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[speed_queen75]

The fact of the matter is

Perc is that it really gets to me seeing all my friends, both gay and straight, that are younger than me, already in a relationship, to make matters even worse some don't even appreciate who they are with, and here i am with all these good qualities and a lot to offer in a relationship and i am constantly being denied it, In my town where i live, the only avenues for a gay male like me to meet someone is either in a club or online, which i might add is not the best opportunity in my neck of the woods, and i know your probably thinking, well all you have to is this etc etc, easier said than done. One of my girlfriends always tells me " why do you need a man there nothing but trouble" but yet she has a husband, and is ungrateful to have him, but then again that is how God meant for it to be, the ones who are ungrateful get it and the ones who are grateful do not. I know i am still young and whatever, but i would like to settle down with some one in my young age and have more time to enjoy it, rather than be forced to wait till who knows when and have little time to enjoy it. And i know what your going to say, " I am negative bla bla" truth is life has made me this way, not by choice.

 

[thomasortega]

Lee

Remember how many hours we talked to each other by msn?

Do you emember how many times I told you I wanted a boyfriend

Well, there's somethng I always told you. IT JUST HAPPENS.

Chris was my friend. I know him since a few years ago and until that moment I saw that message written on my dryer, I would never imagine Chris as my boyfriend or as my husband.

I always said he's cute, romantic and of course sexy. He's a mix of Mike Delfino (Desperate Housewives) and Ewan Mcgregor, with a touch of Pierce (I don't remember the last name, the former James Bond.

While that, I'm just a normal guy.
I'm a little fat, I'm loosing my hair, I'm "a few" years older than Chis (only 2 decades LOL).

It just happened because last week I decided to have a fist fight with my worst enemy, my age, and I won.

Yes Sir! I am fat, I have grey hair, I'll stop spending with plastic surgeries and botox and Yes, I always lied when somebody asked my age. Now everybody knows I am "around" 50, not 28. (Ok, I can hide 1 or 2 years LOL)

Mr. Konrad just happened in my life. He was completelly unexpected. I was home having dinner with my good friend and I ended the night with a ring on my finger and a man on my bed.

We never know when it will happen. you can be reading this message right at this moment whie your Mr. Right is in front of the mirror shaving before going to your home and propose.

Or you can wait until your 50's to find your Mr.Right, the same way I did.

the most important is, be OK with yourself. Your're fat, so what? If you're ok, what's the problem? if you don't like it, don't stay there trying to cut your fists with a cotton swab. Do something to change!
If people say you're fat, or your short, or your eyes color doesn't match the curtains send them to hell! When we are loved, we're loved by our content, not our package.

I am very angry with you! I am angry because I am your friend. I am angry because I like you so much and watch you acting like this is painful to me.

You have only two choices. Or start to accept you exactly the way you are, or do somethng to change.

Instead of this drama, why don't you let the other people know your real face?
Where is that brilliant guy I met a few months ago? Where is that romantic italian that made me feel much better when that night I was lonely and sad?

think about it, my friend.
_______________

For those who don't know Lee yet:

He's gorgeous. he's my beloved friend. He's cute, he's romantic, he's polite, He's a guy I would have fallen in love if I was looking for a boyfriend.

AW gave me wonderful gifts. More than 10 friends. Both Lee and John Belfry are my best friends in the US and I am sure I'll know both of them soon, because they are special, they live deep inside my heart.

 

[rp2813]

Lee, the deck may be stacked against you based on where you live and the few opportunities you have to meet people locally, but the one thing you need to remember is that you need to let "it" find you. Don't go out on a mission or you'll likely be disappointed.

I liken it to heading out to the flea market trying to find a particular item. You never will. You have to go out there just looking to have a good time and then "it" will present itself. That's the way it works, whether it's a guy or a grill.

 

[toggleswitch2]

I like that.

Guy or a girl.
Guy or a grill.

Honey, all will burn you if not handled properly.

 

[speed_queen75]

I know i am fat and i know i am

Ugly, but i dont care, this is me and i am not going to change, i just wish i could have it dropped in my lap for a change, like Thomas and every other GOD DAMN bitch i know out there that just have it fall in their laps and not have to even work for it.

 

[~sudsshane]

Join us each weekday at this time, for the continuing story

While that, I'm just a normal guy.
I'm a little fat, I'm loosing my hair, I'm "a few" years older than Chis (only 2 decades LOL).

