Sandy, I am sorry for the hurt you suffered as a child, just as I am sorry for the hurt suffered by any child, but you know, at least we have not visited that hurt on any children and for that we get points. Have you ever burned your skin, whether by the sun or actual heat? If so, do you remember for how long that area remained super sensitive to exposure to even normal sources of heat, how warm water felt hotter, even after it looked healed? That is the way it is with children who are abused, whether physically or emotionally. I was shocked, as I got older, at just how many of my classmates were abused one way or another. We all looked to be within the range of normal in school. No one saw the pain behind our faces, but there was a lot of it. There were the boys who turned to bullying and violence and the girls who turned to sex of course, but only as some of us got older and connected in other ways, did the, at first cautious, sharing of secrets begin. Parents who were pillars of the community mistreated their children. Some of these things were not discussed until we were in our 50s. But it was and is horrible and you are right, children were nothing in many people's lives. That is why I am so grateful for the adults who took an interest and noticed even the most superficial layers of bad situations and tried to make life better for us, to give us respite from poisonous home situations. I hope they have many stars in their jewelled crowns in heaven. In spite of anything else they did on earth, I hope they are richly rewarded for what they did to help other people's children. I think that is part of the reason that Christina's book and the movie from it hit home with so many people. We could sympathize with her because just like the burned area of skin, any instance of abuse causes us more pain than it does to those who were not abused. Like Ken, I have no sympathy for those who mistreat children and I don't care if her grandson shouts until he turns blue and dies, the image of an abusive and probably borderline insane woman, mother and wife (poor Mr. Steele, whose death she probably hastened) will probably never be erased from the mind of anyone who hears the name of Joan Crawford. She was not the only person driven by demons, there's Hitler, Stalin and the Koch brothers to name a few, but if even part of the abuse in Christina's book happened, I am glad as hell it was reported and that it put a blot on Joan Crawford's life as permanent as a big old grape juice stain on her precious white carpet.