Anger Management

[tuthill]

The guys on AW will come through for me, I know they will.

What have all of you guys done through your life to deal with anger? When your blood starts to boil and it feels like you're gonna snap and you just wanna fuc&ing scream at the world.

What do you do with the ANGER emotion before it does something you'll regret.

 

[petek]

Well I have been known to throw a frying pan at the wall once and then there's the traditional Christmas Tree Toss, out the front door onto the lawn fully decorated.

and no I'm not joking

 

[danemodsandy]

It Goes Like This:

Sometimes you have to count to ten...trillion and one, because much of the time, anger will just cause trouble.

And sometimes you have to let 'er rip, because holding anger in all the time is corrosive.

The trick is knowing when to hold it in, and when to let it happen. If you ever find a foolproof method of determining which is which, I do hope you'll share it with everyone.

 

[pulsator]

Probably not the safest, but I find it helps me a LOT to go for a drive... **AHEM** I never said anything about a relaxing drive though! Provided the roads are dry and there is no one around, I have been known to force the engine's RPMs into the red and just go and go and go until I feel better, it helps a lot if there are some turns involved in which I can slam the brakes and then punch the accelerator again!

Don't get me wrong, I'm not usually a crazy driver, only when I get incredibly pissed off and am in an area where there are no other drivers to come in contact with, I will blow off some steam or rather, burn some gas!

 

[rickr]

Ugh! Don't get me started on this! The boyz have all been suspended from school a time or three for fighting, been trouble with the law for acts of violence, and continue to have anger issues. My dude should have been released from prison this past October, but he beat another inmate so bad that he was given additional time.That time the other guy started it, and my guy finished it.
Timot was jumped on by 8 other guys a month ago and knocked two out cold and was working on the third when he was hit on the head by a padlock in a sock, which finished that fight. Now he wants to retaliate on them by getting two or three at a time, and beating the hell out of them, for leaving a scar on his head. I am trying to talk him out if it, as it is not really worth it, because he may get caught. Who cares in the long run anyway?
He was shot in the leg during a fight back in 1991, but still lets anger get the best of him. He knows how to fight, and never seems to try to avoid one.

Too many times, anger gets the best of people. I try to avoid anger, and notice that I have mellowed some with age. Thats cool! Wisdom tells us not to sweat the small stuff. Whatever works, use it!

 

[tuthill]

petek

I admire that.

Jamie, you are absoulutely right! Maybe I should go burn through some $1.60 gas lol

 

[tbolt25]

anger problems myself

I have a TERRIBLE temper myself-and the tendency to want to push people's buttons, to want to rev up their temper as a car-holding it wide-open until it blows-and vengeful destructive tendencies, but yet when people make me mad, I don't like it. And I also have mental set-up mistakes with certain people. I could just provoke them to do whatever they threatened to do-lashing out, and provoking them at the top of my lungs to the point of all heck breaking loose on me!

 

[launderess]

Have One Way To Deal With Anger

Enough said:

 

[launderess]

Seriously Folks

One must simply try to step back and clam down.

It helps to have a hobby or a "quiet place", one can take oneself until the urge to strangle or otherwise kill someone passes.

However as anger management goes, there is nothing like stroking a Glock to clam one down. Amazing enough, when others see you doing the same, they at once get set straight! Miss. Suzanne Sugarbaker and others have the right idea! *LOL*

L.

 

[tbolt25]

my stress balls

At least I have over 90 different stress balls to break up my anger spells.

 

[SactoTeddyBear]

Simple for me and you:

I started attending a Celebration Recovery Group at my Church last year, every Friday. If we are wanting to join and share a Meal, the Church has a Full-Coarse Meal for $4.00 per person and the Dinner Time is from 6:00pm to 7:00pm.

What we do, is have a main Meeting, from 7:00pm to 8:00pm, that includes some Prayers and Singing {as you feel you have a Singing Voice} and a part of every-other Week's Meeting, we have either a Testimony or a Lesson. After this Main Meeting, we break-up into our Small Groups, from 8:00pm to 9:00pm and I attend a Group for Men's Issues and Anger.

