Movie theater etiquette in sunny SoCal

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The proper way to complain about a fellow movie patron is to go to the snack bar and tell the theatre's management about the problem. Come back with a Coke and some popcorn, to enjoy the show. :-)
 
Very sad indeed. Yes, we don't know the whole story, like, did the patron say something a little less nice than, "I'm sure the call is very important. Would you mind terribly continuing it in the lobby?" Still, c'mon... can't even see a movie in peace w/o cell phones. There should be a sign in the theater to please put them on vibrate while the movie is playing. I know it's simple courtesy, but people have to be reminded of that now!

Like the sign in my post office, about 6-7 feet back from the counter: Please Wait Here For Next Available Window (Clerk, Idiot... whatever the term they use). People routinely snuggle right up to the back of the person at the counter as if it's going to get them there any faster. So what if they're trying to discretely mail their "sample" to the lab and don't want you knowing about it?!

I think it's funny, however, that the banner at the top of the linked page is advertising "The Karate Kid" movie coming out this summer. Has Hollywood run out of plots? Do they have to now remake movies that are barely 25 years old?

Chuck
 
 
I've worked in the theater business for 30 years. Many customers are habitually rude, crude, and obnoxious. NOT all of them, but the ones who are spoil it for everyone. It has gotten MUCH worse with the popularity of home video. Theaters are now equivalent (in the customers' minds) to their living rooms at home and behavior has deteriorated accordingly. Signs advising of proper behavior make NO difference. I don't see movies in public more than once or twice per year, only if two particular friends insist, and I dread even that much.
 
Oh, I agree that the signs would be ineffective at best, but at least they'd be there so there wouldn't be any question as to patrons having been informed. The retail public is so tuned out to signage it isn't funny. I knew this back in the early '90's, and it hasn't changed except for the worse.

The last time we went to a movie was about 5 years ago when something we sold to astudio was upposed to be in the flick, AND I had passes for the theater. Haven't been back since, though I've been given passes by some of my students' parents (re-gifted). Nothing worth seeing!

Chuck
 
I have given up trying to watch movies at a theater-folks just don't know how to behave in a theater.When I was a boy and my dad was in the Air Force-The base movie theater was a favorite mode of entertainment for us besides the TV.Folks(yes kids) knew how to behave at the theater-and the projectionist there didn't put up with misbehavior-such as talking dusring the movie-he stopped the movie-turned on the house lights and told people he wouldn't resume the show until everyone was quiet.This happened only a couple times I watched movies there.Nowadays we need projectionists like that!And folks just ignore signs about no talking or cell phone use in the theater.Even mesages shown on the screen with audible message asking folks to put their phones into silent ring or turn them off.
So--nowadays I just wait for the movie to come out on DVD or BluRay.Then buy or rent the disk and WATCH THE MOVIE at home!Sad.Sometimes it is neat to watch a movie at the theater-yes,let someone else show it for you and on a bigger screen than at home.Now I have just given up on theaters-mainly becuase of behavior of the other veiwers that think they are watching the show at home on their TV.-and be have as such.Also some folks Mist the movie-its likeyou are watching Mystery Science Theater.If this continues I can foresee the death of the movie house.Very sad.Stabbing someone over a phone call is so stupid-hope these clowns are caught and allowed to watch their movies in prison!And with the meat thermometer no less-this was also discussed on Film Tech a chat room about movie theaters and folks that work in them and operate them.Its very interesting.I try to link it to this site but doesn't work.
 
 
I did that, stopped the show, when perps ... uhh, customers were flashing laser pointers. Doesn't do any good, the teenies consider the whole situation to be a game, a challenge to keep doing it and not get caught or identified. I refused to restart until the pointer was turned in for remainder of the show, which nobody 'fessed up and nobody fingered who it was. So the rest of the show was canceled, everybody left, some asked for (and were given) refunds. The next weekend the flashing continued. I gave up. If they want a disruptive environment, let 'em have it. Better than having my car vandalized ... or getting stabbed in the neck. I haven't been involved in on-the-floor management for the past 12 years, glad to not be dealing with the troublemakers any more, but I do kinda miss the rest of it.
 
that's odd

Nearly all of the theaters I frequent in Orange County show a message before the movie asking people to turn off their mobile devices, or at least put them on vibrate mode. I have seen people walk out of the theater into the lobby to make an important call, but I have never seen anyone conduct a prolonged conversation in a theater during the movie. It's as bad as talking out loud during the film.
 
can you imagine.....

....if they begin offering cell phone service on airplanes? Seat-back phones have existed for years, but the rates are so expensive that people who use them normally do so only to advise people on the ground if there is a delay or change in plans. With the advent of internet flight tracking, most people on the ground keep their own tabs if they are meeting someone at the airport, so the need to call from the plane has dropped. The seat back phones are too costly for someone to conduct a prolonged business conversation.

In some countries, such as Germany and Sweden, certain cars on long distance trains are reserved as "quiet cars" where you are not allowed to have extended mobile phone conversations.

In Germany recently, I rode an "RE" (Regional Express) train which is unreserved and thus did not have a designated "quiet car" (unless one wagon was the quiet car and it wasn't marked). A young man (late 20s or early 30s) sat behind me and had a phone conversation with an automobile broker about a new car purchase that lasted over an hour, all the way from Duisburg to Dortmund. Because of the ambient train noise, he had to speak louder than in normal conversation. Because I am fluent in German, I understood every damned word of the conversation and could not tune him out.

I would have moved except that the train was nearly full, so twenty or so fellow passengers were also privy to every word of his conversation. These trains have a central automatic door with compartments on either side of the door, so half the car was exposed to the same torture as I.

