Why does God like to play favorites?

[mixfinder]

Ruby Slippers

But then I found myself glowing and I started to speak in an Irish accent so now I have to say:
God loves you. He loves everyone, it's just sometimes you have to love yourself, even forgive yourself before the true blessings will befall you. Sometimes you feel all alone, just look around. Many times you don't get things when you want them, but when God knows you are ready for them. Now start by looking in the mirror and say to you, "I love you." and mean it.

What a perfect way saying, "It is when we accept the fact that are exactly who and what we were designed to be at conception and the Loving Source said, "This is my Beloved Child in Whom I am well pleased." For so many years I was steeped in self hatred and destruction, bitter in my uptight moralistic behaviors. Why did it appear so many were enjoying themselves while I was caught in bitterness? Slowly and with guidance I began to accept the expression of who I am and quit niggling God to fix or change me, the creation The Loving source created in It's perfection. I stopped grabbing at every branch and went into the Flow. Accepting my self allowed me to move beyond bitterness. It was a magical moment when I was in church with an amazing musical minister and healer, Karen Drucker who performs at many New Thought churches. I felt, accepted and moved into knowing there wasn't any judgment, reproach or separation from the One. I could be gay, find a partner, go into the world living free and taking God along with me, understand It enjoys, fun, life and sexual expression. Where ever I go there is no loss. I find Love where it is or more Love, Peace and More Peace and Acceptance and More acceptances. There is Law of Equivalence and Attraction. One would say we cannot be granted riches if we are not ready to be responsible. The other say what we think and where we put our attentions attract similar expressions. I found Love, Acceptance, and protection in Spirit. An exception man was nearly delivered to my door step and we are in our 5 year together. I love consumed and enmeshed with my Love for God and my Love for Life. I move from a place of Fulfillment into more Fulfillments, more Satisfaction and More Peace. It all began with baby steps, like swiping a credit cared and its approved. Over and over the card is used and it never rejected. Soon there no doubt or worry but knowing we are Loved and Abundance falls around us. God speaks to legions of angels that surround and support us, but according to prophecy we must first ask them to serve us. It is the terrible self talk that Spirits hear as well. It may first need to begin as an exercise until it becomes a faith based knowing. I have always loved God absolutely adored Jesus and speak in continuum with the Holy Spirit. I have opened to knowing God expresses with many faiths, many faces and often in the times of greatest need. My view of who God is has no rigid description. I operate in a place of Knowing God, The Source, The Universe; The Force for God enfolds us. It was mine first to accept I am lovable before it begin to express Itself in my Life. I also had a doozey of a story, abuse, sexual abuse, abandonment etc. I carried it like Atlas carried the world and I was ready to tell anyone who listened, "This is my story and it explains why I am the way I am. It had to purpose but to control and divert my attention from knowing none of that was God's plan nor did the Mother/Father God ever want it to happen. I finally needed to let go of the story, leave the story at God's feet and in nakedness and with no supporting props begin my journey into Love. I know in this moment none of these hurtful setbacks and disappointments are of God nor are they the truth of who you are. In this moment those falsehoods and hurts are bound and Love, Unconditional Love the Source that feeds us all stand ready to lift you above the fray and begin the Loving task of letting it all happen. Old things pass away and everything is new. So it is and I know just as Luke said in the New Testament, "let there be" it is done as I speak and release my words into the Automatic action of the law and say "It is done and so it is." I ache for you, for that is who I was for 54 long and difficult years. The last 5 have been miraculous, easy and I truly live in Satisfaction and Fulfillment. My wish for you and for everyone who reads this is that you know your are Loved. It is so much more profound that a word or and action. It is a feeling, knowing and being fully surrounded with Love. I feel like an old television that finally got cable. My picture is clear and bright and it is all because I am created by a Loving Source and I know walk in that Power, the Power of Truth.
We can be born again and just as I welcome three children to the world, I was made fresh and new, given all the benefits of heaven. Flesh of His flesh and bone of Hos bone, joints heirs to the vastness of the Heavens and Universe, they are all mine, my Divine rights as the Beloved Child. Good Luck.

 

[douglasdc6]

Judging from the posts -

All that I intended to say has ben said.

As for doing something nice for people - try this.

