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Asperger's syndrome
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I think of a SYNDROME as PEOPLE on a common road, running together.
Think of people on two parallel roads that cross over each-other occasionally.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/syndrome
Think of people on two parallel roads that cross over each-other occasionally.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/syndrome
May I vent?
Today, as I was clearing the dinner plates, I asked simply "Have you finished" You would think a simple yes or no would do. "Well, can't you see that I'm done?
Mister Mister also has to SELECT each piece of the meal.
Which piece of meat, which piece of corn etc.
PICKY PICKY PICKY. Thank the lawd you have food and a roof over your head, and water and fuel ec. Be thankful in general.
RRRRRRRRRRRRR How I have not slapped him backhanded into next week!
Today, as I was clearing the dinner plates, I asked simply "Have you finished" You would think a simple yes or no would do. "Well, can't you see that I'm done?
Mister Mister also has to SELECT each piece of the meal.
Which piece of meat, which piece of corn etc.
PICKY PICKY PICKY. Thank the lawd you have food and a roof over your head, and water and fuel ec. Be thankful in general.
RRRRRRRRRRRRR How I have not slapped him backhanded into next week!
bobbyderegis
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Do I sense a wee bit of hostility in your tone, Steve???
Bobby in Boston
Bobby in Boston
The interesting thing is that most of the symptoms of Asberger's and other syndromes mentioned here occur in the "unafflicted". That is, I can see such behaviors and traits in myself and others. But, I think it probably that it's the degree to which these traits are displayed and acted upon that makes the difference.
Me, I love neckrubs. Never have gotten enough of them. Now I have a couple of cats and they crave neckrubs (and ear massages) also. But they only receive them... never had a cat even try to reciprocate
Me, I love neckrubs. Never have gotten enough of them. Now I have a couple of cats and they crave neckrubs (and ear massages) also. But they only receive them... never had a cat even try to reciprocate
jasonl
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Yeah, I'm a picky eater like that, that's just his personality. The smart remark he said might deserve a slap but not just for picking which piece of food he wanted. Personality conflict: not good.
Sorry. After so many years of dealing with a rebelious *teen-ager*, it is tough.
jasonl
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No problem
I understand. It's hard living with no stability. One day, your partner's the best, and the next day he's a "rebellious 'teenager'". Well, I shouldn't have said anything in the first place.
I understand. It's hard living with no stability. One day, your partner's the best, and the next day he's a "rebellious 'teenager'". Well, I shouldn't have said anything in the first place.
One day, your partner is the best, and the next day he's a "rebellious 'teenager".
He is both simultaneously.
Herein lies the mystery of love; Caring for someone with your eyes WIDE-OPEN to their faults, (which of course are always worse than one's own faults!) HA!
He is both simultaneously.
Herein lies the mystery of love; Caring for someone with your eyes WIDE-OPEN to their faults, (which of course are always worse than one's own faults!) HA!
jasonl
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Caring for someone with your eyes WIDE-OPEN to their faults,
That's exactly true. You love them, warts and all.
That's exactly true. You love them, warts and all.
jasonl
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It's not about having the best body, it's about being spiritually, physically, and emotionally compatible. If that's the case, then do the above.
no, no hostility, it was just a little stressful last week dealing with my parents, even though I love them dearly and they are certainly great people. My mom, especially tends to be a little hard headed, and oddly enough, unforgiving. I can tell her nicely that something is bothering me, and she will basically ignore the request to stop/change, etc. whatever it is. really did though have a great time on my vacation. A vacation for me involves going to a place I don't need to drive, doesn't have telephone service, and I'm free to do my own thing whenever I want. The little campground we went to on the Chesapeake Bay surely fit the bill!!!
Yea, there are some things about being an Aspie that are not necessarily the greatest, but by and large, I have enjoyed the logical reasoning ability, and the other intelligence associated with it. It can just be a bit hard trying to communictate with others, especally understanding how feelings can make such a major impact in their decisions
Yea, there are some things about being an Aspie that are not necessarily the greatest, but by and large, I have enjoyed the logical reasoning ability, and the other intelligence associated with it. It can just be a bit hard trying to communictate with others, especally understanding how feelings can make such a major impact in their decisions
seeitrun2006
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Dealing with parents
I have no hostility towards my parents either. My parents don't know that I'm an Aspie. They think I'm just a picky person who has an unusual obession with Washers and had a horrible time in school and relationships. It shock the hell out of them when I announced I was getting married. They do things too that drives me crazy but I just literally just have to look away.
I'm just about to turn 50 in Nov. and don't really see the need to tell them since my dad is 77 my mom is 73. They really would not understand it.
I've only told one brother about it as his daughter is an Aspie but they are in denial and will not acknowledge anything is wrong. She's in fifth grade and I can see me in her from a mile away.
Peace!
