Hans: yes, water is cheaper than electricity, but hot water costs a bunch, even if it's not heated by electricity. And yes, I can afford to pay for the water and for making the water hot. The problem is that with more and more people needing water, sewage treatment plants, electricity, gas, fuel oil etc, no one (including me) wants any those utilities in their backyard/neighborhood, because despite the fact that having utilities increases the value of one's home(s), being too close to them devalues the homes. I'm often tempted when people say stuff like "high efficiency stuff don't make sense/pay for themselves" to tell them "thank you!, we've been trying to find places to put another utility building and we're so glad you don't mind them in your backyard"... but I can't keep a straight face (Toggles, sshh!!!) ;-)
Suppose keeping the "heated dry" on when I use my dishwasher increased my energy costs to one dollar per year, I don't care if it's more or less than that, just let's suppose that. If 30 million homes do that, it'll be 30 million dollars per year just to dry dishes. In the case one needs the dishes right away, it makes sense to turn it on for that cycle, but if you'll be dealing with the unloading the machine a couple of hours later (or, more commonly 8 hours later), it won't make any difference and we could all have used that money for something else -- schools, retirement, not having pollution around our homes. And that's small stuff compared to so much stuff we waste, as opposed to use. I'm the first person to turn on the A/C when I'm home, but I'm then using it instead of wasting it like so many business buildings that run the A/C 24/7 instead of modulating for when more people are there and need it. Or the buildings that keep all lights on all night with no one but security inside. WTF?
My point is, just because I can afford to waste it doesn't mean it's in my best interest to waste or that I should make people who can't afford to move get stuck with annoying utility plants in their neighborhood so I can waste. Using, yes sure, wasting it's kinda dumb, it will come back to bite us in the butt sooner or later.
Just in case it's not clear, I'm with you on the cleaning part -- any dishwasher I want to buy needs to be very good at cleaning (there are no perfect machines at that, no matter how much people insist there are). But I've used machines that were miserly with water and took about one hour per cycle, and machines that used lots of water and time and didn't clean as well. The engineering is important here, not how much time/water it uses.
Also, there are machines that take 2 hours or so to finish the cycle and are a joy to use -- particularly during Thanksgiving, you can start the machine as things go, and they clean so well and are so quiet that even the guests don't notice you are running the d/w while you cook and/or the guests are right there. You finish much sooner than if you had a machine that ran just 30 minutes per cycle but didn't clean well, so now you need to do pots and pans by hand or rewash them before and/or after they are run thru the d/w. And then there are the machines that are so loud that you need to wait for every guest to leave and now you're running 3-4 cycles in the evening, even if the cycles lasted just 20-30 minutes each, it'd be annoying both in all the work and the mess accumulating during the day robbing you of room in the kitchen, but also all that noise. Yuck, thank you but no thanks.