Next time you pull into a drive through Restaurant - Tell the cashier you would like to pay for the meal for the car behind you.

Think about it - How would you feel if you pulled up to the window to hear the clerk say to you here`s youre meal , the people who drove off just bought youre meal .

How would you feel ?

I`ve had alot of fun with this one .

 

[andrewinorlando]

How absurd a thought that folks think that God sits there and doles out "good and bad" to this one and that one based on some whim or punishment. Like He says, "I'm gonna mess with this one today and give him a rash of shit to deal with".

The bottom line is that shit happens. That's life. No one ever said life was going to be a bowl or cherries or a walk in the park. Sometimes it sucks. And more times than not, we bring the negative on ourselves by deeds and thoughts. It's so friggin easy to blame God rather than accept responsiblity for our own actions or negativity. But God has given us a tremendous gift, one for which some do not seem to be terribly greatful. That is the gift of intelligence; the ability to think, reason, analyze. To use that great big brain that sits in our heads to change our situation for the better and make our lives what we'd like them to be. And guess, what? It does take work and it takes time. Maybe things don't happen when we'd like them to happen, but then again, it depends on how much effort we want to put into making things happen. But don't blame God. He has enough crap to deal with after Sarah Palin's new book!!

 

[toggleswitch2]

They say man was made in God's image.
I believe God was made in man's image.
If YOUR verison of God is vengful/nasty/punitive/vindictive/merciless/ugly it is a relflecion, then of YOUR OWN limted way of thinking.

And let's get this right, ALL human thinking is limited. Some more than others.

I'm just saying.......

 

[vacuumfreeeke]

Most of the people here said what I wanted to say too. Especially the part about loving yourself first. Often times when people are so desperate to find someone it is because they don't love themselves or are insecure. Not saying that's the case with you since I don't know you, but that's the way it is often times.

Now... about this God business. I have never seen any evidence or experienced any proof that God exists. I was raised in Baptist and Pentecostal churches, until I was kicked out of several of them for being gay. Then I started thinking for myself and realized that I didn't have to believe in a creature called God just because other people told me to. What if when you were born, you were dropped on a deserted island with no parents, teachers, or religious leaders. There wouldn't have been anyone there to tell you about God. How would you know he existed. When you are a child, you believe what you are told. You are told by other people that there is a God, so you think there is one. That doesn't mean there actually is one!

So, my point is, if God doesn't exist, and you are depending on someone/thing that doesn't exist to meet your needs, you aren't meeting your own needs and nothing is happening for you. Too many people use God as an excuse to be lazy.

One website that really helped me when I was deciding if I should remain a person of faith or not is called whywontgodhealamputees.org. Christians claim that God can do ANYTHING he wants to... he can even heal people of cancer or aids or anything. There are reports from churches everywhere that "the Lord" healed their grandmothers uncles sisters cousin from a tumor over night through the power of prayer. However, God has never regenerated the lost limb of a person who has had theirs amputated. Even if they are a strong person of faith and have faith "the size of a mustard seed". Why not? Does he hate amputees, and only chose to answer the prayers of people who have all their limbs? Or could it possibly be that there is no God?!

Like Bill Maher, I can't say that I know there isn't a God, just like you can't say you know for sure there is a God. We're both only human, and you don't have any special powers that I don't have.

I know it's comforting to many people to have a God to explain things they don't understand or to blame things on, but just because many people cling to the notion of God doesn't make him real!

I've heard a wise saying that I'll repeat to you: It's better to be single and wish you weren't than to not be single and wish you were!

My boyfriend is coming over in a hour and I almost wish he wasn't! He's very sweet, but I really love being alone and I love myself. I don't need other people around to feel OK with me! My happiness and self-esteem are not wrapped up in how other people feel about me. I wasn't always like that. When I was younger, I thought, "If I don't find a man to love me I'll just die. What's wrong with me that I can't find a man?" Then I realized that it's OK to be single, and made my mind up to be happy. Then I found my boyfriend.

http://whywontgodhealamputees.com/

 

[alr2903]

simply my fav 3

Big Eadie in Grey Gardens, "Everyone looks, feels and thinks differently as time goes by". Forrest Gump, "Life is like a box of chocolates". Opportunity is often missed because it comes dressed in over-alls and sounds like work. alr2903

 

[speed_queen75]

Thanks...

