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ah... mine says with chores, OH I will get to it...

uh, Christmas is coming too....

Imgine having an infant and feeding, comforting or changing her/him when YOU wanted too?

Adulthood doesn't work that way.

Sometimes you have to switch gears as things come up.
 
oh, Veg---

The word partner IMHO implies a 50/50 split and someone who cooperates, shares and is reasonable and perhaps realizes that they are NOT the center of the universe...

so I do like "spousal unit" MUCH better... LOL.
 
I agree--it's tough to be a couple I can't think of anything else I've done that was more difficult. I was 28 when I met Todd, and at the time I desperately wanted to be in a life-long relationship, but had also become quite set in my ways. Early in our relationship, I would look forward to Todd visiting his parents or going to a medical convention or whatever. For a weekend, or even a week, my life would be how it used to be--my freedom back, etc. Not to go out tomcatting, mind you, but just a BREAK. At that time, Todd was a first year family practice resident and his job really controlled both our lives. It's a trial to adapt one's 9-5 M-F schedule to another person's wildly variable yet inflexible schedule. When he was out of town, I could live life on my schedule exclusively. Fortunately I knew beforehand that there would be a certain amount of suffering that went along with being a doctor's spouse. I knew a wise old doctor's widow that explained how things were going to be. It's tough to not see your partner for 36 hours and then when you do see them they're and exhausted bedraggled mess. A bedraggled mess that is grateful to see you but really, truly, just needs to go to sleep.
I had my own bizarre issues that were very frustrating to Todd. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I'd find an MD for a partner, and I became very conscientious of coming off as a gold-digger. ESPECIALLY after I found out that his psychotic mother had told him that anyone that seemed interested in him would only be after his money. (This could be a whole other thread--IN-LAWS!) So I wouldn't let Todd buy me anything or help me financially in any way, although I could have used the help sometimes. In retrospect, that was massively unfair to him, because as a busy resident that was the ONLY thing he could do for me and I wouldn't let him.

I think we went through some of our toughest challenges in our first three years and somehow came out the other end unscathed. We developed a fine repertoire of recreational bickering through which problems get resolved and seldom turn ugly--and keeps the spark alive. Other people seem to find it hysterical, so it must be pretty benign in the grand scheme.

Anyway, that's us.
T.
 
Hmmm. "Posting" too much or "protesting" too much? LOL

OMG, Tom! He's cute AND a doctor? Does he have an identical twin with sefl-esteem issues? Dibs!

veg
 
Veg--I wish he had a twin, or even a sibling, because the world needs more people like him. OHHHH but the mother-in-law you'd have to deal with... We've always got cute doctors around, though. I'll keep my eye out for you!

A word of advice for those casting their nets out for an MD. If you're looking for a regular schedule, a healthy income, and social prestige, look for something like an anesthesiologist or a plastic surgeon. Family Medicine is pretty thankless. In fact I know a finance manager of a Jeep dealership that makes twice as much money as the family practitioners I know. They are definitely in the game because they like what they do--NOT for the money.

T.
 
I cannot comment here- I'm sure Dennis may have a lot to say on this.

He did "let one go" at 3 am the other morning and I thought the termite men were fumigating the house! I recommend separate bedrooms and baths for those who do not wish to know of the more earthy side of their chosen one!

Aside from the the gas release, the man's a saint!
 
Well, I have to say he to protective! Kind of like Dad.At 39 you would think by now I'm fully capable of taking care of myself. Sometimes I think he thinks I'm twelve! It's kind of funny considering I take care of the house, businesses, and everything else you could think of. He's a little Bitchy too! But, that's life! Guess I really can't complain to much!

Toggle: I have this funny feeling when your talking to someone you leave the room and come back in 30 seconds later and say " Oh Yeah,something else I forgot!" LOL
 
VEG, you so eloquently restated what I said (me saying "the fact I don't have one").

Yes I know it's tough. I'm not sure @ 51 I'll ever be partnered. I"d hoped the 2nd half of my life wouldn't be alone like the 1st half.
 
Well, Bob, and Bob (Appnut) and (veg)

Another singleton over here (*waving*)

Sure, I think I'd like a partner, but at the moment, I'd be really delighted to get some "private dancing" on a regular basis!

Ann or Abby have said this: "Is the 'dancing' you're getting worth the 'dancing' you're getting?"

Well, the popcorn's almost ready, and there's still some Haagen-Dazs in the freezer.

Lawrence/Maytagbear
 
single here too

Well, I had the spouse, and I did everything I could to make it work...we lasted 15 months...
I don't mind being single, I can do what I want, when I want and answer to nobody but Jack.
He keeps me in line too..
 
