iheartmaytag
Well-known member
No really
It's fine, Mom isn't in a home she is now safely locked in her room with a bottle of Evian and a dry crust of bread.
It was a joke, but I am going to conceed that everyone has their perception from where they are standing.
I know of two examples:
1. A man was in our office calling his mother every foul name in the book, and even made up a few new ones. I was horrified about his behavior, and one of the care coordinators reminded me that maybe his childhood and relationship with his mother was not as fondly remembered as mine.
2. Same care coordinator was at a local nursing home where a man, the child of one very nasty woman, visited everyday. He always spoke well and loving to her and even though she often pinched and bit at him; always hugged and kissed her goodbye. One day the coordinator asked him "How do you do it?" "Even though she treats you so badly, you are here everyday like nothing happens."
"Because that isn't my mother I remember." "It's the disease that's doing this."
Different perspectives.
Neither example applies to my mother and my relationship she never beat me, bit me or called me nasty names. She just happens to live with me and sometimes gets on my nerves. It's a joke between us "you're going to the home" and another is "The nice part about Alzheimer's is you get to me so many new people." (Yea, I know you are going to blast me for that one too.)
I think Thomas took the "going to a home without heat and water" remark more literal with less humor, however, the one(s) that judged my daughter are more local.
It's fine, Mom isn't in a home she is now safely locked in her room with a bottle of Evian and a dry crust of bread.
It was a joke, but I am going to conceed that everyone has their perception from where they are standing.
I know of two examples:
1. A man was in our office calling his mother every foul name in the book, and even made up a few new ones. I was horrified about his behavior, and one of the care coordinators reminded me that maybe his childhood and relationship with his mother was not as fondly remembered as mine.
2. Same care coordinator was at a local nursing home where a man, the child of one very nasty woman, visited everyday. He always spoke well and loving to her and even though she often pinched and bit at him; always hugged and kissed her goodbye. One day the coordinator asked him "How do you do it?" "Even though she treats you so badly, you are here everyday like nothing happens."
"Because that isn't my mother I remember." "It's the disease that's doing this."
Different perspectives.
Neither example applies to my mother and my relationship she never beat me, bit me or called me nasty names. She just happens to live with me and sometimes gets on my nerves. It's a joke between us "you're going to the home" and another is "The nice part about Alzheimer's is you get to me so many new people." (Yea, I know you are going to blast me for that one too.)
I think Thomas took the "going to a home without heat and water" remark more literal with less humor, however, the one(s) that judged my daughter are more local.