For all you guys responses, but every single one of you totally missed what i said in the first place, and some of you make it sound like i chose to be in this situation, if i chose to be single and constantly rejected then i would have never bitched about my whole situation in the first place.

My dear Grandmother always used to say " A rich and fullfilled man will never understad the needs and wants of an unfullflled and poor man"

I am sure that most if not all of you that have responded to me have a partner and are not lonely, and a fith weel all the time.

The Holidays are around the cvorner and there will be partys, upon partys that i will be attending, all of which afre friends that have someone in their lives, and i as always will be the one that is single and the fith wheel, watching them be happy and enjoy the company of a man, and i can assure each and every one of you here that most of them do not deserve it and are very ungreatful for waht they have been given, hearing them talk and bash their partners alone is enough to make anyone puke, but yet they were handed someone on a fucking silver platter, while the ones that would appreciate and deserve a good man is denied that request.

The Bible teaches us that God will not let his children lack nothing it's in the book of Psalms and in the New testament, and it also teaches us that God is Almighty and powerful and that whosoever ask "Anything" in his name shall be granted it, but yet i ask and i don't recieve, yet others don't ask a are truely ungreatful are granted their wish.

Most of you on here have told me that i should first love myself, and that i do, anyone who knows me personally knows this about me, they also know that i can be a loveing, caring, giving person, I just get bitter seeing others get what they do not deserve nor are greatful for what they have, be granted to them.

Growing up, my parents would reward me with things only when i could prove to them that i was deserving of it, when i got it, i still had to be greatfull for it, if i was not it was taken away, like my very first dog that i wanted, i was deserving of it, and got it, yet i was not greatful for it and so it was taken away.

God unfortunatly does not work like that, he grants to those who do not deserve, and when they show ungratitude, he does not take it away.

And yes God does play matchmaker, He sent Sual a wife, did he not? Yet when i ask God to allow me to be at the right place at the right time, i get skipped and the person sitting next to me gets it handed to them.

My very best childhood friend my confidant, told me the other day that she works with has given her and ingagement ring, and wants to marry her, however, she asked me what she should do about the other guy that she has been seeing, whom also works with her, and weather or not it would be ok to marry Jim and still play around, yet forbid him to do so.

That is what makes me bitter, that God would allow her to "cross paths" with this man, who truely is a grat guy, hard working, yet she is not thankful for him and nor does she deserve him, yet I am a guy who does not play that game, nor would i ever "I'm not a whore" I get skipped and watch this shit unfold infront of my eyes, that is why my faith is so thin and i am mad at God, cause I am greatful for all that i have, i thnak him daily, for everything, yet when i ask him to do a simple task that he does for others daily, I am Denied.

I just want to thank all of you for your advice, although most of you compleatly missed the whole point, I did not choose this, and yes i have done things to change it, but when a higher power is not in your favor, there is not much one can do to change the situation..

 

[panthera]

Lee,

God is definitely not in opposition to you. We did listen to you - you got answers from the entire spectrum of people here except the hard-core bitchy queens. And they'd just scream at you for the joy of being nasty.

Several of the those who wrote to you have either lost their loves to Aids or other serious diseases. Several! Others are coping with financial or family responsibilities which make your life look like a piece of cake. One writer is recuperating from major surgery...

The only chance you have to find someone to love is to focus on others. I know it sounds trite, but love is not love until you give it away. Now, I am the last person who believes in all this American bullshit about running to a shrink every time your fingernail polish chips, and God knows there are enough bitches around who like to call anyone mentally ill who doesn't bow down to their imperial sense of themselves.

BUT, that said: You, my dear, are in serious need of talking to a gay-friendly counsellor (Metropolitan Community Church pastor, for instance) or shrink who can help you figure out just what the hell is not working out for you here.

You are capable of humour, you are capable of writing coherently. I don't think I'm overstepping boundaries to say we all get you're in pain. Somehow you've got to break through that cycle and I really think talking with a counsellor wouldn't hurt.

When we say get out and do normal things, it's because we have been through the 'gay scene' and figured out that for most gay men (and certainly for you) it is NOT the place to find the right guy. No, not looking for another flame war like last year about how funtastic gay bars are and what a prick I am for saying they're not the place to be...but for you, Lee, it's not your world.

