nmaineman36
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Oh Miss Toggles...you in Danger girl. My gawd I was laughing my ass off. I needed that.
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Erik,
Good Luck on your 'coming out'. It is not going to be an easy road, but you have to be kind to yourself.
Best of luck on your new journey into life.
Gary
Good Luck on your 'coming out'. It is not going to be an easy road, but you have to be kind to yourself.
Best of luck on your new journey into life.
Gary
In all seriousness though I came out around 1972 when I was 16. Nobody really had any problems with it, mom thought I was perhaps "too young" to be making that decision but other than that 30+ years later I really can't recall anything negative. But then I also don't go around shouting my preferences to all who don't care to listen. I just go about my business.
I remember for as long as I can remember that I never had any interest in girls... But I didn't even want to consider the fact that I was gay.
I remember one day when I was 21 I finally asked myself "why wasn't I interested in girls?" That was a start. When I was 23 was when I finally admitted to myself that I was gay. That was when I also told some close friends I was as well, and they were very accepting. After telling my one friend, he came around and told me he was bi, and actually had a crush on me since he met me.
I did end up telling my mom earlier this year. I thought for sure she would have got mad at me, yelled at me, etc. Nope. We talked about it for a little bit, and then she told me she kind of had an idea for a little while that I was, but didn't want to say anything to me.
Wish you the best of luck Erik
I remember one day when I was 21 I finally asked myself "why wasn't I interested in girls?" That was a start. When I was 23 was when I finally admitted to myself that I was gay. That was when I also told some close friends I was as well, and they were very accepting. After telling my one friend, he came around and told me he was bi, and actually had a crush on me since he met me.
I did end up telling my mom earlier this year. I thought for sure she would have got mad at me, yelled at me, etc. Nope. We talked about it for a little bit, and then she told me she kind of had an idea for a little while that I was, but didn't want to say anything to me.
Wish you the best of luck Erik
Just because I prefer vanilla doesn't mean I can't h
I think that question can be pretty much be summed up quickly by reviewing the images one conjures-up when taking care of business solo.
Listen, the smells are different and the bumps are in different places, but push-comes-to-shove it's all pretty damn gross, if you really think about it.
Love is love, BTW. Do souls have genders? I think not.
I think that question can be pretty much be summed up quickly by reviewing the images one conjures-up when taking care of business solo.
Listen, the smells are different and the bumps are in different places, but push-comes-to-shove it's all pretty damn gross, if you really think about it.
Love is love, BTW. Do souls have genders? I think not.
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My mind whent straight to the gutter on that one Toggels..Then again thats where my brain goes and visits sometimes..Being almost 23 (in 25 days!!) mind
jamman_98
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Well I understand
I was 29 when I came to the realization I was gay. I struggeld with it too. I told my parents at 35 - they said they already knew. Well they could have told me?!?!?! I will admit that knowing I'm gay I'm at peace with myself inspite of the drama of the last 15 years. So you're in good company here for sure. Hugs!
Joe
jamman_98
I was 29 when I came to the realization I was gay. I struggeld with it too. I told my parents at 35 - they said they already knew. Well they could have told me?!?!?! I will admit that knowing I'm gay I'm at peace with myself inspite of the drama of the last 15 years. So you're in good company here for sure. Hugs!
Joe
jamman_98
I've talked with some parents--
and the reason why most of them don't tell their son is that they want him to come to the realisation on his on terms, on his own time.
Mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and elderly neighbour ladies usually know.
Lawrence/Maytagbear
and the reason why most of them don't tell their son is that they want him to come to the realisation on his on terms, on his own time.
Mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and elderly neighbour ladies usually know.
Lawrence/Maytagbear
Lawrence, you personified my philosophy, it's an ongoing evolution, not just a single event.
The 2001 Convention was very much a healing process for me. The early days of this group, when on yahoo, we all began coming out of the laundry closet. And as time went on, so many of us discovered our other "uniqueness". As Tomturbomatic once said of me, in a similar themed thread, this site is basically where I did come out. I had never realized that, but I bless Tom to this day for pointing it out to me. And actually it was. I just looked back, I joined April 8, 2000. In the ensuing months I became very close friends with several of the "old-timers". They helped me get through a lot, even the nerovus breakdown I had May/June 2001. I had just emerged from intense outpatient therapy about a month before Minneapolis. Yes, I was propped up on anti-depressants, but it was such a healing for me. To be around guys who all loved washers. And, it was the very first time I'd ever been around so many who were gay. I felt safe and warm in that weekend's cocoon. I dind't want it to end because there wasn't anyone I could go home to and relate to. If I could have gotten away with it, Robert would have found me chained somehow in his basement and never able to leave. As someone once said to me, (and they know who they are)we were both so excited about going to Roberts basement and Minnie we'd prolly end up NIFOW in the basement instead of NIFOC he he he
It's still a daily struggle for me. To this day, I'm still pretty much attracted to guys who you can't really "tell" they are. I"m pertty much that type of guy, as I see myself, but I have been known to let my hair down a bit, usualy at Conventions lol. A psychologist I had in the early 1990s logically explained this trait to me. I am not one who likes to call attention to his self. And believe me, I can call enough attention to myself by simply walking, clanking, hobbling, (and even falling) as I walk down a hallway/sidewalk/street/aisle and/or trying to see things with my crossed, near-sighted eyes. I simply don't wanna attract more attention to myself by being Nel Carter's baby niece Nellie.
