A hobby can
also get us through rough patched in life, be it the loss of a family member, spouse, divorce, post retirement blues, seasonal affected depression, or other type, etc.
A for caring about what others think of me period, I havn't much since my early 30's.
I made my own path, jumped through a few hoops to survive corporate life, and sometimes tell them what they wanted to hear, even if I dosagreed. Then at the days end said EFF Em! If they didn't think they had to tolerate me, but I did them, well I'd say touche'.
I am not here to match their expectations, nor they mine. If I could contribute an idea, or action, I usually did without expecting one in return or a reward.
Those who took advantage of me got booted. Some will only value you if you value to them.
Self care and self Love are detrimental to good mental health.