Sorry for not participating much in the discussion here. I was out on a sort of mini-vacation on the Chesapeake Bay since Wednesday. Just like a typical aspie, I have returned to a neat little campground I've frequented even as a kid, and even set up my trailer in the same spot! I joined my parents down there, and although I love my mom dearly, she just doesn't understand what bothers me.
She asked me to join them for meals over at their RV. Her cooking is great, but the atmosphere has a lot to be desired! My parents are in the rescue squad, so they always have the public service radio listening to the emergency vehicles going all the time. My mom also can't miss a newscast, so she had that going on the TV, that, coupled with the noisey D.C. exhaust fan in the camper, and all the lights in the thing going (during daylight hours) and it was just a little too much for me to take....It was nice to walk down to the docks afterwards and sit and just listen to the water and watch all the boats out at sea.
You guys speaking of touch issues, I experience issues with that too. I don't like to be touched, especially lightly, and unexpectedly. If someone says that they are going to touch me, it's not a big issue. My mother however is one to say "There's a piece of something on you" and just reach out brush off the fleck of whatever caught her eye, without having any respect to ask first...drives me bonkers!!!! I imagine the touching issue is something that helped shorten some of my relationships in the past for sure, especially since it was never clear to others what I actually like, and why.
Oddly enough, usually a more firm, heavy touch is a bit more pleasurable, than just something lightly brushing my skin. One of the strange things I've found I actually do like when it comes to the sense of touch is that heavy lead blanket that the Dentist uses when he X-rays me. I find the heavy weight and the warmpth of it to be very nice
The issue of touch has always been a factor in the clothing I wear. I tend to pick out high thread count clothing, and almost always wear cottons, silks, and other soft, pliable, "breathable" fabrics. I have yet to find any style, fabric, or type of undergarment that is comfortable yet, and believe me, I've tried quite a few! To aggrivate the clothing issue, I'm a rather small person, and it's hard not only to find comfortable clothing, but also find it small enough to fit me. Shopping is a nightmare too, because of all the noisy, busy stores with PA systems sqawking, TV's blaring, and annoying clerks that won't let you be and pick out your own thing.
Because if my issues with clothing, I just simply find it more comfortable just to not wear any when I'm in the privacy of my own home, or sleeping....and due to my very logical nature, I just can't seem to figure out why humans have such an aversion towards their own bodies...something that no other animal has! I don't see nudity as being very sexual at all...it's just another state to be in, just like wearing a suit, versus a T-shirt. Apparently, clothing does a lot more in society than just simply protecting our skin from the elements...it also carries a message of some sorts.
I'm like Jason in the sense to that my sleeping quarters must be perfect. Barking dogs drive me crazy too, and I find the warm hum of my window AC (yes the house has central air too!) helps drown them, along with many other annoying noises outside right out. O can't stand to have anything blocking my breath, and if I can feel my own wind blowing back on my skin, or to breathe it back in, I cannot sleep till the issue is corrected
Thanks for your insight Toggle into your experiences with Aspies!
She asked me to join them for meals over at their RV. Her cooking is great, but the atmosphere has a lot to be desired! My parents are in the rescue squad, so they always have the public service radio listening to the emergency vehicles going all the time. My mom also can't miss a newscast, so she had that going on the TV, that, coupled with the noisey D.C. exhaust fan in the camper, and all the lights in the thing going (during daylight hours) and it was just a little too much for me to take....It was nice to walk down to the docks afterwards and sit and just listen to the water and watch all the boats out at sea.
You guys speaking of touch issues, I experience issues with that too. I don't like to be touched, especially lightly, and unexpectedly. If someone says that they are going to touch me, it's not a big issue. My mother however is one to say "There's a piece of something on you" and just reach out brush off the fleck of whatever caught her eye, without having any respect to ask first...drives me bonkers!!!! I imagine the touching issue is something that helped shorten some of my relationships in the past for sure, especially since it was never clear to others what I actually like, and why.
Oddly enough, usually a more firm, heavy touch is a bit more pleasurable, than just something lightly brushing my skin. One of the strange things I've found I actually do like when it comes to the sense of touch is that heavy lead blanket that the Dentist uses when he X-rays me. I find the heavy weight and the warmpth of it to be very nice
The issue of touch has always been a factor in the clothing I wear. I tend to pick out high thread count clothing, and almost always wear cottons, silks, and other soft, pliable, "breathable" fabrics. I have yet to find any style, fabric, or type of undergarment that is comfortable yet, and believe me, I've tried quite a few! To aggrivate the clothing issue, I'm a rather small person, and it's hard not only to find comfortable clothing, but also find it small enough to fit me. Shopping is a nightmare too, because of all the noisy, busy stores with PA systems sqawking, TV's blaring, and annoying clerks that won't let you be and pick out your own thing.
Because if my issues with clothing, I just simply find it more comfortable just to not wear any when I'm in the privacy of my own home, or sleeping....and due to my very logical nature, I just can't seem to figure out why humans have such an aversion towards their own bodies...something that no other animal has! I don't see nudity as being very sexual at all...it's just another state to be in, just like wearing a suit, versus a T-shirt. Apparently, clothing does a lot more in society than just simply protecting our skin from the elements...it also carries a message of some sorts.
I'm like Jason in the sense to that my sleeping quarters must be perfect. Barking dogs drive me crazy too, and I find the warm hum of my window AC (yes the house has central air too!) helps drown them, along with many other annoying noises outside right out. O can't stand to have anything blocking my breath, and if I can feel my own wind blowing back on my skin, or to breathe it back in, I cannot sleep till the issue is corrected
Thanks for your insight Toggle into your experiences with Aspies!
