My mom died today at the age of 83

[kennywhy]

My condolences Gary.
I can also sort of say that I know how it feels.
My mother fell and broke her hip last November at age 89. She just didn't have the strengh to heal, and after surgery and then rallying a couple of times, she weakened and died a month or so later. My dad, her husband of 60 or so years couldn't handle the loss and died just eight days later. He literally couldn't live without her.
Somehow when I look back I don't believe I had the strength to get through it all, and handle the loss of both of them, handle their estate, and keep going. But I did.
There seemed to be a strength or power beyond me, that kept me on track through funeral arrangements and legal matters. Looking back I don't know how I kept going, but I did.
People say they had a good and long life, but it doesn't lessen the loss. You still end up feeling like an orphan.
I know I'll miss my mom and dad, and have them in my mind and thoughts every day for the rest of my life. That gives me some solace. They're certainly still with us in that sense.
I miss the phone calls too, but I'm sure your Mom would want you to keep going and stay as strong as you can. It's part of life, and we'll get through this chapter too.
Take it one day at a time.
Ken

 

[hoover1060]

My prayers go with you Gary

Remember the Resurrection! May it bring you peace!

Jeff

 

[gadgetgary]

Gary

My deepest sympathy to you and your family at your time of loss.

Keep the peace!

-GS

 

[laundromat]

Gary, please accept my condolances and sympathy.I lost my mother 32 years ago when I was still a child.She was 32.To this day,I still miss her emensely.Just remember this,she lived a long life.That's a good sign it runs in your family.You'll be in my prayers tonight and at church,tomorrow.Chuck

 

[Cybrvanr]

Sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunatley, you will never get over loosing a close relative like that, but thankfully, you will have many wonderful, vivid memories to keep her alive in your own heart.

My Grandmother from my Mom's side passed away about 5 years ago, and I will always miss her. She didn't live but a few miles up the road from me, so I got to see her frequently, and she babysat my sister and I when we were young. She was a great cook, and she loved to travel. I enjoyed looking at her pictures and listening to her stories about her cruises. Her home was decorated with neat stuff she bought back from the islands.

While I am glad to have many of her appliances, and even her recipes, these still don't compare with going over her house for dinner with the rest of the extended family and enjoying her company.

 

[retromom]

Gary:

My deepest sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your mother. She is at peace now, and would want you all to be as well.

You are in my prayers for strength and for healing.

 

[foraloysius]

My sincere condolences. Wishing you all the strength you need.

Louis

 

[abcomatic]

Guys, Thanks so much for your words and thoughts of assurance, hope and condolence. This site is a great place to be and I appreciate what all of you have said. Tomorrow is the funeral and that will be hard to do I am sure. I am the organist at church and had a substitute for this weekend. When we picked out music, I said that I didn't want to hear Amazing Grace,In the Garden, How Great Thou Art, The Old Rugged Cross etc. I have played those so many times at funerals that I just can't bear hearing those tomorrow. Lift High the Cross, The Strife is over the Battle won, Christ the Lord has Risen Today are some of the few that will be played. Thanks again for your help
through this difficult time. Gary

 

[neptunebob]

Gary, I offer my condolences, I wonder what I will do when my mother is no longer here, she is 79.

Our Resurrection Choir also performs Christ Lord is Risen Today and Lift High the Cross.

 

[exploder3211]

My condolences..Its always hard loosing a loved one, esp. a parent

 

[pulsatron]

very sorry to hear about your mother

Gary,
I am very sorry to hear about your dear mother passing on, I certainly know how you are feeling I lost my Mum in 1998 around Christmas time and it was very hard to bear, however as time goes by you will accept it,just always remember the good times and memories you have with her and she will live on with you.
Peace and strength be with you at this most diffcult time.
Steve.

 

[spats]

You have my condolences, Gary

 

[seeitrun2006]

Your recent loss

May God carry you thru this time of loss and grieving.

Blessings,
David

 

[spiceman1957]

My Sympathy

Gary,

Very sorry to hear of your lost. My mother died in 2003
and I miss her every day. I can say that she was my true
parent (not so with my stepdad) and friend. I think it is
good to talk about death even if it is on a web site.

John

 

[chachp]

Sorry for your loss

My Father passed away last December at Age 84. I try to remember him before he got sick. For years I talked to him every morning on my way to work. I miss that very much. I still talk to my Mom every morning but we both acknowledge its not quite the same. My Dad was the most mechanically minded person I know (all y'all excluded of course) and I miss being able to pick up the phone and ask him how to do something house related. He was a wealth of knowledge.

I know what you are going through and it does get easier with time.

 

[geoffdelp]

Oh Gary, I am so sorry!

After all is over, make sure you are taking care of yourself, too.

Geoff

 

[bingwsguy]

Gary, I am sorry to hear your news. Even though I don't know you, I can relate to what you are feeling. I remember when my Gram passed away 2 years ago, so many things changed forever. I can say that I have many, many great memories and hope you do as well. Joe

 

[toggleswitch]

Again, peace be with you after your loss.

I still remember my grandmother who died in 1970 when I was 7 y.o.

Saw grandma's sister in 1973 when I went to visit Greece. I distinctly remember the feeling I got from seeing a face that was so close in appearance to granny's. I remember following her around as she were my granmother alive again.

I recognized her (mind you never having met her or seen a pic) my mother (her niece) did not.

As Mixfinder (Kelly) reminds us, LOVE is hugely powerful.
Is it possible to love someone more than your own mother? I think I may have loved Granny just as much.

 

[westyslantfront]

Hi Gary. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mom.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ross

 

[70series]

My condolences to you and your family.

God Bless.

 

[lightedcontrols]

Gary,

My deepest sympathies to you and yours. Remember, the Bible tells us though, that for her, the BEST is yet to come!
Prayers,
Mark

 

[mickeyd]

So so so sorry, Gary, to hear about the passing of your love

I've been away--no computer-- and I have an idea of how sad you must feel because we thought our Mom was going to die last summer after suffering a stroke.

The warmth of your Mother's life will comfort yours forever. How holy and privileged to die and rise on Good Friday. Peace, my friend, and Godspeed to your Mom. If you need another shoulder to lean on, it's there and ready.

Love,
Mike