Launderess !
I'm not quite sure what you mean by "When it comes right down to it, no one owes anyone outside of their family/spouse a living." Can you please clarify <br
" However snatching something from someone known to really to want it is just mean IMHO. Some are blessed to be in a position to pay any amount for an item, others are just not so lucky. What is wrong with giving someone else a chance?" <br
I would agree if it is being "snatched" just because the other person wants it. That is just deliberate nastiness and it happens...I've seen it

As far as anyones finacial ability to buy things...well...it just shouldn't be an issue. I have bid against people who are wealthy and have won items. It boils down to who wants it more. To sum it up...It matters not who wins as long as everyone played with integrity. I don't believe that I ever said anything about giving someone a chance. I'm all for it! But I AM against being asked/told to back off of an auction just because the other person wants it. This isn't fair to ask of a group of people especially friends IMOHO <br
"...will give them the courtesy of not "blowing their game"." <br
Laundress, I couldn't agree with you more. I think that this is a wonderfull courtesy that I extend as well. I know what it's like to search for hours and think that I may have found something that nobody else saw only to have someone ask an innocent question about it on a club list. Then the people with "deep pockets" bid it through the roof. OYE!!How frustrating...but the nature of the beast <br
"As for Steve's post, saw nothing wrong as he spoke the truth. The man is a very nice person (so far as one knows), and merely asked people he considers his friends/co-collectors to give him the same consideration he gives others." <br
I don't think that I incinuated that he lied about anything and I'm sure that he is a very nice person. I don't know him but everything that I've read points me to that conclusion. I can see that we (Steve and I) have similar taste in vacuum cleaners

. Steve has every right to extend any courtesy that he wishes but I do take issue with being made to feel that if I bid against him (or anyone else) that I will be thought of in a bad light. This now puts ME in an akward position that I shouldn't have to be in. My rule of thumb is that if I really want something and I have worked hard to find it and afford it then I will bid on it. If I know that a friend really wants it then I may suggest a solution. Let's say that you are willing to pay $10 and I'm willing to pay $20 then we both bid. If I win it for the bid above you ($11) then you pay the $11 and you can have it. If it goes for more than that then we know that someone else bid and you weren't the immediate under-bidder but at least I didn't lose it at $11 when I was willing to pay $20. If I win...YAY and if not...congrats to the winner! So far I have not lost any friends with this attitude! Many respect it and agree <br
I do hope that Steve will chime in on this discussion. I would realy like to know more about his feelings on this. Steve... <br
Respectfully
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