How does his or her family treat You? I started this thread after commenting on ButchinNJ clam pie recipe and it got me to thinking of my late other mother ( my partners mom). My goodness she was good and generous and kind to me. She loved to buy me kitchen toy's, We have been partnered over 17 years, and in later years i learned to exercise caution when admiring anything in her home, she would buy me one, so i soon learned to admire inexpensive things. We are not rich or poor, but they were on a fixed income. It wasn't just the material things she truly liked me and i her. You just have to respect these kind of people, his Dad is the same way. Hetero people many times tell in-law horror stories i always felt gay people started out with a handicap with the other half's folks but i was wrong? hows the in-laws treating you?
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I wish i still had in-laws
My recent EX, inlaws treated me very well. My ex had kinda of a small family, but his father, sister, and niece were very good to me, even after we broke up
On the flip, my mother still loves my EX. He still comes to family functions. But its all good now as we are better friends now that we are no longer together.
My 1st BF, well.... i wouldnt piss on him if he was on fire! His family turned on me the minute we broke up!
My recent EX, inlaws treated me very well. My ex had kinda of a small family, but his father, sister, and niece were very good to me, even after we broke up
On the flip, my mother still loves my EX. He still comes to family functions. But its all good now as we are better friends now that we are no longer together. My 1st BF, well.... i wouldnt piss on him if he was on fire! His family turned on me the minute we broke up!
Depends
My married gay friends and, from what I've read it's generally true, all report pretty much the same thing as do my married str8 friends.
Either they accept you into the family or they don't.
I strongly suspect the ones who like you would have also liked you if you were the other sex. The ones who are nasty to you would also have been nasty, regardless of sex.
I think a child who has lied to his or her parents for decades and who words the invitation card to their wedding like this:
John and I fell for each other in the trucker's cab down at the baths.
We mean literally, he slipped on some lube and the next thing I knew, we were a couple.
So now we want to make it permanent and you are invited to our wedding on the 31 June....
Probably shouldn't be surprised when his parents are not quite as non-judgmentally PC as he would like.
I'm excluding the christianists here. If I had such parents, I'd tell my fiance the family were all early victims of Charles Manson and I was found under a sales counter at Tiffany...
My married gay friends and, from what I've read it's generally true, all report pretty much the same thing as do my married str8 friends.
Either they accept you into the family or they don't.
I strongly suspect the ones who like you would have also liked you if you were the other sex. The ones who are nasty to you would also have been nasty, regardless of sex.
I think a child who has lied to his or her parents for decades and who words the invitation card to their wedding like this:
John and I fell for each other in the trucker's cab down at the baths.
We mean literally, he slipped on some lube and the next thing I knew, we were a couple.
So now we want to make it permanent and you are invited to our wedding on the 31 June....
Probably shouldn't be surprised when his parents are not quite as non-judgmentally PC as he would like.
I'm excluding the christianists here. If I had such parents, I'd tell my fiance the family were all early victims of Charles Manson and I was found under a sales counter at Tiffany...
Depends
My married gay friends and, from what I've read it's generally true, all report pretty much the same thing as do my married str8 friends.
Either they accept you into the family or they don't.
I strongly suspect the ones who like you would have also liked you if you were the other sex. The ones who are nasty to you would also have been nasty, regardless of sex.
I think a child who has lied to his or her parents for decades and who words the invitation card to their wedding like this:
John and I fell for each other in the trucker's cab down at the baths.
We mean literally, he slipped on some lube and the next thing I knew, we were a couple.
So now we want to make it permanent and you are invited to our wedding on the 31 June....
Probably shouldn't be surprised when his parents are not quite as non-judgmentally PC as he would like.
I'm excluding the christianists here. If I had such parents, I'd tell my fiance the family were all early victims of Charles Manson and I was found under a sales counter at Tiffany...
My married gay friends and, from what I've read it's generally true, all report pretty much the same thing as do my married str8 friends.
Either they accept you into the family or they don't.
I strongly suspect the ones who like you would have also liked you if you were the other sex. The ones who are nasty to you would also have been nasty, regardless of sex.
I think a child who has lied to his or her parents for decades and who words the invitation card to their wedding like this:
John and I fell for each other in the trucker's cab down at the baths.
We mean literally, he slipped on some lube and the next thing I knew, we were a couple.