Let's see...I was with my ex husband for 3 years. In those 3 years, I cooked, cleaned, washed, shopped, etc., because he could do none of it (except that he would make dinner from time to time). By day, I am an AVP with a Fortune 100 company, but when I got home, I was Hazel. He rarely worked, never contributed anything financially (after all, I could afford it), was spiteful, vindictive and childish. There was 7 years between us. That was 8 years ago when I sent him packing. And now, I am exactly where I want to be - single, until the right man for me comes along. And I am where I am because I cared enough about myself to change my circumstances, which were completely unacceptable to any ssae man. Can I live without him? I have for 8 years and have never once looked back, or even missed him.
 
Andrew...

your situation sounds like mine was, I'd work 50 hours a week, and then come home to a dirty house and mountain of laundry on Friday nights, and the spouse wanting to go party party party.
It got old fast..
What finally did us in was a friend of his(female) who kept coming between us. It was a tough descision and tougher still to send him out, but best for me.
He's tried twice to come back, thinking sweet words and grovelling will work. He didn't really want me anyway, he was more interested in my checkbook and credit cards.
 
Hornswaggled!!!!

In another thread I was asking what type of stick vacuum to get. It seems that the Kirby G4 was just tooooo complicated for SOME people in the household to vacuum with. Ya turn it on and wave the floor attachment and it picks up the dog hair. Several of our members made some good suggestions and I ended up with a Simplicity Quicksilver.

Tonight, while watching TV, the MASTER of the DVR control was wizzing through the Guide, changing dates, resetting times, looking at new shows, etc. It then hit me, "Ya can't run the Kirby, BUT you can program this contraption!!!!!!!!!!"

I was hornswaggled!

We both enjoyed a good laugh.

P.S. And when the "gas attacks" start, that's when you know it's really true love.
 
Funny how when I started this I was expecting a few cutsie one-liners. But the universe has comforted me by saying..."it's pretty much the same all around".

At least I have a right hand.
To make the sign of the cross with and say thank-you for everything I have and everything I don't have. There is water, food, breathable air, shelter, fuel, health and true good friends. Well, and this very interesting site that is a tremendous boost.

Toggle loves y'all, baby.

(And yes, Bethann, you got me pegged exactly.)
 
Reality is

We make our bed(s) that we lay in! Decide folks, is it right or not--

PeteK - I am exhausted reading your story. Who wanted all that?

Agnus - forget playing the teacher, it happend to me in 1981, to a deceased old fart who was 9 years older than I. Time will tell.

Steve(toggle) - You just a mess da'lin!

Steve
 
Hi guys...when I had in-laws to deal with i referred to them as outlaws and desperadoes...In 1991, our last anniversary before break up, my 1974 Maytag was leaking transmission oil so as an anniversary present, he bought me at brand new Maytag and put it on MY credit card!!! but by then just about all the nails were in the coffin of our relationship. If Mr. Right ever comes along, I will cross that bridge (burn that bridge) when I get to it.
Ross
 
Now I just tell people that I am a dyke in training and that men are animals......cant live with them, cant live without them, and you certainly cant shoot them.....
 
I have been alone so long now that it really does not bother me. I really do not need to be in a relationship now.

Like one of my favorite drummers sang. "I get by with a little help from my friends."

It probably is selfish to want to be alone, but at the same time i am not closed off to something that may happen in the future with someone i really care about and love.

Just seeing my friends kids growing up makes me realize how fast the days and years are flying by. Anyhow if it is meant to be it is meant to be and if not.....i'll still do alright by the grace of God.

Pat
 
Was it Ann or Abby who used to say "would you be better off with him or without him". That pretty much sums it up, regardless of all our issues here at Little House, I'd say I'm better off with than without.

And to any pining for a husband or wife..as a proverb says, be careful what you wish for it may come true.
 
It truly is amazing that the person that we care most for, can make us the most crazed! Ken can say something and it will either make me go nuts or love him more. Hey Ken..if you are reading this..uh do and say the things that cause the second part of the preceeding sentence..ha..
 
Single here... Sister James Christine, SJC, taught us in 7th grade that there are 3 vocations: single, married and religious. And since my follow through on joning the Dominicans or the Trappists has fallen by the wayside, my religious vocation has evaporated. Therefore, I am vocationally single, and quite content, thank you very much. Besides, I have learned that the cute, hot, seemingly normal guys are all out of town, and the cuter, hotter and/or more normal they are, the further away they are (thank you, Mr. Internet). Second, I tend to attract the codependant ones when I really need someone who is independent yet loyal. And blonde. And built like a nordic linebacker. Until then, celebacy is just fine.

"Celebate? 'I'm celebate!' That's what they all say when they can't have it off. Fat and ugly with no chance at a poke, more like."
Name the character and show from which that quote is taken:
(note the grammar of that question, Toggle...)
 

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