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Enquiring minds need to know.

1)What is their habit that set you off?
2)What is your habit that sets her/him off?

I went out last night with a friend.
Spouse did not want to join.
FINE
Ok.
Whateva.

But when I got home....

Laundry not folded.
Dishwasher not emptied.
Piles of stuff not gone.
...AND I got lip that the mail was not properly sorted..

Did you guys hear the new commercial for Chris Rock? "Everybody Hates Chris" (it's a movie I think).
Quote: I'm gonna slap your name right out of the phone book and CALL ma bell and TELL her I did it..

LOL ROFL LMAO.
 
oh.. and I

do the laundry
cook and cleanup afterwards
dust vacuum mop
water the lawn
do the construction and repairs etc.
paint, spackle.

so I get just a "little" miffed when the token chores assigned to (and chosen by) the spouse remain undone.

every Saturday I get to be Hazel..
 
Mine tells me I talk a subject to death. I am a taurus and tend to be slow and methodical. I think things through and want to justify my statements. He on the other hand is just the opposite. He says what he wants to say and moves on to the next topic. Drives me nutts and him too.

As an aside how many years between you and your spouses? Twenty four years here.
 
Oh I can relate to pretty much everything above. Loading the dishwasher is my forte, not unloading it, which means that dirty dishes will pile up waiting. I do all the lawn mowing etc and we're talking 3 acres, I enjoy that but sometimes it can all be too much, do I ever get a break from it? Can't remember the last time but could have been in the mid 90's when we bought a new tractor, once. Bathrooms are not on my list but I end up with them more often than not.
I have hobbies and interests, dogs, breeding the birds, collecting old appliances and glass etc. the other half has television.
Last week I went to volunteer at our charity bingo. Walked out of the house and must have locked the door not realizing the other half was out back. I get home about 9pm and find the front door knob gone..and berated for locking the door. Then I find that of course that's been blabbed to our neighbors how dumb I was for doing so..LOL...I replied..well why didn't you go round back and get the hidden key? What hidden key was the reply? We hid a key a few years ago but numnuts had forgotten so it was still my fault LOL. So guess who had to replace the doorknob and lockset? And then I get berated for spending too much for one.
Ahhhh also 24 yrs of bliss here as well.

All that being said I strongly believe that near total opposites stick together longer more often than those that marry or get together because they like to share the same things. Run don't walk away from anyone who says they like "going for long walks" "dining out" "going to the movies" "cuddling" etc. People who say those things are liars and are doomed to spend their lives alone. LOL. It's true. We know quite a few gay couples who have been together longer than us and in every case the story is the same, they argue constantly, criticize each other endlessly, share little common interest yet stick together like glue.
 
Not always true Pete. My ex and I were together 14 years . True, he was somewhat closeted having been married with kids at one time. But he was way more obvious than I anyway. We argued a fair amount but certainly no more than any other gay couples. Besides most of our arguments were over the fact that we could never do a lot together outside because he was terrified of being identified as gay. I also thought we got along well in the areas that really mattered. More importantly I thought we were friends and would always be no matter what. Unfortunately there were 19 years of age difference beteen us, he being the elder. When he finally retired, bought his winter place in Fort Lauderdale and came out, we were finished within 1 year. First it was the constant fooling around. Then he ultimately fell in love with a "noted interior designer" - who just happened to live around the corner from us here in Connecticut. According to the ex, they never fought, thought alike on all issues, had the same taste in music art and entertainment, etc... And within 5 minutes of meeting each other (and 9 months of cheating behind my back) decided they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together.

Truth was we were just too different. My ex really thought he belonged with "cafe society" so finding himself an interior designer with a big queeny attitude and a blond American looking guy to boot was his biggest coup. I guess in his mind that sure beat a dark hairy Italian CPA.

Lesson learned - I do hope however that someday lightning welds his pants zipper shut!!!!!
 
OMG

I thought we were the only ones extreame opposite. He is a older farm boy from the country and i'm from the city. Hes says black, I say white....etc He prefers to be outside in the yard and im a dimestic cat. 6yrs later and 18yrs between us, we still look at each other and smile.