So now we want to make it permanent and you are invited to our wedding on the 31 June....
Probably shouldn't be surprised when his parents are not quite as non-judgmentally PC as he would like.
I'm excluding the christianists here. If I had such parents, I'd tell my fiance the family were all early victims of Charles Manson and I was found under a sales counter at Tiffany...
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Me and my partner Terry are not married we have chosen not to, we dont live together we each keep seperate homes. We have been togther 23 years I am 46 years old he is in his autmn years, I met him when I was at the tender age of 26 years old, and at the time me and my 1st partner were at the end of the line. We met at a very well know cruising area of Newcastle upon Tyne in 1986, we both got down and dirty litterally by the light of the moon. Seeing that big strong hairy big man standing there in his birthday suit he was a body builder for 25 years when I met him MY OH MY OH MY. a few days later I broke the news to my now ex, I told him I had fallen in love with someone else. He of course begged and pleaded and cried, there was no going back as I felt trapped. I realised he was only using me as the proverbial house boy, he didnt want me to get a job. So I broke free, He moved out and the flat I had then I had the landlord remove his name from the tenancy. I kept the flat on, as long as I could.
Today I am still with Terry, Lets just say my own father was never there for me. Terry has met my Dad in 1999, and did welcome him as part of the "family" my elder sister likes him too.
Terry has been the dad I have always wanted, he has done a better job or raising me. I am in job thankfully, I have a home and a man to watch over me. I return his love by loving him back, Gay mariage is not for every one. Me and him dont need a bit of paper to declare our love for each other
Me and my partner Terry are not married we have chosen not to, we dont live together we each keep seperate homes. We have been togther 23 years I am 46 years old he is in his autmn years, I met him when I was at the tender age of 26 years old, and at the time me and my 1st partner were at the end of the line. We met at a very well know cruising area of Newcastle upon Tyne in 1986, we both got down and dirty litterally by the light of the moon. Seeing that big strong hairy big man standing there in his birthday suit he was a body builder for 25 years when I met him MY OH MY OH MY. a few days later I broke the news to my now ex, I told him I had fallen in love with someone else. He of course begged and pleaded and cried, there was no going back as I felt trapped. I realised he was only using me as the proverbial house boy, he didnt want me to get a job. So I broke free, He moved out and the flat I had then I had the landlord remove his name from the tenancy. I kept the flat on, as long as I could.
Today I am still with Terry, Lets just say my own father was never there for me. Terry has met my Dad in 1999, and did welcome him as part of the "family" my elder sister likes him too.
Terry has been the dad I have always wanted, he has done a better job or raising me. I am in job thankfully, I have a home and a man to watch over me. I return his love by loving him back, Gay mariage is not for every one. Me and him dont need a bit of paper to declare our love for each other
Ah, Kevin
Isn't that the whole point of it? You and your love have a choice - you also live in a country which considers you human.
Gays and transgender in the US don't even have the most basic human rights.
I'm glad you're happy together.
My guy makes me happy, I do want to marry him. To each, his own. That's all it takes.
Isn't that the whole point of it? You and your love have a choice - you also live in a country which considers you human.
Gays and transgender in the US don't even have the most basic human rights.
I'm glad you're happy together.
My guy makes me happy, I do want to marry him. To each, his own. That's all it takes.
My ex and I were together for 12 years and he's youngest of 4 boys (the oldest is also gay). I always got along with his siblings no problem and they treated me well, welcoming me, more or less, into the family from the beginning.
Unfortunately his father died during the first month we were dating so I never got a chance to meet him. His mother for the first few years was very cold to me, she would not greet me or talk to me, etc. But being Chinese she was very "old school" and often asked him when he was going to get married and have children, even though we were obviously a couple (we started living together after a year).
Finally at one point (four or so years in) he finally sat her down and in so many words said "OK, look... I will not be getting married or having children because..........". While it did not happen over night, she eventually warmed up to me and accepted the fact that she had two gay sons, realized neither his oldest brother nor I corrupted him (making him gay) and she accepted me into the family. She would come (from Malaysia) and stay with us sometimes twice a year for 2 to 4 months at a time and we eventually became quite close.
I have a very little contact now since she lives in Malaysia and my Ex has moved to Hong Kong.
