ugh, i need a new bf!

[toploader1984]

i am sick of dating someone who treats me like DIRT, who yells and talks down on me, i know i am a cute guy, i have a good head on my shoulders, i know i can find sum1 who can treat me the way i SHOULD be treated!!!

 

[dyson2drums]

all i can say is never to put yourself down! I cant stand that.

Think positively and enjoy life!

 

[hoovermatic]

Don't wait a moment longer

If that is how you are being treated then dump them. I was in a relationship like that for 4 and a half years, 4 years too long. Eventually I blew my gasket, threw the dining table across the room and left him to it. Best thing I ever did. Was VERY liberating!!! Hope you find happiness

 

[mistereric]

Like Dan Savage would say "DTMFA". Good advice – he's funny as hell too.

Seriously, though - life is waaaay too short, there are (a few) decent guys out there, and yes, you are a cutie. Don't wait! Run, don't walk.

Savage Love - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[mixfinder]

Lovonia

I know a young man (30's) who owns a home and a landscaping business in Lavonia. Are you close enough for a scratch and sniff?

 

[petek]

me me me me,, pick me

I'm close enough!!!!

 

[washmeup]

Run don't walk

Embrace who you are and get out of this bad situation!

Christopher

 

[toploader1984]

yes livonia is close enough

 

[toploader1984]

petek email me if u want

 

[toploader1984]

mistereric, thanks, ur a cutie too !!

 

[ronhic]

It's time to move on if you are his 'whipping' boy.

None of us have to put up with nastyness in a relationship and new partners seem to pop at the most unlikely of times...

...mine did when I was travelling...and I wasn't even looking.

There is someone out there who will love you for you and not need to rant or rave at you. All you need to do is bump into them...

 

[surgilator_68]

Bumping into them is the problem. Sometimes I'm going so fast I run right over him. Then I have to back up to see what I hit, and well it's all over with by then.

 

[michaelman2]

Listen to your gut! If you feel that it will not get any better IT WILL NOT GET ANY BETTER, I promise this. I have been there,I have listened to every promise both written and verbal. Every gift, trip and promise to "love me forever". If it is not right, IT IS NOT RIGHT, move on. I speak from experience and literally had people watching and telling me this for years. MOVE ON..even if you never find anyone, you will have at least lost this lie. <do I sound a bit bitter..woops...this was better than therapy>

 

[surgilator_68]

You got that right Michaelman2.

 

[aamassther]

I agree, Listen to your gut. It's seldom wrong. No one should have to put up with abuse, verbal or otherwise. He's just trying to compensate for his own confidence and self worth issues. Good Luck, You will find the right mate.

 

[roto204]

A friend of mine once said...

"If I'm in a relationship with you, and it takes all this work just to make it tenable, then what am I doing it for?"

Oversimplified, maybe, but there should be an undercurrent of goodness through it all.

You should never have to put up with being yelled at, either.

And remember, being single in the meantime is not the worst thing, until you can be calm and sorted-out enough to identify a good one when he comes along.

That said, Kelly, "scratch-n-sniff"?? ;-) That paints a picture...

 

[rll70sman]

Oh, man, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I broke up with who I thought was the love of my life a year ago because of this. He was abusive verbally and psychologically, and one could only wonder if the abuse would've turned physical as well. I'm still in drug and psychotherapy because the pain was so intense and damaging.

My advise to you is get him out of your life and concentrate on staying strong yourself, even if that means you stay single for a while. I waited too long and paid the price. You seem too sweet and geniune to let someone take away what makes you a unique person. Here's a hug .

 

[mistereric]

a scratch and sniff?

Kelly, you owe me a new computer monitor. ~lol~

Go get 'em, tl84. Send pictures. ;-) The mid 20's & early 30's thing has been working for me since March - he's 24, i'm 32.

Wish I had a landscaping business tho... my yard is dire!

 

[danemodsandy]

The Thing to Remember, Toploader...

...Is to be yourself, and to be true to yourself. Relationships go off track because we're trying to be something we're not, for the sake of having someone. If you're yourself at all times, then people like (or dislike) you for what you really are, and you know where you stand. If you pretend that another person is okay when they're not really, then you're building a house of cards that will crumble someday, because no one can pretend forever. Based on what you've said, it sounds like you're trying to be the right person for this guy when you're not really, and that never works.

Just be who you are, and Mr. Right will come along eventually.