The worst has happened

[hairybruinuk]

Hi guys sorry to bring a downer again, My partner Terry has been for a body scan to day at the hospital. Now befor I continue Terry does not drink or do drugs, he has cihrosis of the liver owing to an operation he had 30 years ago. He caught hep b from contaminated tools and scalpels the hospital used on him, he has gone thru the suing period. He did recover he has gone 30 years with no problem, his liver did recover to give him back his life. Now today the liver damage he had then and with the heart problem he has now, this again has had a detromental and dangerous effect on the weak heart he has and a liver thats slowly breaking down. If his heart is no good, its only working at %15. Then the rest of his vital organs malfunction, but its the already breaking down liver thats dieing.

I am of course devastated guys, its just a matter of time now. I need a friend now

 

[jaxsunst]

That's terrible. We're here for you and your partner. I'll light a candle.

 

[christfr]

hugs

am so sorry to hear all of this can only imagine what your both feeling but if it helps you always have someone here to talk to or just let it all out to. now is the time to hang together and rely on the love you share. so no matter who goes where first there is alway a part of life left alive in the one who remains behind. so accept my hugs and thougts

 

[DADoES]

Keeping the two of you in my thoughts. All things, life, people, come to an end, but always it happens much too soon, before we've experienced everything in our dreams. Keep your memories of the times and experiences shared. It never fails to light up my grandmother's eyes when I recall a memory of her sister, brothers, family members, friends who have passed. They may be gone, but we remember .....

 

[alr2903]

so sorry to read/hear of this.

Your both in our prayers. alr2903

 

[SactoTeddyBear]

Re: Kevin and Terry:

Your both in my thoughts and Prayers. I know I've not been in contact with you for quite a while, since we first got to know each other through the Club. You have always been in my thoughts anyway and you both will always be there and my Prayers.

I'm sorry to hear about this unfortunate turn of Terry's Health.

Anytime that you are in a need, either contact all of us, or E-Mail us individually. We are all here for you now and will be here for you always.

Peace and Hugs, Steve
[email protected]

 

[re563]

I am so sorry to hear this news. I've never had the chance to meet anyone on this wonderful forum but I feel close to all because of our common interest. Please accept my long distant hugs for you guys and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers

 

[kenmore58]

Guys,

As I sit here trying to deal with my own breakup, I can't even imagine what you're both going through. Rest assured, you'll be in my prayers tonight.

Ron

 

[gadgetgary]

So sorry to hear about your sad news

There is someone in Ct that is here and cares. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. May this bring you a bit of comfort at your time of need.

Gary

 

[maytagbear]

I'm so very sorry,

You both will be in my prayers.

I wish you many good days, and as much laughter as you can find.

Lawrence/Maytagbear

 

[scott55405]

Thinking of you during this difficult time.

 

[irishwashguy]

I will keep you in the prayers of everyone that I know---

Although i have never met you and your partner, I am here in support in anyway that i can be. I will put all yalls on the prayer lists.

 

[perc-o-prince]

I'm so sorry to hear this!

Use this time wisely and treat it as a gift. Every day that we are alive is a gift and a gift that is most often taken for granted!

I'll be thinking of you!!!!

Rich

 

[panthera]

Kevin,

I am sorry to hear this. My thoughts go out to both of you.
Keven

 

[partscounterman]

My thought and prayers are with you.

I would be lost if anything ever happened to my Dennis. I am hoping for the best for you and your partner.

 

[mayken4now]

Please have peace. Enjoy each day! We too shall all be at the same point in one way or another.

Steve

 

[hairybruinuk]

Thanks

Here is a link to say thank you for the support, you have shown me it will make you smile

http://javascriptl('gallery.myfuncards.com/retrieve.jsp?c%3dkJnefJLGCUjufKKZAfsYJ_BWreQIbGyy');

 

[hairybruinuk]

Damn link wont open

Sorry guys the link wont open well it was a e card with 2 bears hugging and the message reads thanks for the kindness and support you all have shown me, times are difficult and hard right now I am so alone here trying to cope on my own. The love and support you all have shown me has spurred me on, thanks again guys for all you have done love to all hairybruinuk

 

[hairybruinuk]

Try this now

There you go guys the link works

http://gallery.myfuncards.com/pickup.jsp?c=kJnefJLGCUjufKKZAfsYJ_BWreQIbGyy

 

[jasonl]

I'm so sorry to hear about your partner. I will pray for both of you. GOD will take care of you no matter what happens.

 

[mixfinder]

The New Normal

When I was told I had cancer, my head began to spin and I told my self, it is okay, they will treat it. Six months later the news arrived, my cancer was not responding and we would abandon treatment. My head reeled and I was staggering in my brain and struggling to keep a functionng facade.
My normal life, was over. Nothing would ever be the same again. Comedian, Gilda Radner, said after she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, no one was funny any more.

The deluge of coulda, shoulda, oughta, every snake charmer cure and all the naysayers who will tell the horrors of your disease are just about to begin. It may be helpful to let your friends know when to simply stop speaking.

You and Terry will find your new "normal" and a sense of purpose will return. You are empowered to choose what that is and how to engineer the quality of your lives. Planning comes in three month segments and living in the moment is a good place to be.

Try to open you minds to miracles and know that your clinician is delivering statistical information, not always the truth of who Terry is.

How many repairman would have told you to trash the vintage washer, yet against all odds and with support, it washes on.

My vision for you and Terry is many more sparkling clean loads with a minimum of soak cycles.

You can always email me if I can help. Tap into support groups and National Foundations for chronic illness. Not only will you be opened to support and love, you can be channeled to many financial funds that can help you continue to live with dignity, in the face of a new challange.

Find support for you as well. As the caregiver, you become an actor, nurse, therapist and whipping post. Care and nurture you as well. Both you and Terry are dependent on your well being.

May the days ahead show you peace, satisfaction and fullfilment in living.
Kelly

 

[hairybruinuk]

its no good

Kelly just to let you know his liver is kaput, this time there is no going back for him. hes 67 he has a heart out put of 15% this means his other vital organs are not working well, in short kelly the man is not going to be here for much longer. all I can do right now is try for his sake to live a normal life, and get on with the task of daily living. This is not an easy task, I am his lover his friend his shrink his nurse I am here for him. I know you mean well kelly and I appreciate what you said and thanks for helping hbuk

 

[helen]

Hello to both of you. I just wanted to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. Enjoy each day as it is a gift from God above. God bless you both.

 

[appnut]

Kevin, I haven't been online in two days. I'll email later tonight for me. OMG. I love you. Bob

 

[vinvac]

So sorry to hear this news

Kevin and Terry,

I also have never met you but you are in my thoughts and prayers. Kevin, just know that there was a reason you were brought together with Terry, it sounds like you have been more than just a friend. Now is when Terry will need you the most, even when you think he doesn't know you are there, love like yours doesn't die with the body so do what you do best, keep showing and telling him how much you love him. When the time comes I promise you his love will be returned to you in ways you won't expect. It is hard, hang in there and know your friends here are praying and caring for you....Look for his love to be returned to you.