Unfortunately his father died during the first month we were dating so I never got a chance to meet him. His mother for the first few years was very cold to me, she would not greet me or talk to me, etc. But being Chinese she was very "old school" and often asked him when he was going to get married and have children, even though we were obviously a couple (we started living together after a year).
Finally at one point (four or so years in) he finally sat her down and in so many words said "OK, look... I will not be getting married or having children because..........". While it did not happen over night, she eventually warmed up to me and accepted the fact that she had two gay sons, realized neither his oldest brother nor I corrupted him (making him gay) and she accepted me into the family. She would come (from Malaysia) and stay with us sometimes twice a year for 2 to 4 months at a time and we eventually became quite close.
I have a very little contact now since she lives in Malaysia and my Ex has moved to Hong Kong.
Oops... forgot to add........
We (thankfully) never got "married", did a civil union OR a domestic partnership.
We (thankfully) never got "married", did a civil union OR a domestic partnership.
The mother of my
first serious boyfriend did not like me. Not because I was a gay man, but because I was a non-Jewish gay man. In time, I became a better Kosher-style cook than she, and she did not like that, either.
Most of my other relationships since have not gotten past the 3 hour mark. Usually, that's ok.
Lawrence/Maytagbear
first serious boyfriend did not like me. Not because I was a gay man, but because I was a non-Jewish gay man. In time, I became a better Kosher-style cook than she, and she did not like that, either.
Most of my other relationships since have not gotten past the 3 hour mark. Usually, that's ok.
Lawrence/Maytagbear
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mmmmmmmmmmm Considers us human, have you seen what the labor government has done to the common working man. that's human I think not lol
mmmmmmmmmmm Considers us human, have you seen what the labor government has done to the common working man. that's human I think not lol
My brother has it from both ends
Our mother STILL hopes it is just a phase. To put that into perspective, let's just say when my brother first came out Madonna was still a material girl. His partner's mother STILL hopes Benny will "come around" and find the right girl. They've been together 12 years. <sigh> I have always been my brothers confidant in such matters, and it has always hurt him deeply that our mother couldn't accept him for who he was.
Now our father otoh, is 180 degrees. Dad was one of those, "don't give him a doll/blowdry his hair/dress him up/teach him manners/etc or you'll turn him into a f%&". These days? Dad could care less. To him, Dan is still his son, and Benny is Dan's chosen partner - and that's the end. Growing up mom was the hippy liberal - go figure.
-Sherri
Our mother STILL hopes it is just a phase. To put that into perspective, let's just say when my brother first came out Madonna was still a material girl. His partner's mother STILL hopes Benny will "come around" and find the right girl. They've been together 12 years. <sigh> I have always been my brothers confidant in such matters, and it has always hurt him deeply that our mother couldn't accept him for who he was.
Now our father otoh, is 180 degrees. Dad was one of those, "don't give him a doll/blowdry his hair/dress him up/teach him manners/etc or you'll turn him into a f%&". These days? Dad could care less. To him, Dan is still his son, and Benny is Dan's chosen partner - and that's the end. Growing up mom was the hippy liberal - go figure.
-Sherri
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Same here Sherri
The same here Sherri, My partner Terry is now 69 years old. My Father had the same attitude now back in 1999 My Dad met Terry when he was 59, I was 36 years old then. My dad always knew I was gay anyway, but I didnt show the usual traits that a man of my dads age would have expected in a gay man. Camp prissy and effeminate, far from it to my dad I was the total so called st8 acting Gay man, for me it wasnt an act it was totally "normal", My Dad had no problems with Terry, he did at the time then when he was alive, accept Terry as part of the Family. I seem to remember Christmas day being the best ever christmas present from my dad, knowing that he accepted him totally
The same here Sherri, My partner Terry is now 69 years old. My Father had the same attitude now back in 1999 My Dad met Terry when he was 59, I was 36 years old then. My dad always knew I was gay anyway, but I didnt show the usual traits that a man of my dads age would have expected in a gay man. Camp prissy and effeminate, far from it to my dad I was the total so called st8 acting Gay man, for me it wasnt an act it was totally "normal", My Dad had no problems with Terry, he did at the time then when he was alive, accept Terry as part of the Family. I seem to remember Christmas day being the best ever christmas present from my dad, knowing that he accepted him totally
