The one I live with and what I put up with

[petek]

Actually Eugene, that's not a bad idea and even better it will be his new Dodge Ram I can do it with, err should I say "our" new Dodge Ram. The big ugly black thing with the cheezy Ram cutout tailights and chromy gas cap he can barely fit in the driveway let alone the garage. I asked him what a Hemi is (knowing full well what it is/means re the chamber/rods shape etc) he didn't have a clue but he's got his hemi cause it sez so on the side..the power of advertising ... oh where did I go wrong LOL

 

[frigilux]

I haven't been in a relationship for quite awhile now, but my last was with a divorced guy who had custody of his infant daughter. He grew up very traditionally--had no idea how to do laundry or cook or anything like that, much less take care of a baby. His Dad totally disowned him when he came out, but his Mom was a sweetheart----and she loved me, which I thought was great. But, he eventually decided to move to Ohio and I wasn't willing to go. The end.

 

[re563]

Well like many of your have stated. My Partner isn't much better. When We started dating he too would fill his machine soooo full--I could never go over how well his clothes actually looked. Before we bought the house we live in now I got my HE3 set and like Hoover1060 I sat him down and said " you know I just paid $2200 for this washer and dryer and peditals. I'd like to keep something in this house nice so--don't ever, ever, EVER, touch my washer and dryer. And he hasn't, with the exception of the occasional dog blanket that he thinks need to be washed--(even after I just washed it two days ago), and he seems to do ok with that, but like any fussy appliance person, If I come home from shopping, or get up in the morning and hear the machine running, I also say (with a slight tone in my voice) "What the hell are you washing in my machine??--and that pretty much does it.

 

[jaxsunst]

Wifes are no better

My wife decided to help me and do laundry last week. To say that she is domestically challenged is an understatement.

She did all the laundry without changing a setting, so everything was done in Warm/Cold, and on Low water setting. She got an A for effort and a D- on execution.

The following week the coupler on the DD Kenmore broke. Thank God for Home Shield.

 

[washertalk]

Oh, it is nothing that a good swift hand swatting can't fix.
"Putting fabric softner in the main wash to save time? AHH, No, we don't do that in this household! What's wrong with you."

I must say though, your stories scare me. booooohh. (huddling with shoulders rounded)

My newly 'OUT' status has me thinking of meeting Mr.Right but
after hearing your STORIES,
Can Mr.Right only be an illusion?
Is he too much to hope for? (schreiking like a 40's female movie star)

That will have to be a main qualifier in any personals ad: "...must know how to do laundry correctly, preferably in your own machines. And finally you should have a big ....." something along that line will have them LINED up. oh yeah.
It's all gewwd.~~

 

[maytagbear]

Who knows, Washertalk?

You just might find "Mr. Better than OK"*** right here at this website.

***I no longer look for "Mr. Right." I'm thinking about "Mr. Better than OK."

Lawrence/Maytagbear

 

[nmaineman36]

Well for myself I have a good guy. Been together for 3+ years now and I wouldnt change him for anything or change him at all. I knew what I was getting into. The funny thing is that everyone we know calls him Bree. He acts like Bree Van DeKamp-Hodge from Desparate Housewives...if you have seen it I am married to it.
The roomie that we have isnt too bright...he claims he is but he isnt. He moved out a couple of years back to move to Florida since when he visted there he was very popular. So he moved in October had about 50 guys or so later there and of course before ya knew it everyone in Tampa Bay was all abuzz about him. They got his number fast and he hiked his ass back up to Massachusetts in December.He now says that all people in Florida are ugly..lol. He wore out the welcome mat. He wanted to move back in but didnt know how to ask. He was asking everyone else but not us. So we had a Mommy Dearest Party on mother's Day and he came over. He was lingering as the party wound down and asked me if he could move in. Now we redid his room and washed the walls of the nicotine that seemed to ooze out of the Kilz that we put on. Told him that if he did move in that he wouldnt smoke in the room....which he does and we caught him plus he makes videos of himself smoking and posts the videos on YouTube. The guys that see him smoking all swoon...I gag and if they only knew.
He has a short attention span with guys...we dont get to know anyone he dates since he kicks em to the curb 2 weeks later on.He said to me once that I had OCD since I rearrange the dishwasher before I start it...I told him at least I can stay focused on something and not have ADHD like he does. Scott calls it LAZY...lol. I could write a book on this guy. And I told him he should have a warning label on his ass.