The first time that you attend the Celebrate Recovery, they ask when we break-up into our Small Groups, that you attend the Orientation Class, that you only have to attend the 1st time of your attending. After that, wherever you go to different Cities, Towns and even States, as long as you've attended the Orientation Class already, then from then on, you can go right to the Small Group Classes. You don't have to attend any other Orientation Classes.

You will also be given a Plastic Chip, with a small Chain, for different intervuls of your length of time of attending. On the 1st Orientation Class, you are given the "First Time Attending" Chip, after that, they have them for 30-Days, 60-Days, 90-Days and then a 1-year Chip.

I haven't been for a little while, due to some other things happening, but offically at the end of September, would have been my 1st year Anniversary, but I feel more proper to attend some extra Friday's Celebrate Recovery Meetings, before accepting my 1-year Chip.

After the Small Groups, we go back to where the Main Meeting was held and the Room is changed into a Cafe' with Tables. We are then able to pay $1.00 for an entry, $1.00 for a Dessert and $1.00 for either Coffee or Tea.

The Group can be found on the Internet, by writing Celebrate Recovery in the Search Window and then enter your Zip-Code, to locate a Church near where you live, to attend.

I hope that this helps actually many with a different way of how to suppress Anger. "BTW" the Church that I attend doesn't ask that you be a Member of that Church, or even of any Church, in order to attend the Celebrate Recovery Meetings.

Peace, Blessings, Kind Regards and Holiday Greetings, Steve
SactoTeddyBear...

 

[jeffg]

Listen to any song written and performed by Brian Wilson. Or do a bong hit.

It may be possible to remain angry after either of the above, but not both.

Of course it depends on what is pissing you off: almost without exception, anger toward others is misdirected anger toward oneself.

 

[beadsobleach]

Blanche DuBois

A soothing bath in my oversized tub, with bath oils, its called hydrotherapy....

 

[retro-man]

Exercise is a great stress reliever. I go to the gym 4 or 5 days a week more if needed. When there you can work out the stress with the weights. Keep lifting more and more weight till it works its way out of you. An added benefit is more muscle and less stress. Usually a good workout every day keeps my mind and stress level in a low key. If you don't have time for that a good run or a long walk away from the problem helps. A lot of time the person causing the stress is good to take the walk with. Keep quiet for awhile then things open up and usually you can work it out.

Jon

 

[golittlesport]

Walk away from it. Literally. Walking is great exercise and will calm you down. (Better than driving away in a rage.) It's the same concept as counting to ten. The important thing is not to react in the heat of the moment. Because most times you will regret it. (As in "crime of passion"...)

Step back, think it over, force yourself to calm down and let your blood pressure drop. Then rationally plan your response considering the ramifications.

Good luck.

 

[helicaldrive]

Try this

Examine what is making you angry and why.

For example, is it someone you would like to change? Is the person fixable? Is it your business to fix that person? Learn to recognize when not, and then resolve to stop wasting your emotions and energy. It takes practice, but we all have to learn it sooner or later in life.

Similarly practice identifying things you cannot control, and practice either not going there, or else trying to find humor in it.

Or, is it a situation(s) where you're being treaded on a little, but it doesn't seem worth going there, so to avoid conflict you remain totally silent, time and again? When people do that too much, it usually builds up over time and then they eventually blow up over a very minor trigger that does not warrant the size of their response. Prevent that from happening by making yourself address those minor things with people through diplomacy or even better, with humor or good-natured teasing.

Lately two people at work could easily send me over the edge, but someone else finds their stupid behavior funny. So I keep her laughing face fixated in my mind's eye, and then I'm OK.

 

[helicaldrive]

One last thing

When I am on the verge of losing my temper, I try to immediately focus on how foolish I will feel if I let myself lose it.

At work, watch high level executives and managers, and see how they keep their cool, especially when they're dealing with others who are out of control. It's very interesting to observe the techniques they use. An old trick is to take a breath and speak very softly, barely above a whisper. Keeping a calm and cool exterior is an indispensable part of adult professional life.

If that's what you want, and apparently you do, then you'll get there. Wanting it is the biggest part.

You can do it.

 

[helicaldrive]

Really the last thing

Often people boil over because they fail to change the other person's mind or opinion, and they are harboring unrealistic expectations about persuading people to change their minds.

Never "go there" if it's people or things that are not fixable.

 

[sudsmaster]

A useful phrase to remember:

You can't always control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.