It's just a break down of general courtesy and thoughtfulness for others. It's everywhere. On that same trip, I had flown within Europe on British Airways, after arriving in London from the USA overnight. The plane was less than half full, the seat in the middle was vacant and there was a guy in his 20s seated on the aisle. Before departure, he invited one of his coworkers (there was a group of four traveling on business together) to sit in his aisle seat and he moved into the middle seat. I was not asked if I minded*, but since I was at the window and could lean against the wall, it didn't encroach much on my personal space.

However, the two began to discuss at full volume their personal lives for a full two hours on a three and a half hour flight to Kiev. Both were from London and worked for Sotheby's, so one would THINK they would have some manners and know how to act around people accustomed to etiquette (except I wasn't one of their customers). Because a full breakfast was served, I was trapped at the seat and had to listen to them. Even noise-canceling headphones couldn't drown them out, they were that loud.

I had to wait until the breakfast trays were cleared (they came back for coffee and tea two more times after serving the meal, so it took a long time to clear). At that point, I pretended to have to use the lavatory, but I never stopped at the lavatory: I made a beeline for a row of unoccupied seats in the rear, flipped up the arm rests, and attempted to eke out an hour's sleep for what was left of the flight. The chatty twosome never acknowledged my presence, nor did they seem to notice that I never returned to my original seat for the remaining duration of the flight.

I know that the English are supposedly reserved, which might have explained their failure to acknowledge my presence, but they showed very little reserve with respect to sharing their private lives out loud with their fellow passengers. One of the cabin attendants did notice I'd moved ("weren't you the gentleman in 10A?") and I explained that I couldn't hear myself think any longer in 10A, the twosome chatted nonstop, without a moment's silence. The attendant said he would have told the two to tone it down and let others enjoy some silence, but who would want to sit next to people after having asked them to turn it off?

I don't know if their employment at Sotheby's gave them a sense of entitlement so that the normal rules of courtesy did not apply to THEM, but these two people were well-dressed and articulate.

*the flight was less than half full, so by inviting his coworker to sit with him, he was subjecting us to a full-house situation. The polite thing to do would have been to get up and find two seats together near the back of the plane, or at least across the aisle from each other. Of course, had the plane been close to full, inviting his coworker to sit next to him would have been less egregious.
 
Manners have evaporated everywhere

Including Church! Yes we have signs up and also make announcements which fall on deaf ears. Deaf, that is, until THEIR device sounds with something obnoxious. Just the same as before Mass, when people are kneeling and obviously at prayer; others just carry on as if they were waiting for Bingo to begin. Parents with squalling children oblivious to the "quiet room" and its use. Ditto those new age moms and dads who bring Cheerios/cookies/crackers in ziploc bags to feed their crumb-shedding children during the service. Then there's the teenagers, all of whom are chewing gum or (gals) fussing with their hair. The moment the sermon begins, out come the Blackberries: text-text-text. More than once I have had to point out a backwards-hat-wearing teen to an usher and ask him to admonish the disrespectful one. After doing so, they are more often than not given "the finger" as soon as they turn around.

I try to comfort myself with the thought that, "at least they came here" and remember that purpose.

>Rant Over<
 
Here's one of my favorite "policy trailers":

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It hasn't yet spread to my (Episcopal/Anglican) parish yet, though sometimes you hear a ring from someone who forgot to turn off their ringer. However, NO ONE would dare take a call. They just hit the red "end call" button so as not to accept the call.

Our narthex used to have clear windows so that someone with a fussy baby could step outside, still watch the mass while comforting the baby, and hear the proceedings via a speaker in the narthex. However, recently a generous parishioner donated a pair of beautiful stained glass windows to be installed in the narthex doors, replacing the clear glass. As a result, you can no longer see the church interior from the narthex. I wonder if this will result in fewer parents using the narthex as a "crying room".
 
Growing up, our local movie house had a crying room. It was usually empty, and came in handy for catching a few quick hits off a pipe right before or during a film.

I'm not sure why they did away with them. Oh wait, I guess I do know.. :-)
 
During the Octave of Christmas, I've had to add PowerPoint slides to the pre-Mass slideshow reminding parents that church is not the place for handheld video games and MP3 players.

We were NEVER that impatient to play with our new toys when we were kids.
 
Oh boy--laser pointers-no place for them in the theater-unfortnately thay are often used as key fobs on keyrings-fine-just keep it in your pocket along with the jingling keys.One time while watching amovie some clown was pointing out characters and other things to his freinds during a movie-like it was some sort of movie appreciation class-Got annoying-then they stopped when patrons close to them asked the laser user intructor to stop.Yes-suppose it would be dangerous to the projectionist now to pause a movie because of unruly patrons-used to work in the past.I think I saw that message that was played on JeffG's post-was at the Consolidated Cinema.the Carmike played a similar message before the show began-sometimes did no good.Like signs and slides shown on the screen--ignored by most movie veiwers.I think its been well over a year since I tried to see a movie in a theater-now just watch at home.With the advent of widescreen HD TV sets,BluRay DVD players and sorround sound systems-more and more folks will just watch at home-and the COST-esp for a family-its cheaper.I hope I don't offend members that are theater owners and operators-think they will have to decrease the prices of concessions and increase the selection of them.Remember as a boy the theater was the place to buy all types of candy!not now.The selection of candies is VERY poor.None of my favorites sold at theaters today.And with patrons stabbing each other-on another occasion shooting each other-more and more for safety will veiw movies at home.I do miss the Big house and screen movie expereience and of course someone else being the projectionist-with home theater YOU are the projectionist-and concessionist,etc.
 
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