Have a think...
I am very sorry, hairybruinuk, to hear of your loss. The passing years do not always make a difference, and there is no shame or wrong in your feelings about smoking.
You are right about smoking – it’s wrong. Please don’t get annoyed at people here because no-one is having a go at you. I get angry and upset, and I lost my grandmother to cancer (and her mother and my grandfather), who smoked all her life. I was quite young – about 13 – and I used to say to her, “Nan, you really have got to stop smoking.” Her response: “I know, I know… and she put out the cigarette she was smoking.” She died seven years later, in 2000.
I do get rather angry with smokers, too, and it is wrong that people smoke in front of others when it is not wanted. It must be remembered, however, that smoking is as addictive, if not more so, than heroin. Many smokers really cannot help themselves, and that does not make them a ‘weak’ person. Smokers need as much professional help and support as those addicted to hard drugs.
I know I have not spoken to you before, but I am always around if you want someone to talk to or have a go at. I’m quite used to getting annoyed with my health problems, so hearing from others is a blessing in some ways.
It is all right to get angry, but please try not to take it out on others. Other people can get hurt, too, even if they care, but it simply is not fair to have goes at ours when they really have done nothing wrong. I know you have not done anything wrong either, but you need to see that other’s intentions are not to harm you.
Best wishes,
Carl
