jasonl
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I'm so sorry to hear about your partner. I will pray for both of you. GOD will take care of you no matter what happens.
The worst has happened
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The New Normal
When I was told I had cancer, my head began to spin and I told my self, it is okay, they will treat it. Six months later the news arrived, my cancer was not responding and we would abandon treatment. My head reeled and I was staggering in my brain and struggling to keep a functionng facade.
My normal life, was over. Nothing would ever be the same again. Comedian, Gilda Radner, said after she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, no one was funny any more.
The deluge of coulda, shoulda, oughta, every snake charmer cure and all the naysayers who will tell the horrors of your disease are just about to begin. It may be helpful to let your friends know when to simply stop speaking.
You and Terry will find your new "normal" and a sense of purpose will return. You are empowered to choose what that is and how to engineer the quality of your lives. Planning comes in three month segments and living in the moment is a good place to be.
Try to open you minds to miracles and know that your clinician is delivering statistical information, not always the truth of who Terry is.
How many repairman would have told you to trash the vintage washer, yet against all odds and with support, it washes on.
My vision for you and Terry is many more sparkling clean loads with a minimum of soak cycles.
You can always email me if I can help. Tap into support groups and National Foundations for chronic illness. Not only will you be opened to support and love, you can be channeled to many financial funds that can help you continue to live with dignity, in the face of a new challange.
Find support for you as well. As the caregiver, you become an actor, nurse, therapist and whipping post. Care and nurture you as well. Both you and Terry are dependent on your well being.
May the days ahead show you peace, satisfaction and fullfilment in living.
Kelly
When I was told I had cancer, my head began to spin and I told my self, it is okay, they will treat it. Six months later the news arrived, my cancer was not responding and we would abandon treatment. My head reeled and I was staggering in my brain and struggling to keep a functionng facade.
My normal life, was over. Nothing would ever be the same again. Comedian, Gilda Radner, said after she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, no one was funny any more.
The deluge of coulda, shoulda, oughta, every snake charmer cure and all the naysayers who will tell the horrors of your disease are just about to begin. It may be helpful to let your friends know when to simply stop speaking.
You and Terry will find your new "normal" and a sense of purpose will return. You are empowered to choose what that is and how to engineer the quality of your lives. Planning comes in three month segments and living in the moment is a good place to be.
Try to open you minds to miracles and know that your clinician is delivering statistical information, not always the truth of who Terry is.
How many repairman would have told you to trash the vintage washer, yet against all odds and with support, it washes on.
My vision for you and Terry is many more sparkling clean loads with a minimum of soak cycles.
You can always email me if I can help. Tap into support groups and National Foundations for chronic illness. Not only will you be opened to support and love, you can be channeled to many financial funds that can help you continue to live with dignity, in the face of a new challange.
Find support for you as well. As the caregiver, you become an actor, nurse, therapist and whipping post. Care and nurture you as well. Both you and Terry are dependent on your well being.
May the days ahead show you peace, satisfaction and fullfilment in living.
Kelly
hairybruinuk
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its no good
Kelly just to let you know his liver is kaput, this time there is no going back for him. hes 67 he has a heart out put of 15% this means his other vital organs are not working well, in short kelly the man is not going to be here for much longer. all I can do right now is try for his sake to live a normal life, and get on with the task of daily living. This is not an easy task, I am his lover his friend his shrink his nurse I am here for him. I know you mean well kelly and I appreciate what you said and thanks for helping hbuk
Kelly just to let you know his liver is kaput, this time there is no going back for him. hes 67 he has a heart out put of 15% this means his other vital organs are not working well, in short kelly the man is not going to be here for much longer. all I can do right now is try for his sake to live a normal life, and get on with the task of daily living. This is not an easy task, I am his lover his friend his shrink his nurse I am here for him. I know you mean well kelly and I appreciate what you said and thanks for helping hbuk
Kevin, I haven't been online in two days. I'll email later tonight for me. OMG. I love you. Bob
vinvac
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So sorry to hear this news
Kevin and Terry,
I also have never met you but you are in my thoughts and prayers. Kevin, just know that there was a reason you were brought together with Terry, it sounds like you have been more than just a friend. Now is when Terry will need you the most, even when you think he doesn't know you are there, love like yours doesn't die with the body so do what you do best, keep showing and telling him how much you love him. When the time comes I promise you his love will be returned to you in ways you won't expect. It is hard, hang in there and know your friends here are praying and caring for you....Look for his love to be returned to you.
Kevin and Terry,
I also have never met you but you are in my thoughts and prayers. Kevin, just know that there was a reason you were brought together with Terry, it sounds like you have been more than just a friend. Now is when Terry will need you the most, even when you think he doesn't know you are there, love like yours doesn't die with the body so do what you do best, keep showing and telling him how much you love him. When the time comes I promise you his love will be returned to you in ways you won't expect. It is hard, hang in there and know your friends here are praying and caring for you....Look for his love to be returned to you.
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