Erik, maybe you can answer this question that still amazes me. Being like you, why is it I seem to have such tons of laundry? Oh yeah, that's right, I may only wear something for 2 hours on a weekend day and not need anything else the rest of the day, so in the hamper they go. LOL Bob
The 2001 Convention was very much a healing process for me. The early days of this group, when on yahoo, we all began coming out of the laundry closet. And as time went on, so many of us discovered our other "uniqueness". As Tomturbomatic once said of me, in a similar themed thread, this site is basically where I did come out. I had never realized that, but I bless Tom to this day for pointing it out to me. And actually it was. I just looked back, I joined April 8, 2000. In the ensuing months I became very close friends with several of the "old-timers". They helped me get through a lot, even the nerovus breakdown I had May/June 2001. I had just emerged from intense outpatient therapy about a month before Minneapolis. Yes, I was propped up on anti-depressants, but it was such a healing for me. To be around guys who all loved washers. And, it was the very first time I'd ever been around so many who were gay. I felt safe and warm in that weekend's cocoon. I dind't want it to end because there wasn't anyone I could go home to and relate to. If I could have gotten away with it, Robert would have found me chained somehow in his basement and never able to leave. As someone once said to me, (and they know who they are
)we were both so excited about going to Roberts basement and Minnie we'd prolly end up NIFOW in the basement instead of NIFOC he he heIt's still a daily struggle for me. To this day, I'm still pretty much attracted to guys who you can't really "tell" they are. I"m pertty much that type of guy, as I see myself, but I have been known to let my hair down a bit, usualy at Conventions lol. A psychologist I had in the early 1990s logically explained this trait to me. I am not one who likes to call attention to his self. And believe me, I can call enough attention to myself by simply walking, clanking, hobbling, (and even falling) as I walk down a hallway/sidewalk/street/aisle and/or trying to see things with my crossed, near-sighted eyes. I simply don't wanna attract more attention to myself by being Nel Carter's baby niece Nellie.
Erik, maybe you can answer this question that still amazes me. Being like you, why is it I seem to have such tons of laundry? Oh yeah, that's right, I may only wear something for 2 hours on a weekend day and not need anything else the rest of the day, so in the hamper they go. LOL Bob
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washertalk wrote:
"People, if your a regular contributor here, we all want to know you. Robert has put together this area for profiles. Granted it may seem intimidating, all the questions about appliance history, and so. But don't be discouraged because you don't have a collection or never worked as a card carrying GE appliance repair rep. A blank profile seriously cuts into ones image. It seems insincere. If you have found your way to this, of ALL forums on the internet and stuck around, make the effort. I have to do this too for my email profile."
Okee-doe-kee.
Done.
"People, if your a regular contributor here, we all want to know you. Robert has put together this area for profiles. Granted it may seem intimidating, all the questions about appliance history, and so. But don't be discouraged because you don't have a collection or never worked as a card carrying GE appliance repair rep. A blank profile seriously cuts into ones image. It seems insincere. If you have found your way to this, of ALL forums on the internet and stuck around, make the effort. I have to do this too for my email profile."
Okee-doe-kee.
Done.
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appnut said:
"To this day, I'm still pretty much attracted to guys who you can't really "tell" they are."
Whaddya mean, app??
"To this day, I'm still pretty much attracted to guys who you can't really "tell" they are."
Whaddya mean, app??
The phrase that repulses many, "str8-acting", ya erally can't tell they're gay.
Scott, thanks for the updated profile. Very fascinating!!
Scott, thanks for the updated profile. Very fascinating!!
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AHHH, gotcha.
Thanks!
Thanks!
