Hey, thanks everyone-
Lot's of good advice, I've tried some of it without much luck. We have visiting nurse/hospice at this point - at least for another week or so. I called the team leader, we're on the "red" team and left a message saying I need info and help with res-bit care, but she never returned my call. I called the insurance company, Blue Care Network, talked to the social worker. She gave a list of agencies I could hire at my cost to help, other than that drop dead. Called the social worker at the hospital where he had his rehab asking for advice and she never returned my call- so I get the message- they are not interested in helping.
The last time we did nursing home/rehab was a disaster. He was there 6 weeks and made little progress. He broke his femur and needed rehab to get back to walking. They kept him in a wheel chair and his therapy consisted of folding clothes and stuff, very little effort to get him walking. I pulled him out of there, they came and did a home study with him and the therapist told him odds are you will never walk again. With a little real therapy he was out shoveling snow a month later. This was the highly regarded Heartland facility near by. My brother and I looked at many facilities and this was the best of the bunch.
His Dr. said in a nursing home setting they would put a Foley in and in short order he would get infections become septic and die, I thought the same. The Nursing home has no incentive to get him up and out, the bed is filled they are happy. The hospital rehab was exactly what he needed and needs. They take no crap and make him do the work. Their goal is in and out.
Money is tight but he's not low income so there is no help there. I feel like I'm caught in a catch 22. I really appreciate the support from people here. I have a large family but now they are scattered and cannot offer much help. Plus they all have kids and jobs that keep them very busy. My brother is of little help even though he lives only 2 or 3 miles away. It'd be nice if he made dinner now and then and brought it over , but that thought does not cross his mind. Said to him he might have to spend Fri. afternoon here so I can go out and do a few things and he just rolled his eyes. I have been able to get him to do a few things, but it's difficult. He has his own problems, he's been suffering from severe back pain for years and was told by his specialist that surgery was not even an option. There are days he can barley walk. So,I give give him a little pass on some things. It's good to be able to vent here a bit and I really appreciate being able to do that!
Lot's of good advice, I've tried some of it without much luck. We have visiting nurse/hospice at this point - at least for another week or so. I called the team leader, we're on the "red" team and left a message saying I need info and help with res-bit care, but she never returned my call. I called the insurance company, Blue Care Network, talked to the social worker. She gave a list of agencies I could hire at my cost to help, other than that drop dead. Called the social worker at the hospital where he had his rehab asking for advice and she never returned my call- so I get the message- they are not interested in helping.
The last time we did nursing home/rehab was a disaster. He was there 6 weeks and made little progress. He broke his femur and needed rehab to get back to walking. They kept him in a wheel chair and his therapy consisted of folding clothes and stuff, very little effort to get him walking. I pulled him out of there, they came and did a home study with him and the therapist told him odds are you will never walk again. With a little real therapy he was out shoveling snow a month later. This was the highly regarded Heartland facility near by. My brother and I looked at many facilities and this was the best of the bunch.
His Dr. said in a nursing home setting they would put a Foley in and in short order he would get infections become septic and die, I thought the same. The Nursing home has no incentive to get him up and out, the bed is filled they are happy. The hospital rehab was exactly what he needed and needs. They take no crap and make him do the work. Their goal is in and out.
Money is tight but he's not low income so there is no help there. I feel like I'm caught in a catch 22. I really appreciate the support from people here. I have a large family but now they are scattered and cannot offer much help. Plus they all have kids and jobs that keep them very busy. My brother is of little help even though he lives only 2 or 3 miles away. It'd be nice if he made dinner now and then and brought it over , but that thought does not cross his mind. Said to him he might have to spend Fri. afternoon here so I can go out and do a few things and he just rolled his eyes. I have been able to get him to do a few things, but it's difficult. He has his own problems, he's been suffering from severe back pain for years and was told by his specialist that surgery was not even an option. There are days he can barley walk. So,I give give him a little pass on some things. It's good to be able to vent here a bit and I really appreciate being able to do that!