Look, straight men and women tend to like me. Women, especially. Gay men either love me or hate me. There's no in between. I'm too big, too butch and too out for one half. I'm not queenly enough or submissive to the powers that be enough for the other half. I'm too much a top or was it too much a bottom? I never can remember, for yet another half and the fact that I'm monogamous by nature pisses off the half that think any guy who's monogamous is looking down his nose at them...and the other half who think it's a perversion. Of course, the other half thinks I'm too fem...and then...and you know what? That's just plain normal for the gay scene.

But I have friends and people who genuinely care about me. Why? Because, except for here, I avoid the gay scene like the plague. I'm 100% gay, and I love a man. But unless you fit in with a very select crowd (and I'd rather eat broken glass than fit in with them), it's not your life. You're not that type of gay.

So, enough whining! Aaargh!, get out, volunteer, see a shrink (or gay-friendly pastor) and be a friend. It hurts to be alone, I get that. But with your current self-pity party, you're not alone - and there is no room in your heart for someone else as long as you're totally focussed on you, you, you.

 

[appnut]

Lee, I emailed you.

 

[sudsmaster]

Seems to me that in this milieu one tends to attract those who are similar in tastes and attudes. So if one is bitter and negative and refuses to reach out but instead depend upon some supernatural force instead... then guess what... the other person who is doing the same probably never will meet up with you, because you'll both be waiting for that force to bring you together.

Try being more like the person you'd like to meet. If you want someone to approach you and get interested... then approach someone else and get interested. It's a two way street - as others have said, nobody goes out at night thinking "Gosh, I'd like to meet someone who is bitter, negative, refuses to reach out and instead is waiting for God to find them true love", do they?

And I don't want to offend any religious sensibilities, but personally I think that people should consider all the pain, suffering, death, and destruction that happens daily in this world to good people, and consider that if God doesn't prevent those things, what makes us think God will intercede in our love lives? I mean, really!

Finally, as Toggles pointed out by example, life is far too short to waste on feeling sorry for yourself, or trying to blame others or God for one's own unhappiness. Enjoy and appreciate life while it lasts. 30 yrs old is a great place to be - if you do the right thing.

 

[sudsman]

Lee

the only one here that has missed the point is YOU! All the answers are true to life and have years of experience to back them up. Many of us here HAVE LOST a lot the past year. Many more than you can ever guess. Family Memebers, Mothers, Fathers Brothers, Sisters Dear Loves and devoted much loved pets. And if you dont think a pet loss can as devestating or more so than a family memeber you have never had the joy of knowing true unconditional love. many of us are close to or almost 2 x your age and have been thru many years of pain. Your pain is felt but so is you stubborness and laziness too.
Quit screaming give me give me give me.. get up off your ass and go get it yourself. You get back just what you give out. Give out nothing and that is what you will receive in abundance!

 

[whitekingd]

You know,

I have sat here and thought the very same thing! Really! I am a great person and a "catch" , even though I'm not thin and pretty. I'm FAT and pretty! But, why not me? I don't know what to recommend other that trust in GOD. It might not make sense to us, but it does to HIM. And be available. Make sure you are positive to others and yourself.

 

[toggleswitch2]

~God unfortunately does not work like that, he grants to those who do not deserve, and when they show ungratitude, he does not take it away.

Who are you to decide and judge who deserves what?

~Because, except for here, I avoid the gay scene like the plague. I'm 100% gay, and I love a man. But unless you fit in with a very select crowd (and I'd rather eat broken glass than fit in with them), it's not your life. You're not that type of gay.

Single people need to part of the "scene", to some extent. Since you are far far far above everyone else, won't it be wonderful how much you will elevate that scene?

~I just want to thank all of you for your advice, although most of you completely missed the whole point, I did not choose this, and yes I have done things to change it, but when a higher power is not in your favor, there is not much one can do to change the situation.

You have given your power away to "others". Learned helplessness runs rampant among various ethnic groups and religions. Trust me on this one, it's not the best place to be. You may not have chosen your "poor miserable" life
bnut your thought-process certainly bring you all that you don't want and keeps away from you that which you want.

What exactly do you have to offer a spouse? And dont tell me "unconditional love". Please step out of the Cinderalla fairy-tale, and get yoru feet planted formly on the ground. You forget that even she was a hard worker, humble, kept house superbly and knew how to deal with negativity including evil family and in-laws.


