I received two "invitations" from facebook to become a coworker's friend. The second time I received the invitation, I explained to my coworker that I could not become her facebook friend because I was not a member of facebook. She apologized and said dhe did not know how that happened because she had never initiated such a request. I wonder if you are mentioned in a member's postings would the Big Brother part of facebook find you and contact you with an invite? That makes these things even scarier. I know the Internet has turned many conventions on their heads, but I still remember what an 8th grade teacher told us in regard to what was then called vandalism and is now known by other terms, "People's names, like monkey's faces, don't belong in public places."