It just happened because last week I decided to have a fist fight with my worst enemy, my age, and I won.

Yes Sir! I am fat, I have grey hair, I'll stop spending with plastic surgeries and botox and Yes, I always lied when somebody asked my age. Now everybody knows I am "around" 50, not 28. (Ok, I can hide 1 or 2 years LOL)

Good lord, Chad!, I mean, Thomas..I can't keep up with your stories! First your 28, now your 50? Which is it? Oh, and yes, please post the wedding pics. I am really looking forward to seeing them! I think we all are.

 

[panthera]

Lee,

Has it occurred to you that Thomas has never confirmed the enormous size of his right-hand's best friend?
Gorgeous as this man is, and as much as I truly hope 'tis true, I, also, am very much looking forward to the wedding pictures. Actually, any pics of the two, together, especially ones that are not all too easily photo-shopped.
A-hem.
Who says you are fat and ugly? And since when was looking like a wet-dream a guarantee of being a good partner?

Some of the worst lays in the world are very good looking men. The guys with the dicks o' death are frequently dead in the sack - they think the 8" they've contributed are all anybody needs to bring to the party.

Think of Stephen Baldwin for cryin' out loud. Body by God, heart by Savonarola. Or Mel Gibson. That ass, that chest, those eyes. Backlit by the burning flames of anti-semitism! And insanity.
For every Huge Jackman out there, there are 1,000 bitches who know how to do good makeup.

Losing weight is not easy, I know whereof I speak. But if that is all a boy is interested in, fcuk him and forget him. Better yet, just forget him. OK, honey, I am starting to sound like a scratched CD here. Enough on the topic. You've got guys here rooting for you, time to make plans. As in three-year plans. That is a realistic time frame for getting from where you are now to where you want to be, regardless of context.

 

[2drumsallergy]

Pictures

Hi Folks,
I could be wrong but I'm 99% sure I have seen that guy in the pictures on TV or in a Movie, I could be wrong and if so I apologise in advance. I never forget a face but names are another matter altogether LOL.

David

 

[panthera]

No Shit, David.

I have, too. There are picture matching software programs out there, anybody had a good one?

 

[2drumsallergy]

No Shit

Hi Keven,
I'm now looking for some Picture Matching Software and getting my Credit Card out as I type this LOL.

I would love to solve this riddle!

David

 

[panthera]

In the dim recesses of my mind

I have an association with a blogger...the guy with the cat shooting out the window? Damn! This guy has definitely been on a blog.
Now, it is still possible this is real, only, not all that long ago Thomas was assuring us how much he liked being single...

That's the direction to go, I think...a blogger. Probably gay...serious, not a jerk-yourself-off site.

 

[2drumsallergy]

Internet Image Matching Software

Hi Keven,
From what I have found so far Internet Image Matching Software seems to be the preserve of law enforcement agencies.
I will keep looking though and your suggestion will be a good starting point.

David

 

[panthera]

Nah,

There are a few programs. One German program, Pixolu, I pretty much in Beta format still and buggy as hell.
Thomas could settle this with a simple snap of himself with Mr. Gorgeous...and, indeed, let us know where we know the man from.
Inquiring minds want to know.

 

[rp2813]

LOL Shane! I loved your faux Chad slip! Not like you didn't echo the sentiments of most of the posters here. Tell it like it is, buddy!

Ralph

 

[aquarius1984]

I too have seen that face somewhere..............

It will come to me, it always does.

I cant help but think some Teen Movie..., perhaps this puts someone on the right tracks.

 

[perc-o-prince]

OYE!!

"... but i dont care, this is me and i am not going to change, i just wish i could have it dropped in my lap for a change, like Thomas and every other GOD DAMN bitch i know out there that just have it fall in their laps and not have to even work for it."

It's no suprize that with a nasty attitude like that you are alone. No matter how much people on this site try to help you, you just seem to have your teeth sunk into this pity party that you're hosting.

You've got your head in the clouds if you think that sucessful relationships usually start out by chance or "falling into your lap." They take a lot of work and they are aren't always fantasy-like. Chuck and I have been together for 20 years, and it hasn't always been rosy. We didn't have love at first sight. We were not each others ideal man on the outside. We became friends first, then fell in love with each other. I now can't imagine my life without Chuck. We are friends, confidantes, soul mates, and, lastly, lovers. That is the order that we did things and it took many, many months to get to lover! It took patience, understanding, comprimise, work, and TIME....