Oh Bob there you go describing me again, you're gonna give me a complex
neptunebob
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I was wondering, do most of you find it easier to make friends in the inner city than in suburban and rural areas? I live in a suburban area and am considering moving within Pittsburgh to try to find more people with like interests. Spats, do you live within Pittsburgh or on the outside? I would think it is easier to find other people like ourselves in the city.
As for "acting straight" has anyone noticed this which has happned to me: The happier I am, the gayer I get! I have an example: One of my coworkers was an openly gay man. You would never know it from looking at him as he looked like Dr. Phil. About ten years ago, there was coverage about Greg Louganis, the diver. Suddenly he got all excited: Ohhh, He's beautiful, he sends chills up and down my spine! He didn't look like Dr. Phil anymore. I hope this is all coming out all right and I don't get into trouble, because I just don't know how to explain all this! Nep, feeling like Ellen when she annouced it over the airport loudspeaker.
As for "acting straight" has anyone noticed this which has happned to me: The happier I am, the gayer I get! I have an example: One of my coworkers was an openly gay man. You would never know it from looking at him as he looked like Dr. Phil. About ten years ago, there was coverage about Greg Louganis, the diver. Suddenly he got all excited: Ohhh, He's beautiful, he sends chills up and down my spine! He didn't look like Dr. Phil anymore. I hope this is all coming out all right and I don't get into trouble, because I just don't know how to explain all this! Nep, feeling like Ellen when she annouced it over the airport loudspeaker.
Bob, yep, I've been know to get "gayer" if I have too much to drink.
Dr. Phil can be hot!!! in my books
and yes Pete, I had you in mind when I asid that--describing you lol.
Dr. Phil can be hot!!! in my books
and yes Pete, I had you in mind when I asid that--describing you lol.
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pk it's because you have taken so many "beauty comas"
pk it's because you have taken so many "beauty comas"
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Ya know, shortly after i came out over thanksgiving dinner, i saw that ellen show and taped it.. It was my favorite... I too am attractied to guys who more or less are "straight looking/acting" type... But then again.. Its very hard here to make any friends, even with the bigger gay population here near asheville, nc.. I am in the bible belt and there are alot of churchie gay bashing people here... I have never had an epsiode with anyone, but still it could happen and that bothers me daily, esp. with my job and such... Then again it's amazing how people can tell... I am a Methodist and where i go to church, an older lady who i help out with minor chores on occasion, asked me if i was the other week... She had suspected it for many years, but never asked... She was one of the last people i expected that to come from.. Her husband jokes with me about finding me a boyfriend every time i see them... IN public at the pharmcy mind you..
BTW- I don't drink.. If you have ever herd the country song "Tequila makes her cloths fall off", it should be in my case " Alchol makes his cloths fall off".. 1 sminroff ice apple and i am done... Wanna find something right then and there... So i don't drink.. Hate the morning after as well
BTW- I don't drink.. If you have ever herd the country song "Tequila makes her cloths fall off", it should be in my case " Alchol makes his cloths fall off".. 1 sminroff ice apple and i am done... Wanna find something right then and there... So i don't drink.. Hate the morning after as well
I think the most insulted
I ever felt was when a "well-meaning" wife of a close friend (his second wife, whirl-wind romance abroad - slipped in under our radar. At least that is what we all say to each other). Where was I? Oh, yes. I was being insulted...
Anyway, the woman says to me "but you aren't really gay, you talk and walk like a real man."
Well, now.
I don't mind (so much) that my family thinks I must have aids (I am, through sheer good luck, not good sense, negative).
I have even made my peace with the gay-PC-fascists who resent my living in a monogamous, committed relationship with a man I want to marry.
But the insinuation I am not a "real" gay man just because I don't swish-swish-swoosh down the road...
Not to mention the mental process which this implies: "Effeminate" men aren't real men.
We should have NEVER left the lions out overnight. I TOLD Nero they'd get their DEATH of cold. But would HE listen to me? Nooooo
I ever felt was when a "well-meaning" wife of a close friend (his second wife, whirl-wind romance abroad - slipped in under our radar. At least that is what we all say to each other). Where was I? Oh, yes. I was being insulted...
Anyway, the woman says to me "but you aren't really gay, you talk and walk like a real man."
Well, now.
I don't mind (so much) that my family thinks I must have aids (I am, through sheer good luck, not good sense, negative).
I have even made my peace with the gay-PC-fascists who resent my living in a monogamous, committed relationship with a man I want to marry.
But the insinuation I am not a "real" gay man just because I don't swish-swish-swoosh down the road...
Not to mention the mental process which this implies: "Effeminate" men aren't real men.
We should have NEVER left the lions out overnight. I TOLD Nero they'd get their DEATH of cold. But would HE listen to me? Nooooo