I have no hostility towards my parents either. My parents don't know that I'm an Aspie. They think I'm just a picky person who has an unusual obession with Washers and had a horrible time in school and relationships. It shock the hell out of them when I announced I was getting married. They do things too that drives me crazy but I just literally just have to look away.
I'm just about to turn 50 in Nov. and don't really see the need to tell them since my dad is 77 my mom is 73. They really would not understand it.
I've only told one brother about it as his daughter is an Aspie but they are in denial and will not acknowledge anything is wrong. She's in fifth grade and I can see me in her from a mile away.
Peace!
Denial is not just a river in Egypt
So sad that an insight into their child is avaialable, and they chose not to see it / use it.
Perhaps she could have been made aware (gently) of her *wiring* and worked with /around it so as to avoid future frustrations.
So sad that an insight into their child is avaialable, and they chose not to see it / use it.
Perhaps she could have been made aware (gently) of her *wiring* and worked with /around it so as to avoid future frustrations.
seeitrun2006
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My niece with Asperger
Funny thing is when family members try to talk to her or tease her she get frustrated, shuts down and goes off by herself.
However I being the Aspie that I am can sit down beside her, touch very little, no eye contact and carry on a simple conversation with her. One time she sat with me for an hour or two when she would not sit with anyone else. I think she senses a common bond with me because of Asperger which she has no idea what it is.
I come from a family of 3-brothers and 1- sister and of course my mom and dad and bunches of nieces and nephews. At a family gathering my niece usually will go off by herself (just like I use to and still do)then someone will miss her. She will be off playing with her dolls or whatever in her own world. The strange thing is her birthday is only a couple days after mine and we are both Aspies.
Funny thing is when family members try to talk to her or tease her she get frustrated, shuts down and goes off by herself.
However I being the Aspie that I am can sit down beside her, touch very little, no eye contact and carry on a simple conversation with her. One time she sat with me for an hour or two when she would not sit with anyone else. I think she senses a common bond with me because of Asperger which she has no idea what it is.
I come from a family of 3-brothers and 1- sister and of course my mom and dad and bunches of nieces and nephews. At a family gathering my niece usually will go off by herself (just like I use to and still do)then someone will miss her. She will be off playing with her dolls or whatever in her own world. The strange thing is her birthday is only a couple days after mine and we are both Aspies.
Teasing and making fun of someone is something that I just don't get. Supposedly, it is done in humor and to establish a bond between people. Just like your niece, it just distances me. I can't seem to figure out why on earth it is considered humorous and an act of friendship to exploit someone's shortcomings. Humor, overall seems to be mostly centered on exploiting someone's mistakes or shortcomings, and many think that I lack a sense of humor becasue I don't make fun of other people, and I don't "get" their humor when it's directed at me. It's not that I don't have a sense of humor, it's just that I don't think what they are doing is humorous.
I imagine this all comes back to what I see is a relentless need for competition among individuals in society. Men, especially, like to be better than a peer in whatever it may be, even it it does not really get them anywhere. It is subtle, but revealed in anything from what car to buy, how someone talks, even where they live. When someone finds out that they aren't better at something in particular, they will use humor to ridicule that person...thus we have the bully. This is probably one of the reasons why I don't like sports. It's just about someone else trying to prove they are better at something, but the effort to me appears to be fruitless. To me, I feel that working together with others to solve problems is not only more productive, but also much more fun....one of the reasons why I enjoy my job. We all work together to build a/v systems and make a bigger, better, fancier system than the last one we did. Not because we want to be better than another out there, but because we want to challenge ourselves to go beyond.
Like you mention, I can enjoy carrying out an intelligent conversation with another person, sharing discoveries, and experiences in a relaxed manner. Eye contact is not required, nor is dramatic speech, just clear, objective talk without a lot of metaphors and other stuff that takes a lot of mental power to figure out!
I imagine this all comes back to what I see is a relentless need for competition among individuals in society. Men, especially, like to be better than a peer in whatever it may be, even it it does not really get them anywhere. It is subtle, but revealed in anything from what car to buy, how someone talks, even where they live. When someone finds out that they aren't better at something in particular, they will use humor to ridicule that person...thus we have the bully. This is probably one of the reasons why I don't like sports. It's just about someone else trying to prove they are better at something, but the effort to me appears to be fruitless. To me, I feel that working together with others to solve problems is not only more productive, but also much more fun....one of the reasons why I enjoy my job. We all work together to build a/v systems and make a bigger, better, fancier system than the last one we did. Not because we want to be better than another out there, but because we want to challenge ourselves to go beyond.
Like you mention, I can enjoy carrying out an intelligent conversation with another person, sharing discoveries, and experiences in a relaxed manner. Eye contact is not required, nor is dramatic speech, just clear, objective talk without a lot of metaphors and other stuff that takes a lot of mental power to figure out!
