Am Sorry To Hear This
Anything I've purchased off CL or such, sight unseen, is always via PayPal, including my vintage Whirlpool. This way if or when something goes wrong one has options.
Personally think Gansky has the right idea, either that or take a road trip down to Ohio.
Can understand things happen in a person's life, but you don't take $400 from someone and not keep them informed.