Being Burned Out From Work..

[oxydolfan1]

Will this leave of absence affect your (vital) medical coverage in any way?

I can tell you that expecting a man to rescue you from dire circumstances will have consequences as predictable as Armageddon...

Your relationship with Adam seems to have developed very quickly...maybe too quickly for either of you to assess what each other's needs really were. If you find out you're not a match made in heaven early on, that is a GOOD thing. Or, maybe you need more time to get more of an idea (although, we really do KNOW, don't we? It's usually a matter of accepting it as reality....)

Maybe you need to make changes solo for a while, or at the very least, have someone around for entertainment purposes who knows that's what you're about, shares the same expectations, and liable to cut out at the first opportunity...

But that carries risk factors of its own...

Don't give up. Just act judiciously, use wisdom, and be real with yourself. Think it all through, THEN act decisively!

My two cents.

 

[exploder3211]

I am flying solo so to speak thats for sure. I dunno, excuse me for saying this and i am sorry if it offends... Things in our relationship did occur wayy too quickly.. We whent all the way by the fourth night we spent together... Then again there where things i had never had done before. When i was with cody he and i had a fairly boring sex life. As of recently i have been with 5 people (scince before christmas).. Adam has been very admit that if i wanna do things with other people i can, and he doesn't want me just to settle for him. I dunno how much i should admit, but i did do things with some one else about two weeks ago, during an out period with him. Actually twice.. And i whent wayy over the top with him as well.. We haven't spoken scince and i feel horribly guilty, but adam doesn't know and i doubt he would care ( we are "casualy dating")..
I am not really wanting a man to rescue me, but in the same breath, i am not the type of person who can just have some one to have fun with and thats it.. I really want love and compassion.. Even though i am 23, its not all about sex for me. LoL if i get hard up enough, there is usualy some dude i know on a few sites that i can have fun with and remain close friends with.. Or go back to my buddy at my brothers..

As far as Adam...
There are things i must accept with him.. He is a 30 year old kid... IE: His place is clean, but there are crumbs all over the floor, cloths all over the bathroom, he passes gas like crazy, and thinks its really funny. He drinks a little too much and goes to clubbing with Ashley. But he doesn't do drugs, or anything illegal. Although he is tatued from head to toe and has those gauged ears.. But he's really good in bed and has an awesome sense of humor and he's just a nice person

"Don't give up. Just act judiciously, use wisdom, and be real with yourself. Think it all through, THEN act decisively!"

Good advice for thine self to live by... Right now a job is of most importance.. I am not even sure i wanna return to HR Block or anything else.

 

[retroguy]

Quite the testimonial =)

Good luck in all you do, Chad!

 

[oxydolfan1]

"Good advice for thine self to live by...."

That's right, Chad, and that's why I'm alive to talk about it, LOL!!

I definitely didn't mean you should go out in search of meaningless bratwurst...I DID mean you should guard your heart and not fall into infatuation so fast, is all...

I think the Lenscrafters idea is awesome....it's a highly transferable skill, they are a national chain. It would also seem that, by working there, you could be exposed to optometry or something that you might find yourself even better paid (that field pays pretty decently, even up here)....

I got laid off on Wall Street at 23 and had a chance to break outta financial services then....yet took the safe road, and, oh, God, do I regret that, LOL!! I'm in pretty decent shape, but as time goes on, you have to make more painful sacrifices to make career changes....it can lead to homelessness in this town, and I'm glad you're at a crossroads where you don't have to lose EVERYTHING, just to explore a new option for a while.

 

[oxydolfan1]

Oh....

WTH is Ashley???

 

[exploder3211]

Ashley is his good friend and a friend of mine as well. Shes very nice and fat. Single and 36... Shes a lush

 

[brettsomers]

and a friend of mine as well. Shes very nice and fat. Single

how flattering. you could say she WAS your friend?

 

[brettsomers]

Things in our relationship did occur wayy too quickly

omg, since when is the fourth night "way too quickly"? sure you dont mean the fourth hour? (d&r!)

 

[exploder3211]

No she readily admits to all of the above... Ok i just discoverd another annoying factor of the above b/f.. He likes listing to people making bodily functions... Ewww

 

[exploder3211]

Ok... I figured out something major about Adam... I have my ear phones on trying to ignore his phone conversation, as i don't wanna know what happend in his prior relationship. But i did discover this:
He has massive Trust issues.. The one person he actually broke down walls down for and loved for 3 years, who he told everything too, broke his heart and has caused him to be very distanced.. Gawd.. The poor man has been through hell and some how i wound up here on the rebound.. Lawdy.. I some how don't think i will be the rebound b/f and i sure as hell hope not... Cause if so.. I am good as gone... How did i wind up in this situation? He's such a sweet man and one of the most patient men i know. ARGGGGGGGGGHHHHH

Artist/Band: Little Big Town
Lyrics for Song: Good as Gone
Lyrics for Album: The Road to Here
There's a cold feelin'
Runnin' up and down my spine
It seems to say "We're Just Wastin'Time"
It's like a bad movie
One I wish I'd never seen
The plot gets old, Do you know what mean?
Don't try to tell me it ain't what it is

Chorus:
I'm Good
I'm good at seein' the signs
I'm good at reading between the lines
No use in hangin' on
'Cause you're good to go
And baby I'm good as gone

On a lost highway
I don't know how I got where I am
Take the next splitsville exit ramp
It's like a cheap vacation
One I thought we planned very well
Now we've checked out of the lovely love hotel
Don't try to tell me it ain't what it is

Repeat Chorus:

Don't try to tell me it ain't what it is

Repeat Chorus:

Baby I'm gone, I'm gone

 

[andrewinorlando]

Chad - no matter what happens in your life, good, bad or otherwise, when you meet a man, unless you and he have similar GOALS in life, and can happily follow a common path, it's never going to work. While flatulence may indeed provoke laughter (as a good fart should), if it bothers you, it's always going to bother you. If he seems to enjoy it (or any other activity that bothers you), you're always going to have a stumbling block in front of you. Now, some stumbling blocks can be tolerable, others not so. It all depends on the "thing" we're talking about. Being good in bed doesn't mean shit if outside of bed he aggravates the life out of you because he's lazy, parties too much, or likes to listen to the next door neighbor take a dump. Whatever the case, you have got to take your own likes and dislikes into account FIRST before you can decide if you're able to compromise and deal with those things about another man that are annoying. No man will be perfect, but there are some men who just are so far out there that it's just not gonna work, no matter how hot they may be!

But unless you and he have something in common, and can walk down that path together, it ain't gonna work in the long run, unless you can go through life with blinders on. Not that you can't be two different people; you certainly can. But at some point your paths must join so you have common goals to pursue, whatever those goals are.

The very best advise I think anyone can give you is one word: PATIENCE.

 

[exploder3211]

No, i think he and i can remain good friends and thats that. I am coming to think this more and more. He has very little drive and some what low self esteem and right now he is pouting somewhat because we left a party early (i told him we didn't have to leave, but he thought that i wanted too).. Plus he's been a little cagy about phone calls and such...