 

[chachp]

NOBODY is perfect..

It has taken us a long time to get where we are. I'm no treat to live with either but we have figured out how to make it work. I am alwayrs right and he is always wrong. It's that simple. Not really, if it's the right one it will work. It's never easy but it's much easier when it's the right one.

 

[exploder321]

I help take care of my two older grandparents.. Mind you there not invalids...They still drive and such, but boy are they a mess

But usualy, i always wind up being right and they usualy forget the whole thing....
Grandpa won't eat anything unless i cook it (he throws food away if he thinks its nasty)
Grandma refuses to eat off dishses out of the dishwasher unless they've been washed by hand or where scrubbed clean before hand
Neither one does laundry any more, After grandma turned everything pink and grandpa washed everything in softner

It never ends here... No wonder i never sleep..

Oh well... I'll survive for now.. Doubt i could put up with some of the above mentioned things, esp. smoking in the house (ickkkkkkkkkkkk)

 

[washertalk]

Ok new Thread for me. see "Newly Out"

 

[oxydolfan1]

My partner-on-probation has unresolved issues with tension and expressing frustration combined with a very Latin disrespect of anything mechanical (if I'd BOUGHT the goddamned Miele, we'd have been through five circuit boards already, LOL!)

I've tried countering this with everything from quiet, rational discourse ("Okay, take a deep breath, 1-2-3, blah, blah, blah), playful needling ("Mira, el conquistador!"), lectures ("Ya see these teeth, UNDER the timer?"), public embarrassment ("Yes, I hit your son with this flyswatter, because he deserves it"), and pure invective (let's not go there), only to realize that dealing with someone who is insane is totally pointless and you just have to structure the household, make wise choices regarding durability of goods purchased (we're talking shampoo bottles here!) and realize that behaving YOURSELF the best you can and not allowing yourself any slip-ups in that regard is the best way to influence someone you love, and someone who loves you.

I can be lazy, my musical taste is out there, domineering to a fault, and can and will go days without cooking myself a proper meal, so I guess, in the end, it all balances out.

It's expensive, though...

 

[rinso]

My partner of 30+ years has avoided the laundry room for fear of incurring the wrath of an obsessive-compulsive laundry perfectionist. However, when we got our HE3 set a few years ago, he finally broke down and said he wanted to learn how to properly do the laundry. Since our entire laundry room is decorated like a coin-op laundry, I also made up and framed some specific instructions for each type of load for him. It is a matrix of clothing types, cycles, settings, and additives. It also follows the operation of the machine from left to right, starting with the dispenser drawer. Has worked very well so far. I did the same thing with the dryer. One of the coin-op laundry signs I'm glad we don't have, is the one next to the giant Milnor machine that says "Load machine as full as you wish." It is beyond frightening to think about what would happen.

 

[sharples]

My partner

I have a '97 pair of maytags. My partner thinks it is appropriate to fill the washer all the way with dirty clothes and set the water level at low and put it on the cold cold water temp. and thinks the clothes will be clean.

Well, after a couple loads of that i was like, no, you are not allowed to do the laundry. It smells after it's dried and is dirty. Why do some people think they know how to do washing??

P.S. I am not the greatest washer either, i put darks and lights together regardless. Yay for color safe bleach.

 

[chachp]

I love this thread

It makes me realize my house isn't as psycho as I thought it was. I love the fact that I am not the only person who has posted "directions" for doing laundry on the wall. Thanks for this thread.

 

[petek]