~Growing up, my parents would reward me with things only when i could prove to them that i was deserving of it, when i got it, i still had to be greatfull for it, if i was not it was taken away, like my very first dog that i wanted, i was deserving of it, and got it, yet i was not grateful for it and so it was taken away.

They were trying to better you, not embitter you. By the time one is 30 years old they need to forgive their parents for all transgressions real or imagined. Move on dear boy, move on!

Dear Sir you are redeemable. Change your thoughts and you change the world. And for heaven's sake stop looking at what others (especially women) do and have. You are a man and i'd say one of the biggest turn-offs in the gay world is having a man that process information and feelings ("thinks")/acts like a woman. I"m not syaing you are or do, but keep it in mind.

This was posted in the Rolodex of my boss years ago. It was a guide to successw in business and life.

Adapt
Overcome
Improve
Never complain.


Sorry to have such strong opinions. I am coming from a place of light, love, peace and kindness, and I hope you see that.

The victim mentality you have will only feed upon itself.

 

[re563]

Toggleswitch2 is Correct!!!!

Instead of trying to blame someone or something for your life and situation, look at yourself. What are you doing to help yourself. And, since you bring it up about God and him being hateful towward you, it also says that God helps those who help themselves. You have the power to create, and transform anything you desire. So, what have you done?? As I said before, and others have said, It's not for you to sit in judgement of what others have or receive. Be happy for them, and move on. Staying bitter, and resentful will/has gotten you nowhere. Everytime I have met someone was when I was going about my life and doing my own thing and not focused on finding a man. Stop being so focused. Enjoy your life, Enjoy being yourself. Then, he will be "Plopped" in your lap. When entering into a relationship, you should be at a point in your life where you are comfortable with what you have and what you have accompllished, and want to share that with someone. If you think that you need a man/woman to complete you, then it's doomed from the start. You have to be happy with you.

I do have to agree with Sudsman. Stop trying to blame someone or something with your situation. You are the one that has missed the whole point here. When I turned 40 I was in the same boat as you and I walked around my house, (saying out loud I might add), "I'm lonely, I want a boyfriend, I want a boyfriend", well, I got one alright. It has been the worst 6 yrs of my life. I have no one else to blame for this but myself. I am now taking steps to correct this. I don't mean to be condisending, or mean, but listen to what we are all trying to tell you. I'm sure you are a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you. You do have to market yourself. It may take sometime, going out and giving of your time and talents freely and unconditionally to those less fortunate will have a huge payoff.

 

[tomturbomatic]

I responded and I don't have a partner, but then I don't feel the need for one to make my life complete. Pretty soon, I will need a nurse more than a partner anyway. As for being the 5th wheel, that can be to your advantage. At functions, you can help serve the trays of goodies and take them around to people, talking with them while offering them food. Unless it's a Weight Watchers group, few people will turn their back on you. And with food, you have an instant topic of conversation. If you are willing to help out like this, you can become a "must invite" guest and have many opportunities to meet people, maybe Mr. Right and if not him, maybe Mr. Right Now. Maybe it's just that I am at home in the kitchen, but I have found that the group in the kitchen often has more fun at events than any other group; you can hear the best stories there. The people are generally more down to earth and engaged in useful activity instead of drinking too much. It provides an opportunity for being close to people so you can talk while focusing on physical tasks. If you demonstrate a little knowledge of appliances, someone might know another person who likes or works with appliances and they might be able to introduce you to a new friend. You just never know. But you cannot expect success in anything if you have a mad-on at the Creator, because that wrecks any harmony you hope to have and you have to present a harmonious personality to win over people, unless you are shopping for a shrink.

 

[mixfinder]

For womever you choose as a Higher Power

Here's a short version I often use when praying:
Ask yourself, what do you most hope for? Now, what quality of God must you develop your faith in? Now, pray for that quality to be made manifest in your life.

For example, if you hope for greater friendships at work, and believe the quality of God that would bring friendship to you is Love, then pray for the Love of God to flow through you and attract the friends to you that you hope for.

I always end my prayers with a caveat "let it appear in a way that brings meSatisfaction and Fulillment" to prevent myself from praying into existence something that may not be for my best and highest good.

