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[thomasortega]

Robert, i know.

The problem is he went to Sao Paulo, as he does every month.
He teaches 15 days at his mom's school and 15 days here in iguassu. (But he'll quit his job at his mom's school by the end of the year)
So I have to wait until he comes back (a few more nights without my teddy bear)
Maybe I'll wait for him at the airport with my camera and my laptop, take some pictures and post a few seconds after he arrives here in Iguassu to end this awful situation ASAP.

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david, Ok, I am guilty, everybody knows I lied my age. the only thing I can say is, nobody spends thousands of dollars in plastic surgeries and botox to look younger and say the real age. By the way, thank you, you saying I look much younger saved my day.
I hate lies, i mean hard lies, that can harm people. I would never lie about something so serious like my marriage.
Since the thread "Hide or not to hide" I cameout of the closet with my real age (and my streched skin LOL)

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rp2813

Yes, he's bottom, why? Ok, I know... he looks too "straight" to be a bottom... well, It's a loooooooooooooong story I won't tell here, but by email to my closer AW friends, those who don't ask for a DNA sample.

 

[thomasortega]

If you don't mind...

... I'd like to put on hold the CSI part of this thread and continue with the most important of all...(I'll be glad to bring this topic back to this thread when I post OUR pictures)

Would you please help me with ideas for my wedding because I don't know beans about it?

Otherwise, I'm going to send the invitations to hell, the party to mars, grab my husband by the neck and put that fu**ing ring on his finger. all in 10 seconds. Done, ready, no stress. after that we can also make a toast with a bottle of... ARIEL!

What the hell, why does a party has to be so stressful? White swans? I want to kill my friend that suggested it. Where will I find white swans here in Brazil? what will I do with them after the party? pull their necks and cook them for dinner? have them as pets here in my apartment? Silk napkins, how much do they cost? can I use kleenex instead of it? Ice scupture, here in Iguassu, on summer? why? it will melt in seconds.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeelp! I bought some magazines but the ideas there are simply stupid. it's my wedding, not Queen Elisabeth's wedding.

Here comes the bride.... the stressed bride! I want a normal party, for normal people. PLEASE HELP ME!

By the way, I scheduled the wedding to january, because my friend John (he's a member here) will be in Brazil.

 

[vulcanchef]

well I'm shocked Thomas

you mean you don't want the full pretentious queen wedding

and for those doubting souls out there I have seen Thomas's passport and drivers license he's 49

 

[panthera]

Thomas,

Why not just sit down and try to visualize what you and Chris would enjoy looking back on as your wedding day in 10 years? Then do it.

By the by, I thought we had all moved past the whole stupid bottom=fem, top=butch thing? It's 2008, girls.

 

[vulcanchef]

"I thought we had all moved past the whole stupid bottom=fem, top=butch thing?"
ditto

 

[thomasortega]

"I thought we had all moved past the whole stupid bottom=fem, top=butch thing?"
ditto 2

 

[~sudsshane]

"Yes, he's bottom, why? Ok, I know... he looks too "straight" to be a bottom... well, It's a loooooooooooooong story I won't tell here, but by email to my closer AW friends, those who don't ask for a DNA sample".

Thomas, tell me something...What would Chris think if he knew you were discussing his preferred role in the bedroom? Personally, I find that rude to even bring that up. What business is it of anyone's what Chris' preferred role is in the bedroom? It show's your immaturity and lack of respect for your partner's privacy.

 

[danemodsandy]

Thomas:

The best wedding would be a very simple ceremony limited to family and friends, with a wedding feast consisting of a feijoada, lots of caipirinha, and a cake. Dance to music - live or canned - kiss and hug everybody, take lots of pictures, and go have a dynamite honeymoon.

Anything more than that is a Martha Stewart Living fantasy, and will cost you accordingly. Why not begin married life in a state of solvency?

 

[thomasortega]

Shane!

Again?

GIVE ME A BREAK!

 

[travis]

Oh Shane...

Thomas didn't bring up the sex roles, Ralph did! Yeah this whole thread is a little long winded about two guys getting married and all.

Thomas, I wish you both the best. No DNA samples necessary.

 

[rp2813]

Guilty as charged but I wasn't suggesting that Chris would be the "wife" in this arrangement. That's a way simplistic Prop 8 type of mindset. It appears to me that Chris is all man.

 

[programcomputer]

Who is this Chad person....

I really hope no one is reffering to me....:-() I say this becasue I havent posted here in a VERY long time, and mainly when I feel the need. My main posts are over in the vacuum forums only, and those are slim to none for various reasons of my own....

Considering that I counted literally 40 some people with blank user profiles on this site alone, before I gave up the ghost; I really think no one can be sure who their dealing with unless you know the person personally. Calling someone out, is cool with me, as long as it's beneficial for both parties. However, one must remmember something very important....

The only person someone hurts when they lie, especially about something that is important as a new relationship is only hurting themselves, with friendships a clsoe second. Falling asleep at night with that kind of pressure on your psyche can't be beneficial, knowing that you've lied to a bunch of people you know by the internet..

For me that leaves Jimmy S, Robert S. and a few others who I met at the vacuum convention this last summer out of the people I can say I "know"from here. And out of those two I feel I know Jimmy best as he's hosted two wonderful get together's that I had the honor of attending.

