I learned to say *I love you* to my parents.
Love really does make the world go 'round. They say by the time you are 30, you need to forgive your parents for eeveryting; real or imagined.
I am thrilled to report that I now have a relationship with my father. Now that he is ailing, I'm feeling good about our ability to converse and connect and be loving towards each other.
Apparently like everyone else on the planet, he has his quirks and ways.... [Read: He's twised and ridiculous...as we all are, including myself].
After 14 years with an ex who appears to have Aspereger's, I was able to recognize the same ways and thought patterns in my father. (And to a asomewhat lesser extent, perhaps, in myself). Armed with this knowledge, and the tools with which to work with it, the situation is infinitely easier at this time. Discovering this was just one of those moments of epiphany and clarity, when it all came together in my little mind.
So here is my point. Please make an effort today to work with those you love, even those you can't really connect with. They may be gone tomorrow. I am lucky enough to have two living parents. That is a huge blessing.
Oxydolfan1:
I am very sorry for your recent loss. I wish you the strength to deal with it and a rapid healing. I'd say talk to your dad as if he is in the room with you. I beleive he still hears you!
And a huge thank you to all fathers out there and for the sacrifices they make for their children.
PEACE OUT!