Yet somehow I get the title of being the !@#$
 
Pete - 5 years and still going. One of the things I attribute to the tenacity is that the biggest point of contention is now gone and he is out of the closet. The ex wife knows, the adult children know and his sisters, nieces, nephews and all his lifelong friends know. So that in itself gives them a strong fighting chance. I guess it should not matter anymore after 5 years, but it still stings that I laid all the groundwork so someone else could sashay in and take credit for making him "the happiest he has ever been in his life". He doesn't even have the maturity to realize his happiness has nothing to do with Jack, but with himself.

One of the other things to remember about a breakup like that is that you end up losing everyone around the ex also. His kids, who I babysat for, took to dinner, helped move into college dorms etc.. eventually decided that maintaining a friendship with me was too painful reminder of their father's homosexuality. Of course, they visit the couple regularly in Florida and the couple stays with the kids when they come north. I have never figured out how visiting their father and his new lover is NOT a reminder of his homosexuality...

Ah, well..................
 
Being Single

After years of "marriage on the rocks" my ex (who at one time had been married and had kids) one day just told me it was over. Bit by bit, he moved his stuff out of my house....that was in March 1991. I have been single ever since. Sure it can get a bit lonely at times but I am now so accustomed to doing what I want, when I want, where I want, with whom I want, etc. and I do NOT have to answer to anyone. Could I ever give up my freedom again?
 
Anthony / Angus

Oh Lawd please forgive me for i'm about to sin. I should probably hold back here, but...

Boy, that really stinks. The beauty of life is that it's not over till it's over. NEVER GIVE UP! I have seen in my travels through the paths of life that people we care for tend to take their issues and try to make them yours. Can't fix that. You have done your best, you've given your all and now it's time, IMHO to say "good riddance to bad rubbish", "NEXT", "the line (queue) forms here...."

One can not be disappointed if they don't have expectations and nail them to doors of life. Speaking of which, one door has closed. Truly another better one will open.

Here is a difficult-to-digest spiritual truth that will serve you well. Everyone is exactly where they want to be in life...or they would change it. This one takes a LONG itme to fully understand and apply.

The past is done and over-with. Live in the present and have hope for the future. The good thing is that the past can be consciously or unknowingly altered by our thoughts and perceptions.

Everything in the universe begins with a thought.
Thoughts lead to emotions.
Emotions lead to actions
Actions lead to results.

Happiness is only a (one) thought away. Truly it is. It's just a change in perception.

The above four categories of this spiritual "truth", BTW are symboized in Tarot / regular playing cards by:

wands / clubs
cups / hearts
swords / spades
gold coins /diamonds

Actually, IMHO the ex seems selfish and a user and just took you along for HIS ride. You ARE the better man.

Sorry to have been so darm preachy. You are a unique light in the world and NEED to be happy.
 
All good points, and I hope I didn't give the impression that I spend any amount of time on this, but it is part of the whole parcel of my experiences so I must keep it in the proper place and make sure I never make the same mistakes again.

Also, when you weigh that against some of the other things that can and do happen to you, it isn't as important. The last few years for me have been a good reminder that you can't take anything for granted or become "fat, dumb and happy" thinking everything will always go your way. I was lucky enough to survive (with some scratches) the loss of my partner, some related people I thought of as friends, my mother, my job (of 15 years) and my closest friend of 40 years all within the same 6 month period. The amount of repair work involved recovering from those concurrent and consecutive losses was staggering. But you manage and go on. I have been fortunate in so many other ways and I never questioned my blessings so how could I question my burdens?

Now that I have been single for 5 years and no longer have to worry about what the other half wants to do, I relish the freedom of only being responsible for me...... I have learned that some level of selfishness is necessary for good self esteem and a healthy outlook on life. And if Mr Right and a Norge Timeline come along someday, great.

I thought about all this on my last birthday - literally two weeks ago. I was trying to assess my life and realized that I had everything I absolutely needed, and everything else, while nice to have, isn't survival critical......

All in all not a bad place to be..................
 

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