! I appreciate it! What does the Magic Chef look like?
laundromat: GE tall tub, eh? That performance is definately what I'm talking about!
Thanks again for all of your helpful comments - I am definately soaking it all in, please keep the ideas coming! I have had a lot of questions answered, and have generated a few new ones. I'm a novice at large appliance - specifically with dishwashers (I've never loaded one in my life!), so I'm not always sure when you mention a unit if it is vintage or not. Again, I would prefer vintage if possible for style - but am willing to sacrifice vintage if I'm just not going to get good performance.
Thanks!
-Sherri