Suicide

[autowasherfreak]

My roommate and I were coming home from the grocery store on the bus yesterday afternoon, and as we were getting close to the house we say flashing lights, police cars, and an ambulance. First we thought it was just another car accident, it's a busy street and people drive to fast. As the bus got closer we saw a white sheet on the ground. Someone was hit by a car.

Later on I found out that it was a suicide, the man had jumped out in front of a van but the van stopped and didn't hit the guy. The driver asked if he was ok, and if he needed help and called 911. Before the police arrived the guy jumped in front of a semi truck and was killed instantly.

I feel sorry for this unknown person.

 

[frigilux]

I know this is a highly-charged issue, but if someone has had enough of this mortal coil, I wish they wouldn't involve some other poor, unsuspecting person in the act.

When you make the decision to jump in front of someone's car, you're leaving a huge emotional scar on that person, who has to live with the horrific incident for the rest of their life.

Ultimately, though, I believe a person has the right to decide to die. There are instances when it seems understandable---terminal illness, for instance; and there are instances where you wish the person would have hung in there---the end of a relationship; depression; financial calamity.

It really is sad/tragic to know a person felt there was no other way out of their quandary.

 

[sudsmaster]

I once met a squirrel that did that.

 

[autowasherfreak]

I'm sure the semi driver will never forget that day.

 

[nmassman44]

That is tragic and its a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Why people get to that point in life I will never know. But on the other side of the coin...as long as no one else was killed along with him. Nothing worse is when you hear about someone wanting to kill themselves and they take another persons life in the process with them.

 

[toggleswitch2]

Don't F with my commute...........

Another way to do this is to taunt the police. Sad, so sad.

Here in NYC the half-joking sardonic remark is: if you have to thow yourself in front of a train, would you please wait until rush hour is over?

And the flip side is: Oh goody! Another rent-regulated apartment just became available.

 

[magic clean]

Insightful

story on Michelangelo Signorile yesterday afternoon about a crisis hotline for LGBT youth.

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/home2.aspx

 

[autowasherfreak]

As busy as this street is and especially at that time of day, I'm really surprised it didn't create an accident.

 

[whitekingd]

As someone who knows,

It is hard to believe you can ever get to that point. But, I was there! I tried to kill myself last year. It didn't work. By the grace of GOD I checked myself into the mental ward at the local hospital. They got me on the proper medication to treat my depression and bi-polar disorder, and here I am!! Bless those people! I look back with amazement at the point I was at and thank the good Lord above that I came out of it. Unlike some people, I view my medications as a blessing, and look forward to taking them. They keep me level, stable and o.k. You can't imagine the despair one feels until you are actually there. It is frightening.

 

[jakeseacrest]

I can understand where everyone is coming from. Some people are so depressed and looking for a way out that they really don't think of the aftermath that they leave. My cousin commited suicide 2 years ago while his friend was asleep in the other room...he is not the same person he was at all. He also left a wife and 2 kids behind. It's so tragic for everyone involved.

 

[jeffg]

If someone is desperate enough to take their own life, chances are good they're not going to care about anyone else's. As Leo Buscaglia used to say, you cannot give to anyone else what you do not have yourself.

 

[jeffg]

Speaking of Buscaglia, love, and suicide...

 

[supersurgilator]

I agree, its hard to say unless you have been there yourself. I was there almost 5 years ago now, it is a scary feeling. At the time you can't think about anything else, because you feel like there is no hope. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone, but unfortunately many committ suicide yearly.

 

[whitekingd]

AMEN!

You just don't know until you are there. You can't fathom it. Encourage anyone who talks it or acts it to seek help!

 

[paulc]

WHITEKINGD

I totally agree with you. I have Bi-polar too, before I found the right med's combo I was a complete wreck. I rapid-cycle but also had mixed states as well where I had mainia but instead of euphoria I had severe depression. That was the WORST!!! Thankfully the meds I am on now work........I still have my moments but not as severe.

The awful thing is when you feel suicidal you think your family and friends will be better off without you around, I know I certainly did.

 

[polkanut]

My best friend called yesterday and was just about crawling the walls with guilt, it was 2 yrs. ago on July 4th, 2007 that his wife hung herself in their barn. To this day, he feels he should have watched her more closely. She had been diagnosed with depression 20yrs. earlier after their youngest son was killed in a one car accident, he missed a curve and hit an electric power pole. Then, in late 2006 she had to have a complete hysterectomy, and this compounded her depression until she felt there were no other options. She refused to take her medication on a consistent basis. There was an already existing history of suicide in her family, her aunt and grandfather had both hung themselves as well. Her suffering is over, but the family's continues.

 

[whitekingd]

So often people don't want to take their meds!

Maybe they feel it is a sign of weakness. I don't know. Sometimes it is the side effects. There are so many meds out there available to us that side effects should not be a consideration. If you have them, tell your doctor so he/she can try you on another. Sometimes it takes time, but it is worth it. I have been told that if you are clinically depressed for more than a year, you need medication to bring you out of it. Your brain and body just won't correct the problem by itself. That came from my pastor at church. He encouraged anyone suffering from depression to seek help now! And don't be embarassed, or feel it is your fault!

 

[toggleswitch2]

Noe one in life can make YOU happy; that is YOUR job.

........and that applies to partjers too.

~Her suffering is over, but the family's continues.

Actually it is said that the soul is not at rest when one takes their own life as the underlying issues were not properly resolved on this plane.

I get borderline depressed in winter due to lack of natural light. (S.A.D.- Seasonal Affective Disorder). Some over-the-counter remedies such as SAMe and Vitamn D help. Other things that help are letting go of expectations of where life "SHOULD" be taking me and accepting where it is "NOW". Keeping physically and mentally busy/challened does help in my case.

Go to the gym.
Clean and organize your home.
Call old friends. Make new friends.
Stay busy!

Men especially can have these grandiose political and govenmental philosophies, but refuse to start with managing THEMSELVES their home and their lives FIRST.

 

[yogitunes]

No one knows what you are going thru and what you have to put up with....but their right, take control of your self, tha is your job, you don't join AA, or take the meds for a friend or partner, you do it for yourself....

I have learned God never gives you nothing you can't handle....

and I got a lot, don't ask me what keeps me going, I just do, it just bugs me when doctors talk about "Quality in Living", for whom, themselves?....they don't live with the pain, cramps, headaches, nausea, and how a chronic disease controls your life, not you controlling it!...I go to meetings for Crohn's patients, and upsets me when there's nothing that can be done about it, all's you know is you want it to go away, to be normal again....but it's not going to happen....quality, yeah right!....walk a day in my shoes....but never reason enough to end it all!!!

but's that my view....