To continue this on here's what else has been happening since we moved in. I already mentioned he's the type that cranks the heat up in the truck as far as it will go then when you can barely breathe, whacks the dial back to the other full end of the spectrum, there is no "in-between". Well this new house has hot water heat "hydronic", baseboard radiators, whatever. Something we've never had before. The original Honeywell roundie still graces the foyer, yes and it's still an original fahrenheit model YAY. All during the move in it was quite comfy in here.. I have numerous digital thermometers all over and the room temps were around 72 give or take. I noticed the roundie was set around 65 so I figure it's probably a little out but that's where you set it to maintain 72 for now. Can live with that.. Well I come home one evening and the house is like a sauna, walk over to the roundie and it's cranked up to 78. I immediately turn it back down to where it was at about 65 and start my rant only to hear "well it was a bit chilly in here". Absolutely no cognisance (sp) of his actions..he thinks that by cranking it higher it's going to warm the place faster like in his truck.. SIGH. Now this is the same person that groaned when I called the gas company to set up the new account on budget monthly billing (equal payment plan) that the previous owners plan was $270 per month. How that is I don't know but because I've been standing guard over that thermostat all week the furnace has barely come on but twice a day if that and the house is a comfortable 72. I'm dying to get those first bills to see what's going on. I know some of the gas is going to the pilot lights in the gas log fireplace so that will be shut down soon or after Christmas because we probably won't use it like we never used the one in the other house for 12 years very often.

 

[washerboy]

could be worse

Petek:
Since you wrote "our new house" I'm assuming this person whom is a laundry delayed is you partner/mate. If he's that big of a screw up... do his laundry for him!!! Be thankful you have someone in your life that stays long enough to dirty clothing. What has more value..your washer or your mate? Lowes is running a sale on GE's.

 

[monkeywards40]

i can sympathize with you

I went together with my sister and her hubby and we bought a house together and we all get along real well, but when it comes to doing laundry, my sis and her hubby drive me nuts, in 2004 i bought a supreme capacity gibson (frigidaire made) washer and dryer, and when i take my laundry to the basement to do laundry, i go nuts and start asking who was doing laundry. Because they leave the laundry in the washer and dryer which is forgotten. Now my family knows iam gay and a fanatic about my laundry. i sort everything by fabric and color. A pet peeve of mine that laundry is left in the machines, i keep the washer and dryer empty and cleaned out and cleaned off. And i have to tell them "Linda and Carl supreme capacity does not translate to pack it full till it moans and groans" the dryer is usually packed so full that i have to remove half of the clothes put a new bounce sheet in and redry their clothes. so what they try to do in two loads i can do in 4 and it usually takes me two times in the dryer and ironing to get the wrinkles out. but these lovely machines still keep working being that frigidaire is hard machine to kill. My family knows of my love for washers and dryers since i was 4 years old. heck mom and dad bought me my own washer and dryer as a child so i would leave moms machines alone. my past boyfriends were never allowed in the laundry room one boyfriend Jake managed to destroy a whirlpool beltdrive washer he bought for me to use he packed it so full it ate the belt and destroyed the tranny, after that i did the laundry. But now an old flame that i recently found after searching for him for 5 years is single, he and i are now in a relationship is the perfect man HE ACTUALLY KNOWS HOW TO DO LAUNDRY!!! Iam so happy i found my Mr. Right that can cook and clean and do laundry so i don't have to do it all. Roy makes me so happy iam glad i found him. so yes gentlemen i can sympathize with all of you about our significant others past and present that cannot do laundry to save their souls, but we still love them anyway. Kelly

 

[petek]

Yes he is my partner, 24 years now of harmonious bliss, LOL

 

[DADoES]

Pete, I've not had a hot-water-based central heating system, but I understand they're slow to respond to temperature changes.

 

[irishwashguy]

Let me tell you about someone that needs a couple of lessons

I had a house mate a few years ago ( I had Maytag Neptunes at the time) I came home one time to him doing a load of washing plugging it as full, almost too full to close the door. He did not understand that Downy is not for soap, but for the rinse dispencer. He pointed to the side of the bottle where it says----fabric condioner--- he said that it was working really good. I had to ask him if he would just condition his hair, but not wash it, "No" he said. Then he got it.with a master's degree you would think that he would get it. I guess that his degree was not in Laundry or cleaning.He still persistantly would overload the washer and dryer and would not change the lint screen.He called me at work and told me that there was something wrong with the washer and dryer.I told himt that it was the operator I offered to wash for him. Nice guy, just keep the hands off of the Neptunes I also disposed of the box of Sun detergent that my other roomate had bought.Thrifway took it back and I gave her the money and told her i would pay for all of the soap if she would just use it. The arrangement worked well.. They were both, well, fun to hang out with, just not great housekeepers. ( dirty dishes in the couch, well, it is not a dish drawer) I moved into where i am now and replaced the washer and dryer with Miele and have not lookied back. I also got all new dishes and silverware.