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I totally agree that men are pigs. Most of them anyway. I know a few exceptions--myself included. See? I can give myself credit.
Good for you Veg, now stop that right now and be a pig like the rest of us LOL, just kidding. I’ve been a complete pig at times so I can’t talk.

I've taken a lot of pictures, been satisfied with one of them. I'll keep taking more but...

Ahhh Ha! There’s part of the problem right there. You only have ONE picture that you are satisfied with, that’s not enough, you need at least five. Keep snapping those shots Veg, this is not easy to do and it’s very time consuming. And by the way, these pictures need to be cuter or hotter than you “think” you really are. You need to post pictures of yourself that you look at and say, “wow I look in the mirror and I’m definitely not that cute, so how did I managed to take that picture”. We are all our own worst enemies and we look in the mirror we all see our imperfections a lot bigger than other people around us see them. So you can’t take a really hot picture of yourself and say “I can’t post that, that’s just a lucky shot, it would be like telling a lie”. Well that’s nonsense, because it really is YOU in that photo. I remember when I did this at first I got almost no responses, but when I started experimenting with the pictures is when I quickly learned what sells and what doesn’t.

I'll take your--and everybody else's--advice and tweak my profile. I'm just trying to be honest here, and I know what I see in the mirror each morning. Yeah, yeah, but just ask anyone who's seen me in person. So there.
You don’t have to lie, but you if your ad sounds comfortable and completely confident others will see it as a challenge to “get you”. And what you see in the mirror isn’t necessarily representative of what others will see.

Oh, the "too old/too ugly" reponses were "canned" ones that Yahoo provides for the less-than-tactful. No escaping the meaning, though.
Veg, you gonna get rejected, I know I did many times and I know your friend who hangs out at manhunt and has guys chasing him all the time gets rejected too. If he tells you otherwise he is not being honest, cause it happens to everyone and it happens a lot. When it happens it best to quickly forget and move onto the next twenty five fish in the sea.

As for manhunt, yeah, I'm thinking that might have been a mistake
Nonsense, have some fun for god sakes, just be safe and don’t expect anything more from these little “dates” then just a passing thrill.

Jason is right, being on the hunt sucks, your self esteem is going to be on a roller coaster, but in the end it will be worth it all. Kelly’s book idea, 100 Ways to Get Laid sounds like a good idea as well. Just keep an open mind and don’t expect too much, this is probably going to take a while.
 
It is a numbers game.
There is now over 300 million people just in the U.S.

And most of us are only looking for 1.
 
photo tips

avoid using a flash
avoid having the camera *look up* at you, slightly above eye level is best, a smile is a sure to lure! look at the camera as if looking at a beloved friend. a light source (such as a shaded floor lamp) placed slightly above the camera can be very flattering. a tripod IS very helpful. pictures that include pets can be effective. if you have a favorite room or setting, use it, it will help project your personality. are you loyal? devoted? funny? good cook? patient? enthusiastic? thoughtful? laid back? energetic? talker? thrill-seeker? cuddler? independent? dont be afraid to post your profiles HERE, we will tell you whats best. (lol) David
 
I don't know about the commercials, but I for one would certainly like to know what they're trying to prove by not having a gay section. Is it some kind of a religious based service or am I missing something, or do is just something the world simply does not know (LOL).
 
gay sites

True.com and Glimpse.com are gay friendly.
One interesting thing I found in checking out those sites is the guys.
I've hung out on gay.com and Manhunt, and then glimpse and yahoo personals at various times.
Chicago is an pretty big place, and here I was seeing many of the SAME guys between the various sites, profiles adjusted for each site.
Bottom line is don't rule out one site over another, you never know what you'll find, and I honestly believe that nice people can be met anywhere.
A good friend of mine once joked to me: "You gotta kiss alot of frogs to find your prince charming"
 
I have never tried an online dating service only for the fact I haven't had to so I can't comment on those but I think getting yourself physically out and about is the way to go. Force yourself out and attend some of these groups like Pflag, go to a few Unitarian Fellowship meetings, don't just go once or twice and drop it, force yourself to go and give yourself and them time to get to know you and there's a good chance after that some one or something or some event leading to a meeting is going to happen. It just may not be right away but in the meantime you're networking. That's the word "networking"
 
OK MR.!

