Fortunately,
I have been such a big fan of dishwashers all my life (even though we didn't get our first one until 1973....) I knew better from an early age not to use a high sudsing detergent in a dishwasher.
I've been very lucky, and have only lost one item, a beautiful Dansk Melamine spoon, in dark Orange, and have charred a few wooden spoon handles when they got knocked to the sump. (Yes, I put wooden spoons, and wooden handled rubber spatulas in the machine. Bite me.)
I am no longer "fussy" about loading (for "fussy," read "a*al retentive,") but I make an effort not to throw things into the machine.
Lawrence/Maytagbear