Deja Vu
I was not going to post this to the site, but since we're all swapping stories, I guess I will. All of you were very supportive the beginning of the summer when my partner of 11 years, Eric, and I split (his choosing). We reconciled, but, alas, it was not to be.
Two days before Thanksgiving, we ended it. He met someone else, etc., etc. We maintained communication; and although most people would not agree, we are still very close, talk all the time, and wish to continue a deep friendship. We seem to talk on the phone now more than we did as partners.
In the meantime, I have begun "keeping company" with another member of this site, and we look forward to having a very enjoyable Christmas together -- a holiday that I was dreding.
My point being, one never knows what the future holds. I thought my life was pretty well planned. In an instant, it changed. Go with it. Deal with it. Turn the corner and see what's waiting for you. Life is too short.
Jim, all I can say is right now things look horrible. Three or four weeks ago, I felt the same way. Yes, I have my days; but my former partner and I are maintaining a healthy, loving friendship. I'm enjoying the newness of a possible blossoming relationship and looking to the future.
A good friend and fellow court reporter with whom I've worked with for the last 16 years told me, "Leave your behind in your pants." This is words of wisdom from someone who battled cancer twice. She really saw her entire world crumbling. However, you have to look forward!
On the humorous side, if all else fails, listen to Frigilux's words of advice, "Thrown bleach on his clothes."
Email me if you'd like. We'll chat.
Ron