Damn it Veg! First off you have to love you!( I've told you that fifteen times!)

Your a wonderful person!

Men are pigs!, it took me until I was thirty to find Dean. When it is the right time it will happen. Don't settle for any ol' Tom, Dick, or Harry. Your to good for that! The attitude that you feel toward yourself refects what people see. What I'm saying is if you feel crappy about you then people pick up on it. Who the hell wants someone that feels crappy about themselves? Not me! If you feel like you can conquer the world and are happy then people find that attractive. Your mate is suppose to be someone that lifts you up in life, not a buzz kill! So, Stop it! Change the attitude!

Remember when you were here and we were taking pictures? You were a little uncomfortable at first. But, then you seen them.You had this sparkle in your eye! I know you felt good about yourself!

Now for the real ass chewing! Stop being so damn lazy and find someone over there to fix that damn hair! I know it's work but, get over it and do it! I have take care of my hair all the time, it's not going to kill you! You had a different attitude. ( That was a lot better! )
OK, I'm done bitching, for now!

Just as a little reminder! Check out the sexy sparkle!
 
MEN ARE NOT PIGS!

OK, enough male bashing already! Men are MEN because that's how God created them. Like it or leave it.

Second of all Veg, you're very good looking. MUCH better looking than me. I can't believe someone wouldn't want you. But like I said, if *I* can find someone, so you can you. Same goes for Mr. Appnut with his new Frigemore.

And to the "men bashers", no offense, but stop blaming MEN for everything.

Cake anyone?
 
Jason, I guess I should have said, "People are pigs"

It just so happenes that I am a straight female and that is all I have had to deal with in relationships.

Now, this for Eugene!
 
Bethan

Yes, people are pigs. No matter the gender. Relationships suck until you find the right one. Geez, took me 35 years and alot of rejection and heartbreaks to find Helen.
 
Bethann, another great cake! I admired Bob's cake earlier in the thread. You did a wonderful job decorating it. What kind of cake is it? How many layers?
 
Hi Scott

It's a Canasta cake, (aka Pain in the ass-ta cake)! Three layers, it's a VERY rich fudge chocolate, and the Canasta icing is real fluffy, it sorta has a hint of salt to it. I know it sounds weird but, the two blend very well together.
 
Not nosy at all

In fact, thanks for asking.

Well. It seems my ad on Yahoo got a nibble. I've been corresponding with a very nice man who lives in Frederick (about an hour away) and is looking for the same things I am. We were on the phone last night and there was plenty of laughing and giggling, which I take as a good sign. We will be having lunch on Friday. I'm not sure whether to call it a "date" or not. Guess it depends on whether there's any smooching. I'm pretty sure that's what moves it into the "date" category.

And get this: He thinks I'm "charming." No, really! I mean, could you die or what?

So if y'all wouldn't mind keeping your fingers crossed for me on Friday, I'd sure appreciate it. I can just picture myself turning on both watts of charm, smiling and laughing handsomely...with a big ol' wad of spinach between my teeth.

veg
 
Now Veg....

We all know how charming you are!! I have contorted myself into a yoga-like crossing of limbs to ensure your good luck on Friday!!

We want to hear all the details on Monday, Mister!!
 
I'm excited for you Veg...

Having done the online dating scene several years ago I know the excitement you get when you feel a click with someone during the introduction period. I'm sure you are floating on a cloud right now. I have been following this thread and wish you nothing but the best. Keep your head high and enjoy all the feelings that come from knowing someone likes you. If for some reason this person isn't exactly what you are looking for don't fear, the right one WILL come along.

Patrick
 
What's it gonna be Veg?

Take it from a 23-year Mrs. Always Right...my two favourite words..."Yes Dear"! ;-)
 
Hope it goes well for you Veg

If no just hang right in there there is SOMEOME looking for YOU too!!!
 
I know what's what!

Venus, I've had the same "work wife" for the last ten years. "Yes, dear" became a major part of my vocabulary a looonnnnnng time ago!

veg
 
Vegalicious!

Good luck on your "date" Friday. You know everyone here will be rootin' for ya! :-)

Go and have fun. Don't go with high expectations. If it's meant to be, you could be having dessert by evening...LOL

That's why smart housewives always keep cool-whip in the fridge. ;-) (Or Redi-whip if your into making those fancy swirls)
 
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