I love his 55' Packard, and his Westinghouse Laundromats, and is always the consummate good host, and shares his everything as long as your respectful of what he has...as it should be.

Chad

I agree with Robert there Thomas on this issue, just post a simple pic of you and this new gentleman friend, and get it over with. The sooner you do, the clearer your name. If you truly have been talking the talk, your time here will most likely get very lonely as people loose thier trust in you.

Thanks

Ann Arbor Michigan

 

[2drumsallergy]

Chad Miller

Hello Chad,
Please don't worry it's not you. The guy was called Chad Miller user name Exploder321 if memory serves me right. Chad was known for being frugal with the truth amongst other things.

Take care.

David

 

[thomasortega]

Sandy (A guy, not a girl, LOL)

"The best wedding would be a very simple ceremony limited to family and friends, with a wedding feast consisting of a feijoada, lots of caipirinha, and a cake. Dance to music - live or canned - kiss and hug everybody, take lots of pictures, and go have a dynamite honeymoon."

That's what I want. Thanks for the light by the end of the tunnel.

Well, I´ll avoid the feijoada, otherwise we won´t sleep together that night.
Caipirinha is a wonderful idea, specially strawberry or kiwi caipirinha. Easy, simple, delicious and everyone loves it.
Of course I'll offer a fancy caipirinha, with Absolut vodka instead of cachaça.

 

[panthera]

Dahlinks,

It is time to let Chad (not you, programcomputer), Bob and all the others rest in peace. Well, not the teenage racist swine. Him, I would gladly hang by the balls (I have the micro-forceps and a good magnifying glass) then slowly dip him into a vat of angry scorpions. What am I saying, he'd poison the poor beasts.
Let it go:
One, Samantha is forgiving, she might well ask them back at some point. It is her decision, not ours.
Two, who died and appointed us gods? There are several of us here whose personalities are strong enough that a few of the killer queens get their panties all wet in excitement over one or the other of us every week. I don't preface every comment on getting a rusty GE waterpump loose with a diatribe on people I can't stand.
It's time to grow up. We have people out there who just declared us to be non-human. If we don't hang together, we will hang separately.
The LDS managed to organize, the christianists are doing a great job at the pity-party. There are bigger threats than Exploder's tenuous grasp on reality.

 

[retro-man]

Congratulations!!! I am very happy for the both of you. This is great that you have known each other for years and are friends first. You will have a long and happy life together. Make the wedding what you want and not for other people. I think a big outdoor party is great. It's your day and enjoy it.
Jon

 

[toggleswitch2]

So how and when did you two meet?
Tell us about all the fun places you visited while dating!
It would be fascinating to see pics of both of you together and Brazil too.

 

[thomasortega]

Well, he is my friend Claudia's brother, They growed up in Sao Carlos, a city 60 kilometers away from Sao Paulo.
Claudia moved to Iguassu 2 years ago, when her husband decided to start a business in Paraguay.

Since then, Chris stays here in Iguassu for 15 days and in Rio Claro (next to Sao Carlos) other 15 days, because he teaches math at his mom's school and also teaches in a high school here in my city.

Until a few days ago we were just best friends. I don´t know how many times we cried on each other's shoulders when we were sad, how many times we celebrated together the good moments and how many times we had those highly intelectualized conversations about culture, history, etc.

Because of his amazing math skills, and his graduation in mechanical engineering he also helped me when I was working at Electrolux. We spent many nights in front of the drawing desk, sharing a bottle (or 2, or 3, or 4, ad infinitum LOL) of wine using the best of my creativity while he was calculating the technical parameters. (And of course, the next night, we used to recheck everything again, without alcohol).

I had a great team at Electrolux, but my best (and last) projects were designed in my dinning room with his help. I can say he's part of TOP11 family, TOP13 (AKA TOP12), and my best project LT Family.)

When I was unhappy with my job and I couldn't stand my career anymore, he was the first to know and the first to agree with my decision.

Huge detail: I didn´t know (oficially) he is gay. He came out of the closet a few minutes before I open my dryer's door...

Yes guys, two surprises in the same night.

After that night, he went back to SP to finish all his duties with his students, quit his job there and pack his things to close his apartment and move to Iguassu.

We're waiting for John's reply to know the exact date he'll come over here, then we'll schedule the party.

By the way, After a few days stressed, I finally decided how the party will be.

It will be a party like all the others I did. Simple but unforgetable. The only difference will be the wedding cake.
We won't use a suit, there will be no fancy flowers, ice sculpture, silk napkins. the invitations will be made personally or by phone and we don't want gifts.

OFF TOPIC:

He owns a vintage Brastemp "Gran Luxo".

 

[toggleswitch2]

Huge detail: I didn´t know (officially) he is gay. He came out of the closet a few minutes before I open my dryer's door...
Yes guys, two surprises in the same night.

How interesting.
You two are madly in love and getting married, yet you didn't know he was gay, officially?
So for how long did you date? And how is that possible if you did not know he was gay?

 

[thomasortega]

I mean, "oficially".

Of course I could notice he was gay since my friend introduced us, but he wasn´t ready to come out of the closed, so for almost 2 years he denied his preferences.