Time sounds like something that you aren't willing to spend. You want instant! Sorry dear, that only works in story books.

Sorry if I sound harsh but I feel the need to clear up your twisted misconception that relationships are frivilously dropped into our laps, then we just ride off into the sunset with our Price Charming to live happily ever after.

Lee, get off your pitty-pot and take a good inventory of your self. Point out all of your strengths and good qualities then take a look at what you would like to change...then DO IT!!! Be the man that you would like to date!

Best to you,
Rich

 

[perc-o-prince]

Just another 2 cents worth from me, Lee (Chuck here this time).

I read your post in reply to mine (the one you started with, "The fact of the matter is
Perc is that it really gets to me seeing all my friends, both gay and straight, that are younger than me,").

This isn't a race. Age matters not. What other people value or think of their relationships matters not. You're putting too much stock into other peoples relationships and how they feel about them. You can't change the fact that someone doesn't appreciate their mate. Yes, they have someone and don't appreciate them. You don't see that as fair because you're ready and waiting to appreciate someone. FAIR IS A WEATHER FORECAST!!! Life isn't fair, but, also remember that the greener grass on the other side of the fence is sometimes Astroturf.... green but fake!

I agree with Rich. Take stock of yourself. Look at your strengths and weaknesses and try changing what you can.

But, you've got to stop being so negative with regards to other peoples' relationships. They're not yours and you have no control over them. Change what you can, accept what you cannot, and pray for the strength to know one from the other.

You're wished well, but only to the extent that you're willing to do well for yourself!

Chuck

 

[andrewinorlando]

Lee, it is not yours to judge any one else's relationship or whether or not you "feel" that one does not appreciate their partner. You haven't got a damned clue what goes on in someone's relationship, no matter how much you may think you do, you don't. You don't live their lives, feel their feelings, deal with their everyday problems and how each one reacts to and deals with the other, or feel the sense of resentment that sometimes builds up between two over time. If you think anyone has relationships dropped into their laps, then guess again. It takes time and work.

If you want this for your own life, then you should take some of the advice that's been offered here and follow through. You've got some issues, like a sense of entitlement combined with the "poor me" thing going on. Those are just not attractive qualities and certainly not something I'd go for in a man. No one is entitled to a relationship or a partner in life. You've got to work towards that. Just because you meet someone, does not mean he's gonna be "the one". You may have to kiss many, many frogs, and even a few crocodiles, before you meet "the one".

 

[speed_queen75]

I know i have had a

Pitty party here lately, fact of the matter is it has gotten worse since my fathers death, he was there to comfort me, now he is gone and i feel even more lonely, and it is hard to understand how another person feels until you have walked in their shoes, that is what i tell my best girlfriend Candy, she has forgotten what it fells like to be ALONE and LONELY, now that she is married and in a well to do realtionship, she can't understand why i feel and act this way. I tell her time and time again, i am ready to share my good traits and qualities with another person, i ask myself what is it i am lacking? What is it they have that i don't? Rejection has been the norm of my dating life ever since i came out to my self, sometimes i wonder, "is being a good person really helping me? Or should i be hateful and bitchy like the rest?" I know that one day my ship will eventually come in and that i will meet some one that i can love and cherish, i just fell like i have been cheated and forgotten about. I am not normally this "blue" the holidays are approaching and all my friends are spending time with the ones they love, (Their mates) and i see what they have, good or bad, and desire it, i feel as if the more i pry to God to help me and send me a neighbor the more i am ignored, i know in my heart that is not true, but sometimes it feels that way.

In closing thank you all very much for the great advice you have given me, it has helped i will admit, just remember you don't know how one feels unless you are there yourself.

Once again

Thank you all

Lee

 

[jeffg]

Lee, everyone knows lonliness, even most of us who are partnered. But you're dealing with some difficult percentages. Cleveland TN is a city of 37,000 people, apparently 36,000 of whom are evangelical Christians. And you're hoping to find a gay life partner?

In my view Rich had the best advice ("Be the man who want to date"), but your chances of meeting "the one" are obviously much better if you move to where "the one" lives.