 

[markk290]

Hi, I am Mark and I am single too. Having read all that you have said and all of the responses from the other members and I'd like to respond. I've had 6 wonderful people given to my over my 47 years, not appreciating what God had given me. The grass was always greener on the other side and I acted on that. They were never enough for me or so I thought. I have been single for a year and a half wanting someone to complete me. WRONG. We, as most everyone else has said, need to complete ourselves. The need to depend on someone else is called co-dependence something I am learning about. I was raised by two wonderful co-dependent parents who took me to church every sunday. They thought me how to be co-dependent all too well. NOW it's my job to learn how to love myself as God loves me. Envy is not of God nor is humans judging, that one is left up to God not us.
Stop being so hard on yourself, try to listen to all that is being said there a lot of very wise people here trying to help you and it sounds like they really do care. I have learned some things from them as well. Thanks to you all.

 

[petek]

We completely missed the point?

I don't think so. You don't seem to or want to come to the realization that the reason isn't God or your friends but you and only you. In some way or some form it is and you just don't know what it is yet. You may think you didn't choose to be in this situation and you probably didn't intentionally but we aren't always conscious of the way we act or project ourselves to others.
Secondly the whole tone of your original message and your later response screams victimhood and a repellant poor me attitude. Perhaps you're projecting those and or some other negative vibe for lack of a better word to those around you?

 

[toggleswitch2]

YOU CANT "DO" ME UNLESS I LAY DOWN FIRST!

Everyone is exactly where they want to be in life, or they would change it.

I need to loose a couple of tonnes (1,000kg each) or tons(2,000 pounds each). That means intense gym and less food.
I need to get a part-time job to supplelement my full-time job to get ahead financially.
I have only me to blame because I have no drive to get these crucial things done. I admit it.

I could cry to you that my divorce of 4+ years ago robbed me of everything that was dear to me, but why? Believe me when I tell you I was at the top of the world.

I have everything I need, but not everything I want. I have pulled myself out of near-suicide (and the gutter) many times in life. Guess what? NOTHING and NO ONE is worth it. We get disappointed in life because we have (unrealistic) expectations. Get rid of your expectations and you get rid of your problems.

One of my sisters (who can be a nasty viscious *unt) once said to me. "You know what I love about you? No matter what bad things happen to you and who hurts you...you bounce back stronger than ever." From her it was GOSPEL!

Sorry kids I was told I have my black shirt and white collar on all during this thread, *LOL*

Lee, I KNOW you can do it. Since you looking to G-d for all, try being Christ-like. Find your personal power, forgive, forget, overlook and get rid of any attiude of entitlement. Get rid of the jealousy, bitterness and competitveness and open your heart to love. Try to see the beauty in all things. Life is not measured in reachings the (train )stations. "I'll be heappy when: I have a partner, a house,a career, lose 20 lbs, graduate college, get married. NO NO NO it's the WHOLE ride on the train of life that is what you make of it.

My ehtnic group has a saying:

Life is like a cucumer. Some people eat it and are refreshes and nourished. Otherrs eat it an get "AGEDA" (gas/stomach problems).

Thanks for listening. I have said WAY TOO MUCH And will try to stay the hell out of this thread going forward.

 

[danemodsandy]

Jim:

There may be some missed points on both sides here. If I understand you correctly, you're concerned about what you see as a lack of luck. I can certainly empathise with that; luck plays a much larger part in most people's lives than they're ever willing to admit. It's luckier to be born in America rather than some other countries, for instance; one will almost certainly have a better life overall here instead of in a Third World country, without having done anything to deserve or not deserve that outcome. It's luckier to be born into a rich family (where one will almost certainly get a college education and very helpful connections to future business associates) than into a poor one. Luck does - very definitely - have something to do with it.

But luck is a resource that can be managed. The woods are full of people who were not born into rich families, yet went to college anyway, because they set that as a goal and let nothing and no one stand in their way. Another example might be the task of finding a partner: If someone has not had the luck to find someone easily - perhaps the guy in the next cubicle at work - then one has to work harder at it, joining social groups (church, clubs, etc.) and getting out more. In such ways, luck can be dramatically improved.

So, we do get things we don't ask for. It's just that asking for what we want - and working towards it - can help us speed things along.